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Tany
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Do you believe that love is enough?
Meaning in a relationship.
I truly don't think love is enough.
But then what would your breaking point would be to end a relationship?
Message edited 9/14/2005 12:18:33 PM.
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Redhead
You Live, You Learn
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
No......i don't think love is enough
Not even close
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LadyMaravilla
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
No...it would never work based on love alone.
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| Posted 9/14/05 12:17 PM |
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Tany
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
okay agreed, but then can you answer the other question?
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Boobobunny
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
Love is not enough...there is so much else....communication,understanding, support......
the breaking point for me though would be if he cheated on me...or hit me....then I would change the locks on the doors quicker than he could recover from the beating my father would give him.
DH and I discussed this with each other in detail many times before we got married....because we both want it to last.
We agreed that as long as we keep the lines of communication open...and spend quality time with each other, then our relationship will be fine...no matter what obsticals get in the way....with the exception of the cheating or hitting thing....we both agreed that no person deserves such treatment.
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Ambersmom
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
Posted by Boobobunny
Love is not enough...there is so much else....communication,understanding, support......
the breaking point for me though would be if he cheated on me...or hit me....then I would change the locks on the doors quicker than he could recover from the beating my father would give him.
DH and I discussed this with each other in detail many times before we got married....because we both want it to last.
We agreed that as long as we keep the lines of communication open...and spend quality time with each other, then our relationship will be fine...no matter what obsticals get in the way....with the exception of the cheating or hitting thing....we both agreed that no person deserves such treatment.
I have a feeling, Dad wouldn't be the only one handing out the beatings if that was the case Hey, I have a spinoff from the issue from yesterday..
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Tany
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
Posted by Boobobunny
Love is not enough...there is so much else....communication,understanding, support......
the breaking point for me though would be if he cheated on me...or hit me....then I would change the locks on the doors quicker than he could recover from the beating my father would give him.
DH and I discussed this with each other in detail many times before we got married....because we both want it to last.
We agreed that as long as we keep the lines of communication open...and spend quality time with each other, then our relationship will be fine...no matter what obsticals get in the way....with the exception of the cheating or hitting thing....we both agreed that no person deserves such treatment.
Thanks, I appreciate your response.
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GenLCSW
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
I think that love definetly is not enough
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heidla
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
I don't think it is enough, but to name my breaking point is difficult. The only definate breaking point is if my DH ever had an affair. I know that I could not overcome that issue.
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LadyMaravilla
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
IMO the 3 most important things in a relationship are:
Respect
Communication
Emotional Support
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Redhead
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
Posted by Aliasmom
But then what would your breaking point would be to end a relationship?
hmmm....that is difficult to say per say...there are sooo many reasons that could be a breaking point...
infidelity, loss of respect, any kind of abuse...the list goes on
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Boobobunny
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
Posted by ambersmom
Posted by Boobobunny
Love is not enough...there is so much else....communication,understanding, support......
the breaking point for me though would be if he cheated on me...or hit me....then I would change the locks on the doors quicker than he could recover from the beating my father would give him.
DH and I discussed this with each other in detail many times before we got married....because we both want it to last.
We agreed that as long as we keep the lines of communication open...and spend quality time with each other, then our relationship will be fine...no matter what obsticals get in the way....with the exception of the cheating or hitting thing....we both agreed that no person deserves such treatment.
I have a feeling, Dad wouldn't be the only one handing out the beatings if that was the case Hey, I have a spinoff from the issue from yesterday..
well then you know my family to well then....
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butterfly22
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
I feel that love is enough. If you truley love somone, not just care for or "think" it's love...BUT the truest form there is, then you would never do anything to hurt another and you would do whatever in your meams to make the relationship work (communication, compromise, etc.)
I think the problem is many get married before they really know, or have doubts prior. and no, that might have the odds already against you in working.
Just my opinion though.
Edit:
something to keep in mind that love in a relationship is a 2-way street!! One person cannot carry for both.
(Also, people come together because of common interest, hobbies, goals, etc., love for eachother keeps you together in the relationship.)
I would leave if he hit me, cheated, etc, because at that point he does not love me anymore. would it hurt, absolutely, but why waste energy on a person who does not love back
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LFitzy79
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
I've learned, as much as I hate to admit it, that love isn't enough. Breaking points like cheating, and physical abuse are easy to define. It's the other ones that make it hard. How do you walk away when none of the cardinal rules have been broken, if you love someone?
I don't know....
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Tany
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
Posted by LFitzy79
I've learned, as much as I hate to admit it, that love isn't enough. Breaking points like cheating, and physical abuse are easy to define. It's the other ones that make it hard. How do you walk away when none of the cardinal rules have been broken, if you love someone?
I don't know....
Yeah that's the same way that I feel about it.
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
No, but I think it's important. You also need shared goals, mutual respect and a lot of other things. A willingness to acknowledge that being together takes commitment and work.
I don't know what it would take for me to walk away from what I am in now. If he ever hit me, but I really can't see that ever changing.
A (male) co-worker told me when I got married, "Don't try to change him," and I said that I would never want to do that, I want him to stay who he is. I know his interests and beliefs and ideas may change, but I hope the core of who he is stays the same. If it changed and for the negative, I don't know how I would handle it. I hope I do not have to find out.
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
no I dont. I think you also need respect and understanding among other things.
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Shelly
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
No- I don't think love is enough. I agree with what most other people said- you need respect, communication and you also need to want the same things out of life and have some (not all) common interests.
I have a relative whose parents love each other- but have completely different ideas of how they want to live their lives, so they basically just cohabitate. It's living separetly- together. He doesn't support her and her interests and she doesn't do that for him. It's very sad. They love each other, but don't make each other happy. They each get their emotional fulfillment separate from one another. It's very sad.
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Tany
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
Posted by Shellyesq
I have a relative whose parents love each other- but have completely different ideas of how they want to live their lives, so they basically just cohabitate. It's living separetly- together. He doesn't support her and her interests and she doesn't do that for him. It's very sad. They love each other, but don't make each other happy. They each get their emotional fulfillment separate from one another. It's very sad.
wow, that's a really sad situation.
but why continue living like that?
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Shelly
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
She wants to leave, but he begs her to stay. He would rather be like that, than be alone.
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LadyMaravilla
Fall Is Here
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
I have a relative whose parents love each other- but have completely different ideas of how they want to live their lives, so they basically just cohabitate. It's living separetly- together. He doesn't support her and her interests and she doesn't do that for him. It's very sad. They love each other, but don't make each other happy. They each get their emotional fulfillment separate from one another. It's very sad.
Sounds like a couple I know...it really is sad. 
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Tany
Becoming a different woman
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Tania
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
Posted by Shellyesq
She wants to leave, but he begs her to stay. He would rather be like that, than be alone.
wow, that's crazy to me but I can understand it.
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ggt08
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
love is definately not enough. I experienced it first hand. 
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
No, it absolutely is not enough.
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dm24angel
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Re: Do you believe that love is enough?
Love is never enough, There needs to be compassion, understanding, trust and security IMO....Love can be felt , again, IMO, without that....the breaking point in my relationship would be if I didnt feel like I was a better person with my DH...If I ever felt I was sad with my life , angry at who I had become, hurt physically or continually emotionally or a bad person because of him or something he did, I would be out...
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