Family Related Question but not kid related. Need Opinions

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LSP2005
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Re: Family Related Question but not kid related. Need Opinions

I would be upfront with the family about the finances and say you can't pay for the batch party or shower but that you could do a less expensive dress. I kave seen tux rentals for $49. A dress, yes that will cost you, but I would think you would want to have something nice to waer - after all it is his family. The reprecussions from bowing out entirely is not worth it IMO.

Posted 1/22/09 10:56 AM

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Re: Family Related Question but not kid related. Need Opinions

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I would decline the invite to be in both of his siters if you are not close with them and if DH agrees. Does he agree? Would you still go, but just not be in the BP?

We would be at the wedding for sure just not be in the BP. It is SO costly and honestly if we were closer with them it would be one thing but to spend so much money when you hardly speak or see each other just seems crazy to me. DH said we'll talk about it.

Honeslty, I see your point and tend to agree with you, but in the end I would probably wind up doing whatever DH thinks is the right thing. It is his family

i agree with Dina... if he is okay with it, i would decline to be in the BPs, but definitely try not to miss the weddings

We would never miss the weddings.

Posted 1/22/09 10:58 AM

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Re: Family Related Question but not kid related. Need Opinions

Posted by dpli

I think backing out after you agreed to be in the wedding, especially since it is family, can lead to a lot of problems down the road.

This is the part that sticks out to me. When you agreed jsut a few months about you knew the expense and you knew wha tyour monthly normal bills were like.

I would be upset and hurt if you accepted and then 2 months later declined. And how would his parents respond? I know this type of thing can cause a rift that goes further than just those directly affected.

Posted 1/22/09 12:08 PM

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