Finding out if it's a boy or girl

when you get PG are you going to?

I want to but DH and his family are adamantly against it. Their reasoning is that it's the last true surprise in this world and that it would be ruined if you knew.

I, on the otherhand, want to spend my time planning and daydreaming and preparing for my boy/girl. my pink or blue nursery and all the cute clothes, etc. I can't bear the thought of yellow and green clothes or scrambling the last minute to buy stuff.

we argue about this all the time since ttc. but the truth is, he can't stop me from finding out, right?

what do you plan on doing?

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No. Dh says absolutely not. I wouldn't mind though.

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I will. I think the kind of reasoning that its the only surprise is kind of silly. Basically its deciding when to have the surprise-at 16 or so weeks or at 40 weeks. It's STILL a surprise. If your DH didn't want to know you could always find out privately(with him knowing that you will find out) and not tell him-although I think it would be hard not to slip up

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I don't want to. We have twin genes running rampant in our family though.. so if we get twins (we probably won't, but if...) we will find out then. Otherwise I want to be surprised.

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Didn't the first time and probably won't the second.
I loved when everyone was guessing what it would be and I loved that my DH came out and told everyone in the waiting room.

I may change my mind when we have #2 (doubt it though)

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I def. have to find out!!!!!! DH doesn't care either way. No one can stop you from finding out. They can tell you and no one else has to know of you don't say anything. The problem is hiding all the stuff you'll buy lololol
XOXOXO
Kitty

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when i had my son i did, and hopefully i will get pg again and i will again.
i dont get the surprise thing. ok i know the sex, but to me so what. i have no idea what my baby was going to look like! with my son i couldnt wait to see him!

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DH and I both want to know. I am not a surprise kind of person. I need to be prepared

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I am not TTC yet, but we will be in the same situation. I want to find out and DH is adamantly opposed to it. The compromise that I proposed is that we find out for the first, but the second will be surprise. I think he will go for that!

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When the time comes we both want to be surprised, so we will not be finding out!

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We don't want to know. When the time comes, I want it to be a surprise!! I say this now that I am not pregnant...we will see what happens then

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I'm too nosey not to find out. I want to know what my first will be now and I'm not even TTC yet.......

So yes, we will find out. I probably won't be able to find out soon enough. LOL

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I did with my DS and I will again when I get pg.

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Posted by jambalady

when you get PG are you going to?

I want to but DH and his family are adamantly against it. Their reasoning is that it's the last true surprise in this world and that it would be ruined if you knew.

I, on the otherhand, want to spend my time planning and daydreaming and preparing for my boy/girl. my pink or blue nursery and all the cute clothes, etc. I can't bear the thought of yellow and green clothes or scrambling the last minute to buy stuff.

we argue about this all the time since ttc. but the truth is, he can't stop me from finding out, right?

what do you plan on doing?

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Dh wants it to be a surprise. i dont know yet.

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Although I haven't really put too much thought into it I think I would want to know. I know my DH wouldn't really mind it either way.

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We don't want to know. But, who knows things may change when we get to that point.

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Me: Yes, Im to anal NOT to.
DH: on the fence.

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We want to know. Then we can prepare. It will still be a surprise when we find out, just a little earlier :)

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We are not finding out b/c we would like it to be a surprise!

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We always said we would not find out , but since we've started TTC I am slowly changing my mind. I think I want to know. I haven't told DH that yet though. Maybe I'll mention it tonight !

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i don't think i could wait 9 months to find out. DH will probably just say "whatever makes you happy."

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I will find out. DH is waivering.

I look at it this way...I have already had enough unhappy surprises. Not getting PG right away, needing surgery to get pregnant and a chemical pregnancy was all the surprise I could handle. I plan on finding out and frankly, I couldnt give a rat's patootie who likes it or not. If anything, the "surprise" will be the names we choose for our children. NOBODY will know those except for DH and I. The last thing I'll need is aggravation from anyone. There is always someone with something to say - probably the same people who will insist that I breastfeed and use cloth diapers.