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jacksmom09
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Facebook friend question
Hello!
I have a friend on Facebook that I have had a shaky history with and know and see in real life. She lives 5 minutes away and my DH and her DH see each other often.
She has a history of being really rude to me and recently did something that was really hurtful to me. I would really like to take her off my Facebook because I don't want her to see my posts anymore, but we have many mutual friends. I wanted to say something about the incident when it happened, but I didn't. I am still really upset at how I was treated.
I was thinking of blocking/deleting her and anyone I have in common with her, but I think people will realize they have been blocked bc all of your message history gets erased.
I don't want to see this person or have contact with her anymore. Short of me making a new profile, which would cause other issues and confusion, my question is would you just delete this person off facebook? Delete all the friends we have in common, Or block and delete? Or is there something else I don't know about? I really don't want this person seeing my posts anymore.
TIA!
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Posted 9/27/16 2:02 PM  |
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Re: Facebook friend question
There is a way to make lists, and then share things with only that list. I do think it's a little complicated. I have a similar issue and I feel like I need to do this myself.
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| Posted 9/27/16 2:03 PM |
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JDubs
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Re: Facebook friend question
If you are done with her and don't want her seeing your stuff then just delete/block her.
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| Posted 9/27/16 2:05 PM |
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jacksmom09
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Re: Facebook friend question
Posted by JDubs
If you are done with her and don't want her seeing your stuff then just delete/block her.
thanks for the replies! I was thinking of doing this, but was afraid I would hurt other people's feelings that I do like if they realized they have been blocked and deleted. UGH.
Thing is, I don't think she even realizes she hurt my feelings which is a whole other issue. :(
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| Posted 9/27/16 2:08 PM |
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KarenK122
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Facebook friend question
Just block her. She won't be able to see any posts you make on your friends wall or their comments on yours.
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| Posted 9/27/16 2:09 PM |
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blu6385
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Re: Facebook friend question
Posted by JDubs
If you are done with her and don't want her seeing your stuff then just delete/block her.
I agree with this but if you don't want to do that you can add her to a restricted list and then when you post stuff she wont be able to see any of the new stuff
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| Posted 9/27/16 2:09 PM |
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blu6385
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Re: Facebook friend question
Posted by jacksmom09
Posted by JDubs
If you are done with her and don't want her seeing your stuff then just delete/block her.
thanks for the replies! I was thinking of doing this, but was afraid I would hurt other people's feelings that I do like if they realized they have been blocked and deleted. UGH.
Thing is, I don't think she even realizes she hurt my feelings which is a whole other issue. :(
why do you have to block delete mutual friends is it because you don't want them to tell her what you are posting?
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| Posted 9/27/16 2:10 PM |
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chilltocam
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Re: Facebook friend question
Posted by KarenK122
Just block her. She won't be able to see any posts you make on your friends wall or their comments on yours.
Do this. You don't have to delete/block everyone she is connected to. Just block her and she won't see anything you post
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| Posted 9/27/16 2:12 PM |
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jacksmom09
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Re: Facebook friend question
Posted by blu6385
Posted by jacksmom09
Posted by JDubs
If you are done with her and don't want her seeing your stuff then just delete/block her.
thanks for the replies! I was thinking of doing this, but was afraid I would hurt other people's feelings that I do like if they realized they have been blocked and deleted. UGH.
Thing is, I don't think she even realizes she hurt my feelings which is a whole other issue. :(
why do you have to block delete mutual friends is it because you don't want them to tell her what you are posting?
Thanks. Yes, I am friends with her family and some outside friends, so I think it may come up or she may then realized she's the only one who has been blocked. I don't think she really gets that how she acts is rude. I just didn't want to create anymore drama since I may see some of these people around too-LOL. Maybe I am reading too much into it.
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| Posted 9/27/16 2:13 PM |
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Momma2015
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Re: Facebook friend question
Posted by jacksmom09
Thing is, I don't think she even realizes she hurt my feelings which is a whole other issue. :(
Well, I think this may be the bigger issue. I know you said some time has passed but if it's still bugging you, say something to her!
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| Posted 9/27/16 2:37 PM |
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jacksmom09
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Re: Facebook friend question
Posted by Momma2015
Posted by jacksmom09
Thing is, I don't think she even realizes she hurt my feelings which is a whole other issue. :(
Well, I think this may be the bigger issue. I know you said some time has passed but if it's still bugging you, say something to her!
Thank you for your response! I have been having ongoing issues with this same person for a long time, but b/c of my husband I have been hesitant. And most of the time, she doesn't reply to my messages and I don't see her THAT often. So, I was just going to try and move on. Maybe I need more time to think on it.
Thanks again!
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| Posted 9/27/16 2:49 PM |
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BargainMama
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Facebook friend question
You can still remain friends with her on FB but put her on "Restricted" which means she will see nothing you post at all.
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| Posted 9/27/16 3:02 PM |
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Mushesgirl
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Re: Facebook friend question
she sounds like a real pos. I vote block/delete
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| Posted 9/27/16 4:08 PM |
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Funkybutt
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Facebook friend question
Are you friendly with the mutual friends or just know them through her? If you still want to remain friendly with them but not let them see everything you do - unfriend and block the mean person, then put the mutual friends in a separate list so you can allow them to see some of your stuff but not everything.
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| Posted 9/27/16 7:19 PM |
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gina409
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Re: Facebook friend question
Posted by BargainMama
You can still remain friends with her on FB but put her on "Restricted" which means she will see nothing you post at all.
This
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| Posted 9/27/16 7:49 PM |
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jacksmom09
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Re: Facebook friend question
Thanks again, everyone for the responses and advice.
I decided to say something about what was bothering me and I really feel much better that I got it off my shoulders. I know there won't be a friendship there, but at least I said how I felt and I am not holding it in!
I was disappointed at this person's response and truly think it the rude behavior will continue, so I haven't decided yet if I will put her in a group or just delete her.
But, thanks for all the advice!!! :)
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| Posted 9/28/16 9:01 AM |
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jacksmom09
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Re: Facebook friend question
Posted by Funkybutt
Are you friendly with the mutual friends or just know them through her? If you still want to remain friendly with them but not let them see everything you do - unfriend and block the mean person, then put the mutual friends in a separate list so you can allow them to see some of your stuff but not everything.
One of the people we have as a mutual friend I am friendly with and see on a somewhat regular basis. I do really like this person and would hate to lose touch.
I think I am going to delete the mean person!
thanks again!!
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JDubs
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Re: Facebook friend question
Posted by jacksmom09
Thanks again, everyone for the responses and advice.
I decided to say something about what was bothering me and I really feel much better that I got it off my shoulders. I know there won't be a friendship there, but at least I said how I felt and I am not holding it in!
I was disappointed at this person's response and truly think it the rude behavior will continue, so I haven't decided yet if I will put her in a group or just delete her.
But, thanks for all the advice!!! :)
I am glad that you said something to her. However if she had a negative response after you brought it up, at least she won't be surprised now if you choose to go ahead and block her.
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jacksmom09
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Re: Facebook friend question
Posted by JDubs
Posted by jacksmom09
Thanks again, everyone for the responses and advice.
I decided to say something about what was bothering me and I really feel much better that I got it off my shoulders. I know there won't be a friendship there, but at least I said how I felt and I am not holding it in!
I was disappointed at this person's response and truly think it the rude behavior will continue, so I haven't decided yet if I will put her in a group or just delete her.
But, thanks for all the advice!!! :)
I am glad that you said something to her. However if she had a negative response after you brought it up, at least she won't be surprised now if you choose to go ahead and block her.
Thank you for saying that! I am normally a quiet person and don't normally stick up for myself or tell someone how I feel ( if it's negative) LOL. I am learning that I need to do that in order to make myself feel better! This person back pedaled and sounded sarcastic. The only issue is I am also friends with some of her family which is making my decision tricky! LOL
Thanks again!! 
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