Re: Do you ever worry that you aren't good enough for your child in some fundemental way that you can't change?

My biggest fear is a money issue. I don't want to rent forever. I want DD and my future kids to have their own house to come home to. I want a swing set in the backyard....I want to pay for college and buy them nice things (not everything, but some stuff).

Re: Do you ever worry that you aren't good enough for your child in some fundemental way that you can't change?

Yes I do that to myself sometimes. But then DH tells me to just quit it. That it's not true, that I am a great mommy.

M, you ARE a great mom. You do what you have to do for your family. You ARE a beautiful person, inside and out.

Re: Do you ever worry that you aren't good enough for your child in some fundemental way that you can't change?

Honestly no.

Re: Do you ever worry that you aren't good enough for your child in some fundemental way that you can't change?

Posted by beautyq115

I just worry that I can't give them enough time since I work and I will always feel guilty about that but there is nothing I can do.I wish I was a SAHM.

Re: Do you ever worry that you aren't good enough for your child in some fundemental way that you can't change?

My biggest fear with my DD is that somehow I will screw up and she will end up insecure - like me.

My biggest fear with DS and DD is that I will make them worriers and not teach them to try and be happy enough....

Re: Do you ever worry that you aren't good enough for your child in some fundemental way that you can't change?

Oh yes, all the time. I feel like I could be SO much better in so many ways but yet I have a hard time changing who I am after all these years.

Re: Do you ever worry that you aren't good enough for your child in some fundemental way that you can't change?

I feel I give DS 1000% all the time but I'm sure he will come to find I'm not perfect and have faults. I think as long as he knows in his heart that I always do what I think is best for him and love him to the umpteenth degree that's all that matters. Plus I think in the areas I lack, DH, BIL, SIL and others make up for it. I'm not an athlete by any definition of the word but DH and BIIL are.

Re: Do you ever worry that you aren't good enough for your child in some fundemental way that you can't change?

Honestly no. I very proud of the person I am and the things I've accomplished. I am secure and really don't worry that I'm not the prettiest mom out there or that my car is not the best. That stuff just doesn't bother me as I know it is superficial and really doesn't matter in the end.

I'm trying my best to teach my children to be their own person, become independant and productive future members of society.

In the same way they will grow up with weaknesses and strengths, I hope they will realize that I also have weaknesses and strengths, but at the end of the day they feel happy about themselves and the environment my DH and I provide for them.

Re: Do you ever worry that you aren't good enough for your child in some fundemental way that you can't change?

I really hadn't ever given it much thought, but one thing I'm struggling with right now is my career. It seemed to have stalled and now I'm a SAHM and I worry that I haven't been successful enough or that I lack the ambition to really do something about it I hope it does not affect DS in some way.

Re: Do you ever worry that you aren't good enough for your child in some fundemental way that you can't change?

Just saw this post and it broke my heart so I hope you don't mind me crashing.

My mother growing up was beautiful. Perfect body, perfect hair, perfect skin, perfect nails and teeth, best clothes and everyone would stare at her and comment how gorgeous she was and ask if she was a model. Well let me tell you, she was the WORST WORST WORST mother and we have zero relationship today. I would have killed for a typical mom, rather then this beauty that cared more about herself than me.

Your kids are LUCKY to have you!!

Re: Do you ever worry that you aren't good enough for your child in some fundemental way that you can't change?

Mostly I worry about being both mother and father to Logan.

Am I balancing his world views enough that he can make informed choices about what he does and doesn't like.

Am I giving him enough of "male" POV?

And balancing moving on and remembering and honoring DH.

And I worry all the time about giving him my temper. I want him not have the crazy short fuse I have...