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Oh, Lisa...you made me cry on this dreary day! I am so sorry that you feel that way.....I know your miracle is there and I pray that you will have the strength and fortitude to push through!

A short story: A good friend of mine was 41 and after 15 failed IVFs and countless IUIs, high FSH, screwed up sprem counts, herbs, accupunture, you name it, she and DH were in the final stages of adopting a lilttle girl in the U.S. Two weeks before the adoption, bammmm pregnant with twins! Can you imagine? A year later, pregnant again! 4 children under 4!

I know it is a cliche story but it gives some hope and sometimes hope is what keeps us going!

I wish I could have children the "normal" way..but I guess I am just not normal enough! I am glad to have gone through this journey/battle because I now know just how strong I am and that I am a fighter!

I pray for an end to IF...but until there is an end, we continue to march on and educate those who are just entering this journey and celebrate those who have moved on.

You ladies are my strength and my support! I pray for you nightly!

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I soo-so wish there was SOMETHING (anything) I could do to end this journey for you. It's so unfair

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just felt like bumping this today

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unfortunately I am now relating to this these days.

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Oh Lisa, hope you will feel better soon!

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I'm just so tired of being the vet

tired of seeing all the newbie questions that so many of us have endlessly answered again and again

tired of trying to help others without even a thanks

tired of being told to relax, to pray, to hope, to let go, etc etc etc


Call me a bittcch, but I'm just tired

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I just want to give you hugs and let you know that you have helped me tremendously.

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Lisa.... sending you more

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Posted by LisaW

Posted by rose825

Posted by babyfaith

Posted by LisaW

I'm just so tired of being the vet

tired of seeing all the newbie questions that so many of us have endlessly answered again and again

tired of trying to help others without even a thanks

tired of being told to relax, to pray, to hope, to let go, etc etc etc


Call me a bittcch, but I'm just tired

Don't take this the wrong way but maybe taking a break from this board is a good idea if it is causing you to feel sad and frustrated. I took a few months off from this site (I asked DH to block it on the computer) because I needed a break from constantly thinking and talking about IF issues.

What would be the right way to take that? See thats the thing about being a vet that other people dont get. This is not something you can take a break from. On boards or in life.

For a vet, IF is who you are, it doesnt go away, a break doesnt help, because those 4, 5, 6, 9, even 10 failed IVF cycles are always there. This board has been amazing to us at points, and has gotten us through some hard times. But we were here when it was started, people now have come and go and new people are coming, rightfully so with very new questions.

So for someone who has BTDT way too many times, its hard feeling like you dont fit in, in the one place you did fit in.

Lisa- I dont think you should take a break, maybe we just need more Vets posts.

exactly Pauline, and only a vet really understands it

you can't get away from it...its a part of you now forever and ever

thank you

Message edited 6/5/2008 7:57:49 PM.

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I thought your post earlier was pretty right on. It was the person who told her to take a break from the board, that I was referring to.

I think you certainly have been through enough to understand, not that there is a finite number of time or procedures that makes a vet- I think its a feeling, a state of mind. But for someone new to this, its hard to get how people who have been through so much think and feel. And hopefully they will never need to learn the way you have

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Posted by rose825



I think you certainly have been through enough to understand, not that there is a finite number of time or procedures that makes a vet- I think its a feeling, a state of mind. But for someone new to this, its hard to get how people who have been through so much think and feel. And hopefully they will never need to learn the way you have

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Posted by rose825

I thought your post earlier was pretty right on. It was the person who told her to take a break from the board, that I was referring to.

I think you certainly have been through enough to understand, not that there is a finite number of time or procedures that makes a vet- I think its a feeling, a state of mind. But for someone new to this, its hard to get how people who have been through so much think and feel. And hopefully they will never need to learn the way you have

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Posted by Bxgell2

Posted by rose825

I thought your post earlier was pretty right on. It was the person who told her to take a break from the board, that I was referring to.

I think you certainly have been through enough to understand, not that there is a finite number of time or procedures that makes a vet- I think its a feeling, a state of mind. But for someone new to this, its hard to get how people who have been through so much think and feel. And hopefully they will never need to learn the way you have

I honestly didn't see any harm in her post - she wasn't intending it to be rude, it was merely her way of suggesting a method to feel a little better. While maybe it was aimed improperly, I don't think she's deserving to be crucified.

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Posted by Bxgell2

Posted by rose825

I thought your post earlier was pretty right on. It was the person who told her to take a break from the board, that I was referring to.

I think you certainly have been through enough to understand, not that there is a finite number of time or procedures that makes a vet- I think its a feeling, a state of mind. But for someone new to this, its hard to get how people who have been through so much think and feel. And hopefully they will never need to learn the way you have

I honestly didn't see any harm in her post - she wasn't intending it to be rude, it was merely her way of suggesting a method to feel a little better. While maybe it was aimed improperly, I don't think she's deserving to be crucified.

I hate to see this division that's forming between newbies and vets. We are all in this struggle together, in some form or another, and personally, I prefer to look at that thread of commonality we all have, rather than look to those things that divide us. There's more strength in support that way, which, at the end of the day, is the primary reason why most of us are on here to begin with, no matter whether it's our first month dealing with IF, or 5th year

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This thread is not about being crucified or divided...It is a vent, that I totally understand, about the fact that "The Vets" don't have the hopeful, excited attitude that the newbies have. Nor can we understand it any more.
Those of us who have been dealing with this for years don't get excited about cycles, don't really expect to get a BFP and certainly don't know how to answer the same questions over and over.
While I understand those who are new posting what they don't understand or are looking for more info...I also find it frustrating to see the same things asked, yet I still try to answer them. Mostly because I can remember when this board started and there were only a few people who knew the answers to questions. And seeing all of those people gone is depressing to say the least.

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I am sorry for offending anyone by suggesting taking a break from this board and I am surprised at some of the reactions. IF is all consuming for many of us and sometimes it helps me to try to force myself to focus on other things in my life. All I was saying in my previous post was that it helped me in the past to take a break from this board and the internet entirely for a little while so that I wasn't constantly reminded of and focusing on IF issues. It was just my opinion.