Do you invite the entire preschool class to parties?

We were thinking about Andrew's birthday next yr. We want to start saving now. We would like to have a kids party for his 3rd.

Now, do you invite the entire school class? Can we just invite kids that he gets along with in school?

I can't see being able to afford all of his cousins (which come first) and then the entire class

TIA

Message edited 8/11/2008 11:21:10 AM.

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I am in this predicament right now. Bella is moving up in two weeks and her party is beginning of September, we felt we should invite them and with family and friends included it will be 34 kids!!!

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In my son's class (2 year old class) they invited the whole class .

I guess I'm lucky that both of my boys will be August babies!

Message edited 8/11/2008 11:24:34 AM.

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Last year Sarah's class had about 10 kids. There were parties where all the kids were invited and some that weren't. Honestly, the kids who weren't invited found out since as much as you try to impress on 2 & 3 year olds that you shouldn't talk about it so you don't hurt someone's feelings they still will talk about the party. In some cases I think the moms were more insulted and upset than the kids who weren't invited, but regardless it made for some very awkward moments during pick up and drop off.

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We invited my daughter's whole daycare class. Only about half came.

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We invited all of DS's pre-K class this past b-day. Previous parties were just family. In preschool, his classmates' parties had the entire class invited.

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Oh jeez Good thing we are starting to save up now

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I'm a PK teacher & for the most part kids invite the whole class; however, most of the time the majority of kids don't go.

There were a few instances where kids only invited a few classmates & in that instance they handed out invites outside of school. I didn't see any problems w/ this (especially if it was a girl & only girls were invited, etc.)

Although like a PP said, I think its more so the parents have an issue/feel insulted.

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Fortunately DD's class is only 10 kids so everyone does invite the whole class. However, like the PP said, they do not all end up coming. I have not been to one party where here entire class actually attended.

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We did. That plus family & friends...

This year my dd wanted a spa party -so it was only girls. The BEST part...only 1/2 the amount of presents!!!

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I always invited the whole class (not everyone came), but then again my son's teachers always had the rule, invite one..you have to invite them all. Unless of course you hand out invites outside of school.

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our school has a rule - you invite one - you invite them all...otherwise the kids feel left out.

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No, I never do. Nicholas always has about 30 kids at his party (friends from his pre-school, my friends' kids, etc). If I invited his whole class, we'd have over 40 kids.

The rule in his school is if you want to hand invites out at school, you have to invite the whole class.

If you want to select who to invite, the invitations must be mailed to their home.

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IMO, it depends on how friendly you are with the kids and parents. Maybe its being in the city and because Jordana is new, but I would be SHOCKED if we got an invite to anyone's b-day party.

What I plan to do is a little party in the class, and then a party outside with friends and family.

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Last year I did not invite any kids from Jakes preschool class. I had about 15 kids invited already and that cost me$$$. This year I am not sure yet what I am doing. Its hard - they parties are so expensive - over 400.00 for 12 kids and 16.95 for each additional one.

eta - if I do decide to invite his class I will invite everyone.

Message edited 8/11/2008 1:09:28 PM.

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being a teacher... I see how left out kids feel when the party is being talked about and they werent invited!

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Maybe I just won't invite any of them and just keep it for family and our friends children.

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the past 2 years we have invited the whole class.. for her 3rd birthday 5 kids came.. this year all but one came!!!I have 17 kids at build a bear
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Jillians school has the same rule.. she only had 12 kids in her class so it is really not a big deal

Message edited 8/11/2008 2:29:39 PM.

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Roman's been to several parties of his classmates where not all of the kids were invited. There were a few parties he wasn't invited to also. I don't see anything wrong with it. Personally, if I were to do his party at a party place I wouldn't invite everyone either. If it were a party at home I would. It just gets too expensive and I would think parents would understand.

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I was in this predicament last year.

I wanted to book my sons 3 year old bday party (in November)
by September...I didnt know the moms by name,
and my son really didnt form any close-knit friendships in a couple of weeks of going to school, so I didnt invite any of the kids.
It turns out, the entire year of nursery,
no kids were invited to any bday parties, so I didnt feel so bad!

I think I will start to invite classmates when my son goes to Kindergarten, when he will probably request his friends to be invited!
So IMO you have a couple more years to get away with just family!

Message edited 8/11/2008 7:36:45 PM.

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In my son's school we do not invite the whole class. It just gets too expensive and overwhelming for the kids. I know my ds missed a few parties and that's ok withme. Presents are expensive too. Generally we invite all the same gender classmates and maybe one or two from the opposite gender that our children play with. I know when the kids talk more, we will have to invite all but this works for us now. Occasionally people have invited the whole class, but generally not.

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I invited everyone. I am afraid of hurting anyone's feelings. And their favorite friends change SO fast at that age - the kid they like best the first week is the kid they are mad at the next week.

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I would invite everyone. I think it teaches the kids how to treat one another early on and promotes lessons of loyalty and feelings and treating someone the way you want to be treated, etc... Plus, this is how the kids at this age learn how to make friends. We did and about half of the class is showing up.

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In the past we have invited the whole class....

or the alternative....

which, in our case, just invited the girls...