does anyone have family who was offended at not being told early?

I know that most people would say that your family is happy no matter when they are told. But I know that some people will be offended at being told late.

Re: does anyone have family who was offended at not being told early?

Yeah my mother. However if you have ever read any posts about my mother there is no pleasing her so I did not let it bother me.

Everyone else was too excited to care how far along I was when we told them.

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Re: does anyone have family who was offended at not being told early?

Who gives a hoot? Its YOUR news, YOUR baby, and no one has the right to decide for you when you get to share.

I am 13+ weeks PG with my 3rd baby (see my *still in the closet* post). and we have told NO ONE in our families.

I do not care if they get mad. They have ZERO right to be.


and congrats!

Re: does anyone have family who was offended at not being told early?

I think my mom will be hurt if I don't tell her before I tell others. And I want to tell her - soon. But DH doesn't want us to share the news yet. Not to hijack your post - but what do you do when you don't agree on this?

I'm not asking to "announce" now - our plan is to tell our immediate family (parents and siblings) at almost 9 wks and extended family on Easter (about 11wks). I want to tell my mom this weekend - I'll be almost 7 wks.

Re: does anyone have family who was offended at not being told early?

My Mom was a bit upset that we didn't tell her until 8 weeks. We were going to wait until 12 weeks but decided to tell immediate family after second Dr. appt when bloodwork all came back ok and baby showed growth right on target.

We insisted that no one else be told and by 10 weeks my Mom leaked it to several friends, 11 weeks my Uncle and his family and then to some coworkers. By the time we got to 12 weeks she had almost no one left to tell so I'm glad we waited so it was kept quiet as long as it could be. I knew she'd be too excited to contain it and I think she's gotten over finding out at 8 weeks.

Everyone was a bit miffed when they found out we knew at Christmas and didn't share then but they got over it very quickly.

With our next I think we'll wait until 12 weeks to tell anyone.

Re: does anyone have family who was offended at not being told early?

My mom was upset that we didn't tell her earlier - I waited until about 13 weeks. Only a few people knew before that and that's only because they guessed and I couldn't lie.

Re: does anyone have family who was offended at not being told early?

My mom was hurt that I waited until I was 10 weeks to tell her. She's pretty sensitive about stuff like that but I expalined to her that I wanted to make sure everything was ok before we told. Plus, once you tell your mother, the rest of the world will know so do what YOU feel comfortable with

Re: does anyone have family who was offended at not being told early?

I think our families would have been hurt if we hadn't told them earlier. (we told them at 5 weeks)
It's such happy news and they want to be able to enjoy it for as long as they can. And, in the case that something bad does happen, I'd personally want my family there to support me and help me through it.
But everyone (and every famliy) is different.