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curliegirl
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DO you go out more than your friends that have no kids? mini vent
Sometimes I just wanna shake my friends who don't have kids yet and say "Go out!!!! Let's go, cuz when you have kids it's not gonna be that easy to get together, especially if you can't get your butt off the couch as it is!!!!"
Do you sometimes feel like you are more game to do stuff than your childless friends?
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jambalady
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Re: DO you go out more than your friends that have no kids? mini vent
No, all my girlfriends who are childless are already out and about girls.
They've gone on safaris to Africa, hiked the mountains of Peru, sailed the Galapagos, etc., etc.
They go out to dinner, drinks all the time.
In some ways I am so envious of their lives.
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| Posted 1/9/09 1:39 PM |
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curliegirl
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Re: DO you go out more than your friends that have no kids? mini vent
Wow! I wish....I could never get some of my friends do do more than get together on a weekday!!! 
I just feel like we are all getting older, let's not be poodles and sit around letting life pass us by, and when some of my friends have kids, they are in for the shock of their lives....
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| Posted 1/9/09 1:40 PM |
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Eireann
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Re: DO you go out more than your friends that have no kids? mini vent
All of my friends have children, so I can't answer specifically, but I think of it this way...
Once a couple has children, there's absolutely no time to hang around by yourself at home. That's what I'd give my right arm to do. I get babysitters occasionally and go out, but I'm not kidding when I say I have no clue the last time I was alone at home...sigh...
I'd encourage them to stay home!
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| Posted 1/9/09 1:43 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: DO you go out more than your friends that have no kids? mini vent
Half of my friends are single and half are married with kids. Neither really go out much anymore. Not sure why. We do try to do dinners at least once a month I would say - unfortunately I can't remember the last time I was out dancing and getting my groove on!  
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| Posted 1/9/09 1:43 PM |
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jambalady
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Re: DO you go out more than your friends that have no kids? mini vent
We used to go on an all girls vacation once a year.
I really miss that.
The downside to having friends like that is that they COMPLETELY do not relate or understand being a parent and even when I do get the rare opportunity to go out to dinner with them I feel like a total bore who has nothing to talk about but wrestling my son to get his diaper changed (see previous post) and they stare at me blankly trying to act interested.
Those stories just don't cut it with safaris.
The upside is that if I ever get my husband to agree with watching DS for a few days, and I can get rid of my mommy guilt, they would and could drop everything and go on an extended weekend trip with me!!
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| Posted 1/9/09 1:50 PM |
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curliegirl
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Re: DO you go out more than your friends that have no kids? mini vent
HOlly, I guess your friends are the exact opposite of mine!
Can I be friends with your friends?
Not saying I wanna go on safari for a month without my son, but SOMETHING!!!!!!
ANd you are not boring! 
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| Posted 1/9/09 1:52 PM |
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Tine73
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Re: DO you go out more than your friends that have no kids? mini vent
Posted by jambalady
No, all my girlfriends who are childless are already out and about girls.
They've gone on safaris to Africa, hiked the mountains of Peru, sailed the Galapagos, etc., etc.
They go out to dinner, drinks all the time.
In some ways I am so envious of their lives.
ditto!
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| Posted 1/9/09 1:52 PM |
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jambalady
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Re: DO you go out more than your friends that have no kids? mini vent
Posted by curliegirl
HOlly, I guess your friends are the exact opposite of mine!
Can I be friends with your friends?
Not saying I wanna go on safari for a month without my son, but SOMETHING!!!!!!
ANd you are not boring!
absolutely!! They are always looking for more girls to hang with!!
Or better yet, have your friends and my friends hang out and maybe they'll rub off on each other a little.
Make yours a bit more fun, and mine more "parenting" accepting!
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| Posted 1/9/09 1:56 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: DO you go out more than your friends that have no kids? mini vent
With my friends, it is mixed.
I think the thing is that having kids makes you view free time differently.
Now, you want to go out whenever you get the chance because it comes around so infrequently.
For those without kids, they have free time more often so they can go out whenever they want and there is no urgent need to "seize the moment".
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| Posted 1/9/09 2:09 PM |
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JenBenMen
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Re: DO you go out more than your friends that have no kids? mini vent
Most of mine still want to go out--for us getting the sitter is the hard part for weekends
DH and I still see our friends since the other one watches DS--but i would still like to do more couple things out
With #2 on the way I am booking every weekend/weeknight with something!!
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| Posted 1/9/09 2:11 PM |
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Rycois
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Re: DO you go out more than your friends that have no kids? mini vent
Umm, it's me who s*cks. I think I've been out under 5 times since DS was born and 2 of those times was a wedding.
I have a bachelorette party in a couple of weeks - look out world - mama's night on the town!
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| Posted 1/9/09 2:15 PM |
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curliegirl
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Re: DO you go out more than your friends that have no kids? mini vent
Posted by CrankyPants
With my friends, it is mixed.
I think the thing is that having kids makes you view free time differently.
Now, you want to go out whenever you get the chance because it comes around so infrequently.
For those without kids, they have free time more often so they can go out whenever they want and there is no urgent need to "seize the moment".
This is can understand, if they went out at all!!!
I seem to be the one who's always coordinating/hosting/inviting....and trust me, I would love to sit on my couch all day and rarely do, but how many times can you ask someone to go out?
THAT's what gets me, the fact that when there's kids involved it'll all be shoulda/woulda/coulda.
I'm done begging people to do things.....
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| Posted 1/9/09 2:35 PM |
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SuzyQ
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Re: DO you go out more than your friends that have no kids? mini vent
Posted by Eireann
All of my friends have children, so I can't answer specifically, but I think of it this way...
Once a couple has children, there's absolutely no time to hang around by yourself at home. That's what I'd give my right arm to do. I get babysitters occasionally and go out, but I'm not kidding when I say I have no clue the last time I was alone at home...sigh...
I'd encourage them to stay home!
ITA! I keep hoping for DH to take DD out with him on a Saturday for awhile so I can have the house all to myself. Not sure what I'd do, but it would be nice to try to figure that out.
All of my friends have kids. Most don't get out too often. My really close friends all live OOS.  I think that if I lived closer, then we'd do a girls' dinner once every couple of months. We used to do it monthly before I had DD and before we moved away. I cherish those girls only nights out and miss them so much. 
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pixie
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Re: DO you go out more than your friends that have no kids? mini vent
I see them..and then have to go home while they go out on the town Im the first to have a baby so me and DH have to hear about everyone elses night out  I miss it
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missa
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Re: DO you go out more than your friends that have no kids? mini vent
I am the one that needs to get my act together and get out! My friends are mostly married with no kids. They do not get how hard it is to make plans with the baby. Need more friends with babies!!
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