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Diana1215
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Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
I am guilty of it too.
Some of our delusions:
I want two boys because they will be best friends.
I want two girls because sisters grow up being so close.
I want a girl because she won't get married and leave me, and will spend all holidays with me.
I want a boy because he will take care of me when I'm old and gray.
I want a girl who loves getting mani/pedis with me....lots of shopping sprees.
I want a son to carry on my baseball legacy (Dad's thinking)
ETC.....
I think we have these made up scenarios in our head and that is why hope for a certain sex.
Reality is:
I could have a girl who spends every holiday with her husbands family and leaves me high and dry.
I could have a boy who hates sports and would rather watch the ballet on Sundays instead of football with my husband. 
My sons could grow up at each others throats everyday.
I just think that we all have these delusions - things that we picture, kind of like our picture perfect life, and as we all know - picture perfect isn't always as it seems.
I think that society as a whole has thoughts of what makes up the perfect family (A boy and a girl) and anything other then that is less than perfect.
WOW, that was long
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
Totally!
Although, thankfully, Lily is working into all of my fantasies....she lets me dress her up like a little doll, loves getting her nails done, gets excited about glitter, and loves crafts.
If she ever develops a love of baseball, I'm screwed.
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| Posted 11/1/10 10:14 PM |
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
so true!!!
I just would love a girl at some point, because the relationship I have with my mother is literally the 2nd most important relationship to me in my life. We have such a strong bond and I would love to have that same connection with a daughter....then again, my mom says I gave her a lot of grief...
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| Posted 11/1/10 10:19 PM |
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ChrisDee
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
I think it is all a crap shoot but people have preferences based on their desires and what they believe will stack the odds in their favor for the outcome they want. BUT you never know!
I know that was a run on sentence
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| Posted 11/1/10 10:21 PM |
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
I don't think it's "delusional" D, more of a "relentlessly optimistic" scenario
It's such a happy time when you're expecting # 2,3,4,5 whatever - it's only normal to envision the "BEST" possible outcome, kwim??? Sure we all know families where the girls torture each other, the boys are like Cain & Abel or the siblings in general are not "close". But none of us think that will be "our" families!!!
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| Posted 11/1/10 10:23 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
See, my thought is that if I just keep having boys odds are that ONE of my daughter in laws will love me like her own mother and want to spend every single holiday by my side.
It has to happen....right?!
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| Posted 11/1/10 10:25 PM |
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katiebug
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
I just want a daughter because I want the experience of raising both sexes. I hope to have a daughter some day, for no reason other then I want one.
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| Posted 11/1/10 10:25 PM |
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
Posted by Diana1215
See, my thought is that if I just keep having boys odds are that ONE of my daughter in laws will love me like her own mother and want to spend every single holiday by my side.
It has to happen....right?!
Yes! AND you (hopefully) can miss her teenage years!
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| Posted 11/1/10 10:33 PM |
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
Posted by Diana1215
See, my thought is that if I just keep having boys odds are that ONE of my daughter in laws will love me like her own mother and want to spend every single holiday by my side.
It has to happen....right?!
Oh please, I think you'll have 3 DILs *fighting* to sit next to you at family events and holidays!!!!!! And you can post all the dramz on "Relationships" and we'll talk you off the ledge!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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| Posted 11/1/10 10:36 PM |
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OrganicMama
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
Posted by colette
Posted by Diana1215
See, my thought is that if I just keep having boys odds are that ONE of my daughter in laws will love me like her own mother and want to spend every single holiday by my side.
It has to happen....right?!
Oh please, I think you'll have 3 DILs *fighting* to sit next to you at family events and holidays!!!!!! And you can post all the dramz on "Relationships" and we'll talk you off the ledge!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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| Posted 11/1/10 10:41 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
Posted by colette
Posted by Diana1215
See, my thought is that if I just keep having boys odds are that ONE of my daughter in laws will love me like her own mother and want to spend every single holiday by my side.
It has to happen....right?!
Oh please, I think you'll have 3 DILs *fighting* to sit next to you at family events and holidays!!!!!! And you can post all the dramz on "Relationships" and we'll talk you off the ledge!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You know what, you are totally right! What's not to love?!
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labonnevie
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
very good points!! but i agree with katie, i want a son so i have the experience of raising both sexes, in addition to all that you mentioned!
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| Posted 11/1/10 10:58 PM |
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LJSMommy
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
I agree with you!
DS loves cars and I know this makes DH SO happy as the only sport he loves is drag racing
Not sure I would know how to do the ribbons, glitter, bows & doll thing now that I have a such a "boy"!
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| Posted 11/1/10 11:00 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
Posted by labonnevie
very good points!! but i agree with katie, i want a son so i have the experience of raising both sexes, in addition to all that you mentioned!
I swear, I actually had a friend say to me that she was upset she wasn't having a boy because she wouldn't have anyone to lift boxes for her (she has two girls already and her husband has a horrible back)
I told her when she has boxes that need to be lifted she can call me and I'll send the boys over
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labonnevie
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
Posted by Diana1215
Posted by labonnevie
very good points!! but i agree with katie, i want a son so i have the experience of raising both sexes, in addition to all that you mentioned!
I swear, I actually had a friend say to me that she was upset she wasn't having a boy because she wouldn't have anyone to lift boxes for her (she has two girls already and her husband has a horrible back)
I told her when she has boxes that need to be lifted she can call me and I'll send the boys over
pretty funny, cause i'm a girl, and i've lifted tons of boxes. when mia is old enough i will send her over! talk about delusional!!
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| Posted 11/1/10 11:23 PM |
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
Posted by Diana1215
See, my thought is that if I just keep having boys odds are that ONE of my daughter in laws will love me like her own mother and want to spend every single holiday by my side.
It has to happen....right?!
This is how I am with my MIL. We do everything with DH's family. Every Holiday is there except, Christmas Eve (I host) and we have many Sunday dinner's there.
Before we had 4 kids we would just go there to hang out with his mom and talk. We still do but it's just a little different with all the kids. We kind of just watch them play and talk.
I love my mom to pieces but we are not super close.
I totally get what you're saying in your post.
I would love a close relationship with all my DD's but what is more important to me is their relationship with eachother.
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
I completely agree that we have these expectations when in reality they might not work out this way. I truly HOPE that my daughter is a girly girl and into tutus and ruffles, but she might not be. (Right now she doesn't have a choice LOL) And my husband hopes beyond hope that my son is athletic, but he could get my coordination, which will be very sad
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| Posted 11/2/10 6:33 AM |
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Janice
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
totally agree with you!!
same sex does not equal bffs. could actually turn out to not even talk to each other. I have a lot of siblings, I spent my whole life fighting with the one who is closest in age and same sex.
one of each does not mean a mini me for each parent either.
my mother has 5 girls...guess what? we all live far away from her
she spends holidays with my brother in brooklyn and his girlfriend and the youngest boy travels home from college with his girlfriend.
could you imagine? 5 girls. did not plan it, life and jobs just took us to different places. But those boys are around for holidays
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| Posted 11/2/10 8:15 AM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
Posted by Diana1215
See, my thought is that if I just keep having boys odds are that ONE of my daughter in laws will love me like her own mother and want to spend every single holiday by my side.
It has to happen....right?!
I AM that DIL.
I love my MIL to pieces and would love for them to live next door. They are always welcome in out home. I trust them completely with the kids and I always tell my MIL that she could move in any time. She and I go to movies, watch shows, talk on the phone for hours. The key is that she ALWAYS takes my side when I vent about DH-and when she's over she always gets DH going on his Honey Do list that's been sitting around
For us, holidays are a little different because we live OOS from everyone else but we extend an invitation to anyone who wants to spend the holidays with us and often have both DHs family and mine with us for Christmas and birthdays. When we travel for a holiday, we always rotate and both his parents and mine extend an invitation for the others to join us-and this has happened plenty. My mom will have THanksgiving at her place and DHs mom, dad, brother and grandma will join us (quite a feat since they live upstate) and vice versa.
DH has a twin brother who is no where near getting married (not even dating much) but I find myself actually worried for when the time comes and my inlaws will split time between our group and his-though we will probably figure it out (unless the other DIL is a witch)
As for me-I think the same way as you-I have this picture in my head of what our family will be and what will happen based on my own experiences. It's what made me fear having a boy (my older brother and my mother don't speak). But then I remember how different DH is with his mom and how close they are and I remember that 1-I will not make the same choices that my mother did and 2-this is not the same family I grew up in and the outcome won't be the same.
Our kids will be who they will be, not necessarily who we want them to be
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MarisaK
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
Absolutely - 100%.
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| Posted 11/2/10 8:54 AM |
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
I have to at this because the number 1 reason I wanted a girl is so I can go shopping with her and do all sorts of girly things with her like I did with my mom. Hopefully it turns out like that, she could be a tomboy for all we know!!
BTW I now want a boy because they always love their mothers and I want a mommas boy since my DH has his Daddy's Girl
ETA: ALso, I have a sister but we are 7years apart and did not become close until I got older. Now we are best friends and talk to eachother everyday...So I guess I need to have 2 more kids, a girl and a boy 
Oh crap, and another boy for my nonexistent son
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| Posted 11/2/10 9:09 AM |
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Kelly9904
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Re: Do you think we are delusional re: sex of babies
Posted by Diana1215
See, my thought is that if I just keep having boys odds are that ONE of my daughter in laws will love me like her own mother and want to spend every single holiday by my side.
It has to happen....right?!
This is me and my MIL. My mom died right after we got married, and my MIL and I are really close. I talk to her nearly every day. I go over there with DS when I am bored just to hang out, etc. DH is also very close to his family so we spend alot of time there and are there for christmas eve, christmas dessert, new years eve, new years day.....Other holidays we rotate years.
But in answer to the Original post. Yes, our preconceived notions are crazy really. I mean I know plenty of sisters how cant get along! I know plenty of bro/sis combos who are best friends (my brother and I included and we are 9 years apart age wise). My DH hates most sports, never watches any sports...I didnt get a mani/pedi until my proms because things like that just weren't my thing I would rather be playing sports or doing something with my brothers...
Being close in age/ same gender does not dictate the type of person or the type of relationship you will have with your parents/siblings each child and personality is different!
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