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wcs3504
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For the first time in a long time I am upset about TTC
I know I don't post much but I feel that today I have to get this out... I am a basket case of emotions today...
DH and I have been together for years... dating and married. We had a crazy life: alot of partying, travelling and frankly enjoying our time together. We did the right things for ourselves by getting married first before TTC or taking care of ourselves to avoid being preggo, bought a house to have a nice home for our children.. and a year and one month later no children in site....
It hurts when I see my cousins (boys) who got their GFs pregnant 'by mistake' proceeded to get married (b/c they got GF preggo) and aren't doing much for themselves or their children futures...
It upsets me that it is just so easy for some people to get preggo that honestly didn't want it or expect it at that time... and here I am waiting for DH's semen analysis results to come in b/c nothing has happened with us after a year of TTC...
I am not by any means knocking all those people that had a child before being married and etc... but for those that don't have a steady job, dropped out of college and have GFs for under a year and proceed to get married just b/c she is preggo upsets me... Why is it sooo easy for them and SOOOO hard for ME!!!
Not sure if anyone is reading this..but I had to get it out...I am not having a good day... Thanks 
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maybeamommy
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Re: For the first time in a long time I am upset about TTC
Oh sweetie, we've all been there!
We are also in our 13th month TTC.
If you don't mind, how old are you? Are you seeing an RE?
I know it's definitely frustrating! My 17-year old cousin got his GF pregnant AFTER they broke up and meanwhile we've been trying so hard and still nothing.
It definitely does not seem fair! 
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| Posted 9/26/08 1:00 PM |
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LiveAgain
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Re: For the first time in a long time I am upset about TTC
TTC can be very stressful especially when you want a BFP so bad. There are so many factors that determine getting pregnant that the slightest thing can throw everything off balance.
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| Posted 9/26/08 1:03 PM |
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irishbaby
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Re: For the first time in a long time I am upset about TTC
I want to reach right thru the screen and give you a  1st because I was right in the space you are in on Monday.
I don't have much advice as i get upset about the same things, but I :TRY: to keep all the negativity my brain feeds me at a minimum as best I can - and remember that tomorrow is another day.
Go home do something enjoyable ( I am baking right now) and then get a good night's rest - things will be brighter tomorrow I promise.
Don't worry about not posting allot - I hardly ever do - but I happen to be home today and posting away, ppl are here to support you when you need it.
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| Posted 9/26/08 1:41 PM |
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ready2ttc
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Re: For the first time in a long time I am upset about TTC
It totally isn't fair.
Sometimes I feel like screaming "I am doing everything RIGHT!!! WHY isn't this working!?" it feels like we should be rewarded for having stable lives and being prepared emotionally for children, and sometimes they are blessed upon the wrong people. 
I think we've all been there.
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| Posted 9/26/08 1:45 PM |
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Angel321
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Re: For the first time in a long time I am upset about TTC
every single person on this website has felt that pain more often than we would probably like to admit.
we all have good days and bad days - so vent away...
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| Posted 9/26/08 1:48 PM |
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DanandNette
Love my baby boy!
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Re: For the first time in a long time I am upset about TTC
As someone else suggested, maybe seeing a doctor would help. I don't mean to sound offensive but maybe it would relieve the stress you're feeling if you have some input from a doctor.
Sorry you're feeling down things will work out and you should definitely feel proud of yourselves for all that you have accomplished. Look at you, you have a great husband and a great house, this is your final piece to the puzzle. All the other people don't seem to have it as "together" as you do, you're many steps ahead!!!
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| Posted 9/26/08 2:00 PM |
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QueSeraSera
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Re: For the first time in a long time I am upset about TTC
I'm feeling the same way....I keep thinking about how I have waited until everything was just right- solid job, nice house, my marriage is stronger than my parents ever was, money issues are resolved, done with my Master's, etc......b/c I wanted to make sure that I could give my child a more loving and stable childhood than I had.
And now I can't seem to hold a pregnancy. It's ironic.
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| Posted 9/26/08 2:07 PM |
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karenk71
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Re: For the first time in a long time I am upset about TTC
Boy, do I know exactly how you feel.
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| Posted 9/26/08 2:28 PM |
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BABYMAMA13
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Re: For the first time in a long time I am upset about TTC
Posted by wcs3504
I know I don't post much but I feel that today I have to get this out... I am a basket case of emotions today...
DH and I have been together for years... dating and married. We had a crazy life: alot of partying, travelling and frankly enjoying our time together. We did the right things for ourselves by getting married first before TTC or taking care of ourselves to avoid being preggo, bought a house to have a nice home for our children.. and a year and one month later no children in site....
It hurts when I see my cousins (boys) who got their GFs pregnant 'by mistake' proceeded to get married (b/c they got GF preggo) and aren't doing much for themselves or their children futures...
It upsets me that it is just so easy for some people to get preggo that honestly didn't want it or expect it at that time... and here I am waiting for DH's semen analysis results to come in b/c nothing has happened with us after a year of TTC...
I am not by any means knocking all those people that had a child before being married and etc... but for those that don't have a steady job, dropped out of college and have GFs for under a year and proceed to get married just b/c she is preggo upsets me... Why is it sooo easy for them and SOOOO hard for ME!!!
Not sure if anyone is reading this..but I had to get it out...I am not having a good day... Thanks
im sorry.. i have to comment on this. B/C i got pregnant by mistake the first time, and i wasnt married yet. And honestly it was the best thing besides meeting the love of my life that happened to me. If they are happy you should be happy for them. Its not easy to try and conceive. Its a normal couple with out any problems up to a year to get pregnant. I am having a lot of trouble getting pregnant again. But it has nothing to do with being married, or whether u have a house or alot of money. it has to do with if you are ready as a person with ur partner. And if getting married to them is the right thing to do for the baby, then its the right choice for them. I am not getting married until next summer, and if i have a baby b.f then its awesome.
im sorry ur having a bad day.
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| Posted 9/26/08 4:35 PM |
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Mimms
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Re: For the first time in a long time I am upset about TTC
I know exactly what you mean
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| Posted 9/26/08 4:42 PM |
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MrsPowers
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Re: For the first time in a long time I am upset about TTC
WE have all been there and know exactly how you feel. It is really tough sometimes. Hang in there!
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| Posted 9/26/08 5:01 PM |
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wcs3504
my boys
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Re: For the first time in a long time I am upset about TTC
Posted by BABYMAMA13
im sorry.. i have to comment on this. B/C i got pregnant by mistake the first time, and i wasnt married yet. And honestly it was the best thing besides meeting the love of my life that happened to me. If they are happy you should be happy for them. Its not easy to try and conceive. Its a normal couple with out any problems up to a year to get pregnant. I am having a lot of trouble getting pregnant again. But it has nothing to do with being married, or whether u have a house or alot of money. it has to do with if you are ready as a person with ur partner. And if getting married to them is the right thing to do for the baby, then its the right choice for them. I am not getting married until next summer, and if i have a baby b.f then its awesome.
im sorry ur having a bad day.
I am happy for my cousins I really am...but for once I was jealous for what they have and what I want. Like I said in my OP, I am not knocking anyone for the decisions they make in their relationship but if you only knew my cousins' situations and what they have done or lack thereof for their families, one would feel upset that they are able to have a child so easily when they had no intentions of trying, when I'm doing everything possible to conceive. I wish you all the best in TTC 
Thanks everyone for your encouragement. It does mean alot. I haven't felt this upset in a very long time. Once DH's SA results come in, I am going to see an RE at North Shore. Insurance won't cover me treating at an RE until the SA results come back negative... The good thing is that DH's insurance does fully cover all the meds and IUIs (up to 5).
Much baby dust to all of us TTC.
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