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JoesWife628
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Re: For those of you that are just naturally happy people
For the most part, I've always been naturally happy. I figure it takes the same amount of energy to be happy as it does to be sad but I feel a heck of a lot better being happy. I figure in this world full of craziness and terrible things, I have so many things to be grateful for.
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EckoRed81504
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Re: For those of you that are just naturally happy people
It's my personality as well- I just don't like being unhappy. I'm the most optimistic person you will ever meet. I don't like dwelling on things. Yes sad/bad things happen but I try to make the best of every situation.
Life's too short to be pi s s e d off.
My glass is always half full
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MrsKS
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Re: For those of you that are just naturally happy people
I'm not 100% I can pinpoint exactly why. But I am generally a happy person. I wake up each day just happy and not much gets to me... or at least I don't let it affect me negatively.
I've had a very rough childhood. And having been through a lot of turmoil in life... I just chose to let all that go. I choose to not let it affect me in a negative way. Life is short and why spend it being miserable or upset all the time? Why spend it harping on things that have already happened or things you cannot change? I'd rather look back on my years spent here and be able to say that I was genuinely happy and had a good time. If I only get to be this age once and I only get this day once... I'd rather make the most of it. I just don't want to carry around any extra baggage that would weight me down and makes me a miserable person. I think when you are upset or miserable you tend to notice more misery in life and less good, just because it's what you can relate to. And I don't want to see that side of things.
I have friends who get all worked up and upset over loads of things that just wouldn't affect me that way. I usually just take problems as they come and go with it.
I will admit though... last year I hit a REALLY bad rough patch after a mc. After that mc it seemed that so many other aspects of my life were just falling apart and going wrong. I spent a few months being really upset and depressed. It so was not like me at all... and people were not only shocked by it but they were also a little scared of it. So many people were saying things to me like "i never heard you talk or sound like this before". Eventually I found ways to get over things and move on. I found my way back to me again.
I also just innately tend to focus on positive things without really trying to think of them. IDK if it comes so easily for me because I've always been this way since I was a kid, but I do think you can train yourself to be this way, however it would take some time and practice. I just know things could always be worse and instead of harping on the bad in life, I'd much rather focus on the good. I smile about what I do have, rather than cry about what I don't have.
SO IDK if I was born this way or if I worked at it and it just developed even moreso as I grew up. But I think maybe both? I wake up in a happy mood... so it's not like I have to "talk myself" into being happy in a daily basis... a good part of it just comes naturally. But then when bad things happen to me I choose to let them go and not carry them around with me. So yea.. both.
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jasmine
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Re: For those of you that are just naturally happy people
I am generally happy but my anxiety usually takes over. This post makes me want to try to be more happy and carefree and less neurotic 
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MrsKS
Thank You St. Gerard.....
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Re: For those of you that are just naturally happy people
Posted by jasmine
I am generally happy but my anxiety usually takes over. This post makes me want to try to be more happy and carefree and less neurotic
Last year, while I was going through a troubled time, I was having a lot issues with anxiety and all that. And what really helped me were these books by James Van Praagh. And it might sound strange... and you don't have to believe in all the things he believes in.. but a lot of the points he hits about letting go of things and taking the time to relax and notice the good in life, etc. really hit home for me and really helped me get passed that point in my life.
Sure, I still get nervous about some things. But after reading a few of his books, I felt enlightened and they really inspired me to make the most out of life again and to not over think things to the point of anxiety. etc. Reading his books really let me trust life again, if that makes sense.
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MissJones
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Re: For those of you that are just naturally happy people
Posted by bird382
Yes, everyone has troubles and heartache, but dwelling on it is a choice.
Instead I choose to be grateful for what I have. When life stinks, I remind myself that I have a roof above my head, food on the table, and a loving family. Millions of people who have it FAR worse than I do can't say that. That perspective snaps me out of my "woe is me" funk.
Exactly.
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DaniJude
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Re: For those of you that are just naturally happy people
Ha, I really don't know!
Maybe because I don't always think of myself that way - but people always peg me that way. They see me as full of energy, positive, happy, upbeat, etc. I guess I am - I have my moments like anyone else. Not sure if it has to do with my upbringing or not?
I mean, I have had some reeeally shiiitty things happen in life but someone said to me the other day, after they found out some of these shiiitty things lol, that they saw me day after day, for weeks (since meeting me) and they were shocked because they would never think someone who looks as happy as I do, would have so many things going on that would make most people pretty depressed. They were just floored that I have gone through what I've gone through and that I'm the way that I am - upbeat. I'm not even trying to toot my own horn - I was shocked that she told me this - I don't see myself as others see me. And i've been thinking about it for days now - that it's weird. But coming across your post about why is ironic to me.
After all that rambling I still don't have an answer as to why.
I *think* it is all about your state of mind. It is how you view the glass. What you make of life - the challenges, the ups and downs, and your determination to not let stuff get the best of you.
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missfabulous
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Re: For those of you that are just naturally happy people
I takes too much energy to be sad. Being happy is just easier.
I think it has a lot to do with my personality. I love to be cheerful.
I also excercise alot. Excercise gives you endorphins and endorphins make you happy! 
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TaraHutch
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Re: For those of you that are just naturally happy people
From what I've been told, I was happy from day one. I was born into a tough situation (father cheated, Mom left alone with 3 kids and pretty much the bad stuff all came out not long after I was born) and I have been told that I was the only thing that kept them going- the happy baby that I was. I honestly have no idea why/how I was born that way. Just my disposition I guess.
I think it's a combination of so many things...I can't say I'm ALWAYS happy. I can be moody. I have been depressed. But I think my general disposition is happy. It probably helps that I'm happy with what I got right now - I love my job, love my husband and I'm crazy about my kid.
But like most women, I always want more.
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want2beamom
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Re: For those of you that are just naturally happy people
hands down, the environment I was raised in...I can only hope to provide the same for my children
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SweetCin
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Re: For those of you that are just naturally happy people
I think a combination of things. My mom always said I was a happy, easy going baby.
Growing up I was always smiling; to this day I'm more likely to have a smile on my face than a frown.
It is just as easy to be happy as it is to be sad. I don't really think about it; but I do know I'm very blessed w/ 2 beautiful children; a hard working/loving husband; house; job that I love (on most days) & a supportive family.
On days when I do feel down; I remember someone once telling me, "look up" literally. Just to see the sky, clouds, sunset, birds flying & know there is so much more out there & so many bigger problems to have; it makes me feel better.
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Re: For those of you that are just naturally happy people
Funny - although I have bouts of anxiety, I tend to be naturally happy.
I had a very difficult childhood, and a lot of the happiness comes from the fact I survived it intact, and have been blessed with so many wonderful things in my life that I never thought I would have (like my son).
Depsite some of the crap I have dealt with in the last few years, I have also been blessed to find some wonderful things that bring me so much happiness (Zumba, running, great friends)
so, overall, it's hard not to be happy that I have received so many wonderful gifts in life, and I am healthy and able to enjoy these gifts completely....
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Re: For those of you that are just naturally happy people
Posted by Gertyrae
I think it's a combination:
I'm generally a very upbeat person - try not to dwell on the negative. I had an extremely difficult childhood so I kind of know it can never be that bad again. And I feel life is too short and there is always someone worse off than you so enjoy what you do have as much as you can.
ITA - I survived the worst of it, I think. That's a good reason to be happy!!!
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Mrs213
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Re: For those of you that are just naturally happy people
I would like to know exactly how to stop dwelling on the past...
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maybebaby
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Re: For those of you that are just naturally happy people
Posted by staceyums81
I would like to know exactly how to stop dwelling on the past...
I'm not sure what happened in your past...but for ME the best way to not dwell on the past is to look to the future. I just know that holding onto something bad and stressing over it isn't good for your health (physical and mental).
Concentrate on posiitve things to come and if something is really haunting you, it doesn't hurt to seek therapy and talk about it. Talking can be so therapeutic (my sisters and i have often talked for hours at a time about how awful our father was at times..). It helps.
I have moments of getting incredibly angry at my dad when he skips out on everyones life for months at a time and expects open arms when he chooses to be involved. That is why
I made the choice to only have contact with him if he is going to be consistent in my kids life...it's too painful otherwise.
Hope this helps. 
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kimbalina
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Re: For those of you that are just naturally happy people
I am all about being positive and happy. I have read "The Secret" so many times and believe that you get what you put out there. I believe in laughter and having fun. Finding what makes you happy to do (craft, working out, dancing, reading, classes) and doing it!
I know that I am not the only one effected by my actions. Therefore I try to make inter-actions positive if not neutral. I say 'Thank you', 'Please' and 'Have a nice day/night' to anyone I interact with in a store or restaurant environment. I smile a lot and hold the door for the next person. Why- because I think you can change someone else's day (and yours) with a small action.
Do bad things happen? Yes, but you can't let that be the focus of your life. I had a ROUGH 1/2 of last year into this year, but I did my best to keep positive. I surround myself with people who are positive and who feel the same way as I do. If I get down, guess what? They are going to remind me of what is good in my life and they don't let me become what I am not.
I was raised in a single parent home most of my childhood. It was still happy and I saw what hardworking can do for someone. My Mom was working 2 jobs and I spent time with my grandparents when she was at work. They thought me the value of religion and family. I think that is part of where my 'happy go lucky' attitude comes from. I know that life is short and that things change quickly. Why not try and make every day as good as you can.
I do have $h!tty days, but I try to keep that to a minimum. I vent it out to my friends or DH and move on. I think that happiness is a state of mind and you can change yours no matter the circumstance. It may take time.. But I think everyone can find happiness.
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curiousgeorge
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Re: For those of you that are just naturally happy people
If I'm at peace then I'm happy. Learning to just be calm and not stress the little things, exercising and having hobbies, and just balance in my life. Balance is super important. Surrounding yourself with positive, which I feel is so much harder to do these days. Helping or donating to those who need.
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