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LadyMaravilla
Fall Is Here
Member since 5/05 12023 total posts
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Sonia
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For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
I stood up for each and every one of you last night. My MIL asked DH & I to come over because she wanted to speak to us about why we've been keeping a distance. In reality why we're having a life. Well, I told her exactly how I felt & the things she says & does to annoy me. The way she call us 24 times a day to ask what her son had for lunch, dinner & supper. I expressed my feelings toward her obsessive, controlling & possessive relationship with her son. She was speechless. I finally let all my feelings out & in a tactful & very mature way addressed all the issues. The fact that she never called me or Marissa when her son wasn't home because in reality all she really cares about is her son. In the end I told her I wanted our relationship to remain the way it is now....DISTANT!!! To each his own. I feel so relieved. I'm sooo HAPPY!!!!!!!! 
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Shorty
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Member since 5/05 30390 total posts
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
 
Good for you!
What did DH say?
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| Posted 8/1/06 9:37 AM |
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AimeeE2006
Time flies!
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Aimee
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
Wow! Good for you!
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| Posted 8/1/06 9:38 AM |
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nrthshgrl
It goes fast. Pay attention.
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
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| Posted 8/1/06 9:39 AM |
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LadyMaravilla
Fall Is Here
Member since 5/05 12023 total posts
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Sonia
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
Posted by Shorty
Good for you!
What did DH say?
well, while we were there he told her that she didn't take me into consideration. That I was wife & I came first. That's all. He just sat beside me & said nothing, just listened.
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| Posted 8/1/06 9:39 AM |
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LadyMaravilla
Fall Is Here
Member since 5/05 12023 total posts
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Sonia
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
after it was all set & done I was like I could not believe it. I took her cr@p for almost 8 years. I guess I finally grew some brass ones. 
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| Posted 8/1/06 9:40 AM |
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Stacey1403
Where it all began....
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
What did she say to all that??
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| Posted 8/1/06 9:42 AM |
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lorich
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
ahhh.... That's got to feel good!
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| Posted 8/1/06 9:43 AM |
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BobBsWife
No more school= too much time!
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Tracy
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
Good for you!!
I am trying to distance myself also right now!!
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| Posted 8/1/06 9:46 AM |
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Shorty
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
Posted by LadyLainez
well, while we were there he told her that she didn't take me into consideration. That I was wife & I came first. That's all. He just sat beside me & said nothing, just listened.
perfect!!!
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| Posted 8/1/06 9:48 AM |
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Summer05
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LIBOUND
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
You go mama .
I'm one of the lucky ones...I love my MIL and I (believe stongly) she loves me, too. But if I were in your situation, I don't think I could have held it in as long as you did, so be proud (of you big brass ones  )
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| Posted 8/1/06 9:50 AM |
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MrsMerlot
Unconditional Love
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Chrissy
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
That is an incredible accomplishment, and I'm sure a huge relief to finally let it out...Kudos!
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| Posted 8/1/06 9:51 AM |
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LadyMaravilla
Fall Is Here
Member since 5/05 12023 total posts
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Sonia
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
Posted by Stacey1403
What did she say to all that??
well, there was more I said but too long to get into. To many things she said she had no idea why I felt offended. She didn't admitt to any of it. But I don't care. The cat is out of the bag and that's all that matters.
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| Posted 8/1/06 9:52 AM |
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Snozberry
I might steal your diamonds
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
Kudos times one million to you.
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| Posted 8/1/06 9:55 AM |
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baghag
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
SONIA! I am so proud and happy for you!
Some brass ones is right! 
In all seriousness, I'm glad that weight is off your chest. I also hope that MIL makes an effort to change her ways.
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| Posted 8/1/06 9:58 AM |
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LadyMaravilla
Fall Is Here
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Sonia
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
Posted by ChrissynRicky
That is an incredible accomplishment, and I'm sure a huge relief to finally let it out...Kudos!
Yes, I feel so relieved. Like something was lifted of my shoulders. I told her & my FIL that I didn't hate them or feel angry towards them, that all I needed was distance for things to remain sane between us. My FIL was perfectly fine and said he understood.
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| Posted 8/1/06 9:58 AM |
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Stacey1403
Where it all began....
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
Posted by LadyLainez
Posted by Stacey1403
What did she say to all that??
well, there was more I said but too long to get into. To many things she said she had no idea why I felt offended. She didn't admitt to any of it. But I don't care. The cat is out of the bag and that's all that matters.
Great for you!!!!!
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| Posted 8/1/06 10:02 AM |
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Melbernai
I am a lucky Momma!
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Melissa
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PrincessP
Big sister!!!!!!!!!!
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
was she okay with you saying you pretty much want a distant relationship?
I got into it a while back with mine and it sooooooo didnt work out. Alot of hurt feelings. But I think if what younare trying to accomplish is a limited relationship then it worked out great! I had to do the same recently bc now I am preggo and his dad would ask VERY intrusive questions about weight gain, baby naming etc... I couldnt imagine him at the hospital opening his mouth the way he does. SO like you I Opened my mouth and said I didnt want to maintain a close relationship anymore. P.S. Ive been so much happier!
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| Posted 8/1/06 10:07 AM |
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LadyMaravilla
Fall Is Here
Member since 5/05 12023 total posts
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Sonia
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
Posted by PrincessP
was she okay with you saying you pretty much want a distant relationship?
I got into it a while back with mine and it sooooooo didnt work out. Alot of hurt feelings. But I think if what younare trying to accomplish is a limited relationship then it worked out great! I had to do the same recently bc now I am preggo and his dad would ask VERY intrusive questions about weight gain, baby naming etc... I couldnt imagine him at the hospital opening his mouth the way he does. SO like you I Opened my mouth and said I didnt want to maintain a close relationship anymore. P.S. Ive been so much happier!
Well, weather she was ok with it or not I really don't care. She will never be ok with it I think. I have been keeping my distance from her & that is what I plan on doing still. She just said ok. She was furious, her face was priceless.
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| Posted 8/1/06 10:09 AM |
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PrincessP
Big sister!!!!!!!!!!
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
Posted by LadyLainez
Posted by PrincessP
was she okay with you saying you pretty much want a distant relationship?
I got into it a while back with mine and it sooooooo didnt work out. Alot of hurt feelings. But I think if what younare trying to accomplish is a limited relationship then it worked out great! I had to do the same recently bc now I am preggo and his dad would ask VERY intrusive questions about weight gain, baby naming etc... I couldnt imagine him at the hospital opening his mouth the way he does. SO like you I Opened my mouth and said I didnt want to maintain a close relationship anymore. P.S. Ive been so much happier!
Well, weather she was ok with it or not I really don't care. She will never be ok with it I think. I have been keeping my distance from her & that is what I plan on doing still. She just said ok. She was furious, her face was priceless.
Its good that you can handle it. I cant handle that I am preggo and they dont give a sh#t. I was raised in such a close family and this whole distance thing is bizarre. BUT I do think you need to pick your battles ESPECIALLY when they are making you miserable like mine make me.
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| Posted 8/1/06 10:13 AM |
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Baboots
I miss you grandma
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
Yah, Good for you.
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| Posted 8/1/06 10:14 AM |
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2girls4now
Proud Mommy
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Kerri
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
:applause
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steph4777
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Re: For ALL My Girls Who Have MIL Issues
Go Sonia!
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