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DmarieK
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Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
I just don't know what to do to make him listen to me...especially when it comes to telling him not to do something. I KNOW he understands me 100%...just doesn't care. It's a joke to him. Our biggest problem now is him throwing stuff. Everything he can get his hands on he throws. He empties out his toys bins toy by toy and just tosses them. He actually threw a car at his older cousin the other day.
He is such a good kid...how can I get him to listen to me when I tell him to stop throwing things?
I've tried...
-taking away whatever he throws
-yelling at him which he laughs at
ignoring him
-i've even lightly smacked his hand or butt...again he laughs at this.
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CrankyPants
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
Have you tried time outs?
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| Posted 4/8/10 1:00 PM |
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DmarieK
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
I would love to but I don't see how it would work for him...unless he was strapped into something which is an idea. He would NEVER sit in a time out spot.
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eroxgirl
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
It's an ongoing battle but I think we're winning it.
Every night during one of Elizabeth's favorite stories we toss in a list of "what not to do" in the middle of it... no hitting, no biting, no kicking, no fighting, always say please and thank you - whatever the most recent issues are. Every.Single.Day. It was necessary because she gets a little crazy sometimes in day care and we needed her to know what was expected of her.
We don't have a huge issue with throwing toys but when she does it, we generally stop everything and make her clean up. She likes to clean so this happens easily but if she resists we'll take the toys away from her and we'll tell her NO THROWING TOYS. And then we'll make her repeat it.
We don't drop the issue until she's done it.
Same with time outs. Time outs are really time and energy consuming processes in our house because DD generally will lose her ish when we put her in time out. We keep putting her back in time out until she stays there for 2 minutes. It drives me crazy when she's put in a little over a minute and then starts up again because in my mind I'm like - you were almost there!!! Now we have to start all over again and *I'M* sick of doing this whole time out thing.  But if it's going to work we have to see it through. After the time out we make her apologize and say "no ______" Usually it's no hitting mommy, but in your case it's no throwing toys.
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| Posted 4/8/10 1:10 PM |
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
I went thru this same thing. I am no help but I will tell you that it will pass. I was doing time outs, he just stood there, facing the wall. It had no effect. Did the pat on the butt or hand, he laughed... Infuriated me but he giggled....
He is approaching 3 now. It was a phase. He is in a different phase now but just letting you know to hold on -- it passes!!!!
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julz33
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
Time outs are the only thing that works for Landon.
I think its normal 2 yr old boy behavior unfortunately.
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eroxgirl
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
Posted by DmarieK
I would love to but I don't see how it would work for him...unless he was strapped into something which is an idea. He would NEVER sit in a time out spot.
A 2 minute time out usually takes about 20 minutes for us. It's SO EXHAUSTING but once it's finally done she really seems to get it.
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| Posted 4/8/10 1:12 PM |
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
Posted by DmarieK
I would love to but I don't see how it would work for him...unless he was strapped into something which is an idea. He would NEVER sit in a time out spot.
he needs to sit there....period...my dd does alot of things, but she never gets out of time outs
is he gets out, you just keep putting him back there...over and over and over
my dd doesn't listen much either so I can symphatize 
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munchkinbugs
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
I am having the same problem. DD ignores me! 
I'm starting to use more timeouts. And when she does listen, I tell her how happy I am that she's being good. She seems to want to please me, sometimes.
I wish I had good advice. It's a struggle for me. 
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CrankyPants
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
Posted by DmarieK
I would love to but I don't see how it would work for him...unless he was strapped into something which is an idea. He would NEVER sit in a time out spot.
DD wouldn't sit for a time out either. I used to hold her for the time out, ignoring her while she sat on my lap facing outward. Now, she stays.
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Diana1215
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
We went through something very very similar with Jack. He is just now starting to listen a very little bit. I don't do timeouts all the time because they weren't very effective for us but I do them if he does something VERY bad.
I ignore him alot when he is misbehaving. They say they feed off of our negative attention and that def. is true for Jack.
I take things away from him.
Some days I just break down and cry
- that usually works with Jack. I am hanging on by a very thin string though so you may not want to go by me
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jambalady
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
Posted by eroxgirl
Posted by DmarieK
I would love to but I don't see how it would work for him...unless he was strapped into something which is an idea. He would NEVER sit in a time out spot.
A 2 minute time out usually takes about 20 minutes for us. It's SO EXHAUSTING but once it's finally done she really seems to get it.
We do the same thing. I will put DS back in time out again and again until he stays still for the full 2 minutes.
Also, if it is a toy he keeps throwing, it gets taken away immediately for the rest of the day.
The key is to be consistent and firm in your temperment. They have to know you mean business.
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
DS is the same age & sounds rambunctious like yours. He won't sit in a "time-out spot" either but I do make him go to the bedroom & close the door. Sometimes he tries to open the door & other times he just sits there. It's really only a min or two.
I think it's working because the other day he said he wanted to turn off the tv & I said no. He then put his finger over the remote & asked "I going in the bedroom?" So he understands that if he does something, he will have to take a breather.
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DmarieK
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
I wish I would have started time outs before Xav was born. My problem now is I would have to forcibly hold him there or have something to restrain him in. Either way he would be screaming i'm sure. Xav pretty much needs to be held at all times while he's awake so I don't know how I would do it with having to hold him to. If I put him down to do it I would have 2 screaming kids. If I did it while he was asleep Rylan would wake him up with his yelling. I lose either way...lol.
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DmarieK
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
Posted by sweetie
I think it's working because the other day he said he wanted to turn off the tv & I said no. He then put his finger over the remote & asked "I going in the bedroom?" So he understands that if he does something, he will have to take a breather.
Maybe I can try taking away Nick Jr...that's an idea.
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Diana1215
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
Posted by DmarieK
I wish I would have started time outs before Xav was born. My problem now is I would have to forcibly hold him there or have something to restrain him in. Either way he would be screaming i'm sure. Xav pretty much needs to be held at all times while he's awake so I don't know how I would do it with having to hold him to. If I put him down to do it I would have 2 screaming kids. If I did it while he was asleep Rylan would wake him up with his yelling. I lose either way...lol.
There were a few times were poor Tyler had to scream so that I could get Jack to stay in a timeout. Honestly, it was a nightmare for all involved and didn't really work all that great so I don't know that I would do it if that's the case
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DmarieK
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
Posted by jambalady
Also, if it is a toy he keeps throwing, it gets taken away immediately for the rest of the day.
It's literally EVERY toy in his toy storage...at least everything small enough for him to throw. Right now I have a bin of balls and a bin of cars sitting on top of the armoire because he started throwing them.
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CrankyPants
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
Posted by DmarieK
Posted by sweetie
I think it's working because the other day he said he wanted to turn off the tv & I said no. He then put his finger over the remote & asked "I going in the bedroom?" So he understands that if he does something, he will have to take a breather.
Maybe I can try taking away Nick Jr...that's an idea.
See, but that punishes you as well
I do this too-I threaten to turn her show off if she is watching something.
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| Posted 4/8/10 1:30 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
please don't get mad at me for saying this...but when mine was 2, he would act like that when he was bored. i dreaded rainy days, once we were indoors and knew we were staying, this little monster would come out.
i don't believe in timeout.
if you pulled out play dough or something new he hasn't seen yet that day, would he stop?
i know i can't handle being bored, i act out too.
sometimes i throw him in the tub with different toys or a water gun..it buys us 25 minutes and he resets.
good luck!
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MST9106
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
We either distract him with something else or he gets time out if he continues to do something he was told not to do. For the most part though, when I get down to his eye level I try to calmly explain to him not to do something, he really listens. I found that yelling and snapping at him makes things worst. Also, sometimes, you just have to pick your battles.
ETA: Honestly though, in your case it seems like Rylan is just doing it for attention or out of boredom...and rightfully so. Do you give him some undivided attention? Do you do an activity just for him? I know it must be hard with two little ones!
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
We started timeouts early at like 15/16 months because she went through biting/hitting phase then. It took a while for her to understand....and we had to constantly put her back in there until she sat for the 2 mins...but I have to say no she understands. When she does something bad we tell her to go to timeout and she goes right to her timeout spot and sits there.
Consistency is key. If once we don't give consequences then things get worse and worse.
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| Posted 4/8/10 1:32 PM |
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DmarieK
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
Posted by CrankyPants
Maybe I can try taking away Nick Jr...that's an idea.
See, but that punishes you as well
I do this too-I threaten to turn her show off if she is watching something.
You are 100% right
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| Posted 4/8/10 1:33 PM |
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
Posted by DmarieK
I wish I would have started time outs before Xav was born. My problem now is I would have to forcibly hold him there or have something to restrain him in. Either way he would be screaming i'm sure. Xav pretty much needs to be held at all times while he's awake so I don't know how I would do it with having to hold him to. If I put him down to do it I would have 2 screaming kids. If I did it while he was asleep Rylan would wake him up with his yelling. I lose either way...lol.
When he won't stay in his room, I will sometimes lock the door.
Distracting him with another activity like Janice said also works
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
I went through this with DS at the same age and I just kept taking away what ever he threw, but I made sure to put the toy in a spot where he saw it and then I just ignored him because that resulted in a tantrum. It took about 4-5 months for that phase to end.
I know it doesn't seem like he doesn't get it when you take it away but he does.
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Kelly9904
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Re: Does anyone have a 2 year old that doesn't listen for sh*t?
Posted by julz33
Time outs are the only thing that works for Landon.
I think its normal 2 yr old boy behavior unfortunately.
Agreed. I send DS to his room. He understands this and goes to his room crying and closes the door. I usually stand outside the door to ensure he stays there.
I am also finding now that DS hates to disappoint us or be told he is a bad boy. So I make a point to tell him how upset I am and how he is being a bad boy.
The big thing is to be stern and follow through on whatever you threaten. I have thrown toys in the garbage if DS isnt listening.
He laughs at DH because he knows DH isnt going to follow through.
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