For all of the moms that said they are done

having kids....how did you know that you were done having kids.

For instance, did you always know you wanted 1 child, 2 children, etc.

Or were there other circumstances?

Message edited 9/24/2007 1:13:37 PM.

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I always wanted 3 kids but it seems that my body has other ideas so look slike its going to be 2 children. My family would kill me if I got pregnant again.

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I'm not done yet, but I've always wanted 3. I have a feeling we'll be done after 2 though. DD was alot tougher than I expected. She took a very long time to sleep through the night and we're still having major napping issues. I was hoping to be ready for #2 sooner, but just really started considering trying. We'll see how #2 goes.

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We really want 3, but w/ my age (37) & DD only 2 months, it looks like we may have to settle for 2. We'll see what happens when the time comes. Thankfully DD is an angel baby.

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I say I'm done because DH says he's done!! I would love 1 more, but DH is absolutely set that our family is complete. I am going to try and convince him once more next spring, and I will be 36 then, so that will be my last push, but I doubt he will budge.

I come from a family of 6 kids, so I would have loved a large family, but within our realistic terms. I always saw myself with 3 or 4, so to have to stop at 2 is a little depressing for me.

Message edited 9/24/2007 1:36:22 PM.

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We are done at 2. They are a handful and I also work fulltime so it is a balancing act.
If I really wanted a third, dh would have gone along but since my dh got a snip snip a couple months ago, we are definately done!

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I would love to have a third but I dont think its in the cards. I work fulltime and $ is always a concern. I have 2 healthys. I may leave it at that.

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I only wanted two children.

Since I got a two for one special, I am not sure about a third. If I had to absolutely decide right now, I would say I am done. My pregnancy was very rough, I have one child with a heart defect that was repaired but needs to be watched yearly, and my other was in the hospital for the first month, and then again to have a piece of his colon removed. SO I am feel like I should be happy with what I have and that I should not tempt fate. My stomach was also destroyed and I needed surgery to repair it, and that alone was the hardest part.

But then again I have not wanted DH to get snipped, or to be to get my tubes tied. SO who really knows.

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Dh and I decided way before we got married we would only have 2 kids. If they happen to be 2 boys or 2 girls, we wouldn't try again, we would take what God gave us.

Main reason-we don't want to be outnumbered! Plus we think a 3rd child puts you in a whole different financial situation-bigger car, 4 bedroom house, 1 more wedding, 1 more car, 1 more college education..etc.

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We always wanted three but I would have to stop working if we had a third, which would mean that DH would have to take every available hour of OT.

It's not what I want for my family.

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My doc says no more so there it is no more!

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i always wanted a big family... after my first marraige and my first two kids i said i was done .. but now with having spencer with my DH i definitly want another one with him! so we'll have 5 all together!

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I'm done b/c I never want to be pregnant ever again and I don't think we could adopt b/c of DH's past life

I'm young (26) though, so maybe in ten years, but I really loated being pregnant, so I'd have to have a partial lobomoty to get preg again

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Im on the fence right now.... Jayden spent the 3 weeks in the hospital the 1st month of his life and didn't get a clean bill of health until he was 3 months old. Doctors still can't give us a reason for his condition. I know the odds of that happening again are slim to none, but I don't think I could go through that again.

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i went through IVF for my DS. and altho my hub and i've discussed the possibility of having another .. well, we've said we would like to have another and during the hard times, we've said 'no way'! there's always other factors like hub's job. but in the end you'll never know. i do have 3 more frozen eggs. who knows if they'll last the thawing process. and who knows if the eggs will stick (in my belly.. it didn't stick the first time). DH an di have said a firm NO to having more before. but now.. hmm.. you'll never know.

*o.. and another factor.. i had preclampsia. not fun. =(

Message edited 9/24/2007 3:56:58 PM.

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I would have loved a 3rd but this was before getting pregnant. I hate being pregnant- so much that I dread number 2. It is the hardest thing for me- I feel like I am claustraphobic the whole time. I wish I was one of those women who LOVE it. But I really, really hate it.

I would have a 3rd if we could adopt easily.

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dh and i always agreed on 2. so that was our reason.

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Other circumstances...

Doctors told me I would be risking my life if I did become pregnant at this point.
MAYBE in a few years things will change with medical advancements, who knows? Maybe we will adopt, I am not sure.

ETA: we always wanted 2 or 3 children

Message edited 9/24/2007 3:56:46 PM.

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We are done. I always wanted 3 but I am very happy now with my 2 boys. But accidents do happen

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I always thought I wanted 5!

Now we will have 2 under 2 come April.

#2 was a suprise.

DS threw me for a loop. I love him more than my life- more than anything in the world- it hurts how much I love him. But, I never imagined that motherhood would be so hard- that I would get PPD- that infants were really THIS hard. Maybe it will be easier with #2 and we will have a third?

I really don't want a third- like a PP said, I am exhausted and work full time. DH wants three- but, I have to be on board for that- and I don't anticipate it!

Also, like a PP said too- I also hate being pregnant!

Message edited 9/24/2007 4:40:43 PM.

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I really never wanted more than 1 child... I loved being an only child... But I am 25 so you never know 10 years from now i could feel different

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Well I just gave birth to our son 2 weeks ago we have a daughter (8 years old) once my Dh said "its a BOY" I said thank GOD I cant do this again THATS IT

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I only wanted 1, but with one I didn't feel that my family was complete. Now with 2, my family feels "right".