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ml110
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do you agree with this statement??
" if you're having a party at your house, its open invitation, unless you say otherwise." ??
i just had an argument about this with a friend. we are both going to another friends apartment for NYE party tonight. my friend said that he invited someone to come with him. i just kind of said " oh, did you tell (the host)?" and he goes " no! i don't need to- he never said the party was closed- if you have a party, its open invitation unless you say its not. so i can show up with whoever i want."  
now-- maybe its because this person still lives at home and doesn't understand what its like having your own place.. but to me, i kinda like to know ahead of time who is coming, and how many people... its not like i would turn anybody away, but to me its just common courtesy to let the host know if you're bringing somebody.... its not a bar, its where i live!
what do you guys think?? is it just me, or is this guy kinda rude??
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
I say a party is CLOSED invitation unless otherwise stated.
How rude to assume you can invite someone else without letting the host or hostess know. Uh... unless it's a frat party... 
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| Posted 12/31/07 7:38 PM |
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Kara
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
Posted by ml110
what do you guys think?? is it just me, or is this guy kinda rude??
I think it's more that he's just immature. This mentality is very "college" / "frat party" to me.
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| Posted 12/31/07 7:39 PM |
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ml110
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
Posted by Kara
Posted by ml110
what do you guys think?? is it just me, or is this guy kinda rude??
I think it's more that he's just immature. This mentality is very "college" / "frat party" to me.
yup... that would be him. hes a frat boy who never grew up and is 28 and still lives with mom and dad...
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| Posted 12/31/07 7:40 PM |
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Message edited 3/3/2010 11:08:44 PM.
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| Posted 12/31/07 7:40 PM |
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neenie
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
depends.
Will they be doing keg stands and funnels at said party? 
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| Posted 12/31/07 7:51 PM |
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Stacey1403
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
Posted by neenie
depends.
Will they be doing keg stands and funnels at said party?
pfffttt
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| Posted 12/31/07 7:55 PM |
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
he is wrongo bigtime. That is poor manners. You must let the host/hostess know ahead. He should stay home.
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| Posted 12/31/07 7:59 PM |
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Reese32
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
Posted by Kara
I say a party is CLOSED invitation unless otherwise stated.
I agree with this completely. I'd never bring an extra w/o checking with the host first.
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| Posted 12/31/07 8:27 PM |
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Laura1
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
Unless the host of the party says "Feel free to invite XXXX", I would say its a closed party.
I would expect someone to let me know if they were bringing others.
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| Posted 12/31/07 8:33 PM |
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Karen
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
Posted by Kara
I say a party is CLOSED invitation unless otherwise stated.
How rude to assume you can invite someone else without letting the host or hostess know. Uh... unless it's a frat party...
totally agree with this!
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| Posted 12/31/07 8:38 PM |
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
Posted by Kara
I say a party is CLOSED invitation unless otherwise stated.
How rude to assume you can invite someone else without letting the host or hostess know. Uh... unless it's a frat party...
ITA. Extremelly rude and immature!
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| Posted 12/31/07 9:23 PM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
Even a SO should be run past the host first. If they have food for the 20 people they invite, and 40+ show up, there are going to be some very unhappy people!
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| Posted 1/1/08 10:12 AM |
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saraH
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
Unless its a bf or GF that I know, its rude to bring random people to someone's house.
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| Posted 1/1/08 10:16 AM |
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sunflower13
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
Posted by Kara
I say a party is CLOSED invitation unless otherwise stated.
How rude to assume you can invite someone else without letting the host or hostess know. Uh... unless it's a frat party...
I agree!! If I was the hostess I would probably say yes unless it was a sit down dinner party or something, but you have to ask...that's just being considerate.
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| Posted 1/1/08 10:19 AM |
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
i'm going to get "all ethnic" now...lol
in the hispanic community, IT'S ALWAYS OPEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i don't care for it, but that's the way it is. doesn't matter which country you're from, but if you're hispanic/latino it's an unwritten rule that your guests will bring guests of their own.
this is why i don't host many events.
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| Posted 1/1/08 10:25 AM |
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CAMCaps
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
I would say it is a closed party unless stated otherwise.
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| Posted 1/1/08 10:39 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
he is making excuses for his rude behavior! he has no manners
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| Posted 1/1/08 11:04 AM |
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MrsT
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
Absolutely not. You don't bring random people to someone's home uninvited.
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| Posted 1/1/08 11:08 AM |
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
I agree that it's rude. I've decided not to host events sometimes because of certain people that I don't care for coming, I'd be super POed if someone showed up uninvited. I know that sounds petty, but I am just being honest ;).
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| Posted 1/1/08 2:29 PM |
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evnme
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
Posted by Kara
I say a party is CLOSED invitation unless otherwise stated.
How rude to assume you can invite someone else without letting the host or hostess know. Uh... unless it's a frat party...
ITA
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| Posted 1/1/08 3:15 PM |
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BRod-Cheng
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
Posted by Kara
I say a party is CLOSED invitation unless otherwise stated.
How rude to assume you can invite someone else without letting the host or hostess know. Uh... unless it's a frat party...
My thoughts exactly.
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| Posted 1/1/08 3:52 PM |
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BRod-Cheng
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
Posted by libby2595
i'm going to get "all ethnic" now...lol
in the hispanic community, IT'S ALWAYS OPEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i don't care for it, but that's the way it is. doesn't matter which country you're from, but if you're hispanic/latino it's an unwritten rule that your guests will bring guests of their own.
this is why i don't host many events.
I'm Latina too. My family has done this to my parents - showing up with extra people on some occasions- and it pisses me off  I have actually had to set some of my hillbilly cousins straight on this issue - especially when it came time to my wedding.
Some people think I'm bitchy, but I have no problem being rude to guests who bring crashers.
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| Posted 1/1/08 3:56 PM |
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Nicole728
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
Posted by sunflower13
Posted by Kara
I say a party is CLOSED invitation unless otherwise stated.
How rude to assume you can invite someone else without letting the host or hostess know. Uh... unless it's a frat party...
I agree!! If I was the hostess I would probably say yes unless it was a sit down dinner party or something, but you have to ask...that's just being considerate.
I agree...you need to at least ask!
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| Posted 1/1/08 4:03 PM |
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: do you agree with this statement??
Posted by BRod-Cheng
Posted by libby2595
i'm going to get "all ethnic" now...lol
in the hispanic community, IT'S ALWAYS OPEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i don't care for it, but that's the way it is. doesn't matter which country you're from, but if you're hispanic/latino it's an unwritten rule that your guests will bring guests of their own.
this is why i don't host many events.
I'm Latina too. My family has done this to my parents - showing up with extra people on some occasions- and it pisses me off I have actually had to set some of my hillbilly cousins straight on this issue - especially when it came time to my wedding.
Some people think I'm bitchy, but I have no problem being rude to guests who bring crashers.
ITA with your point. i had to put my foot down for my wedding WITH MY MOTHER!!!
and the "bitchy" title, i have it in my family...lol
glad i'm not alone
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