Feeling a little sad over DS's 1st bday...what would you do?

As many of you already know, i am in VA and family in NY/NJ.

I don't know if i have the energy to plan another party in NY like I did for his christening, and all family surely won't be able to come here.

Would it be bad if I just invited my immediate family and DH's to come to VA and bring them out to dinner followed by cake at my place?

It's so hard. I have 2 bed apartment and while its not tiny, I can't host a large party. ALL family would be 70 people minimum. I just can't do it.

I feel badly about this. I know he won't care, and I'm not one for expensive 1st bdays but I still want it to be special.

I figured we could go to this great mexican place by us (we all love it) and then cake and coffee at my place.

What do you think?

Re: Feeling a little sad over DS's 1st bday...what would you do?

Your plan sounds great to me! It'll be small but it'll still be special. Get lots of balloons and a fun cake and take lots of pictures.

I'm in your same situation - our family is in a different state. We don't know if we'll be going to them for her bday or meeting at a new location and making a vacation out of it. (I'm sorta tired of using my vacation time to fly back to the same boring state.) Our place is out of the question. It's too small. I feel bad she won't have a shindig with all the family but we'll make it special wherever it is.

Re: Feeling a little sad over DS's 1st bday...what would you do?

I think your idea for dinner at the Mexican place and then cake is a great one! As long as you and DH and DS spend the day together celebrating, that is what is most important, IMO.