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ChristinaM128
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For those who went to/have kids in catholic high school
Totally getting ahead of myself here being that my oldest isn’t even in kindergarten yet, but I want to make sure I think about all factors all the way through... for those with experience, how did you “hang out” with your friends, assuming they didn’t live in the same neighborhood as you? Did going to catholic high school deter you in any way from the general hanging out in the streets/parking lots of your neighborhood? Was it hard to get together with friends outside of school hours?
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WannaBeAMom11
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For those who went to/have kids in catholic high school
Attended catholic school my entire life. I had school friends, those that didn’t live in my town we would go home with eachother on our buses, sleepovers, etc. I had neighborhood friends who I would hang out with in my neighborhood. No, never has issues getting together outside of school hours.
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| Posted 10/7/17 11:38 PM |
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Katareen
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For those who went to/have kids in catholic high school
My DH went to catholic school, and once everyone split up for HS he found it to be very isolating, especially the first few years when you had to rely on parents to drive you.
He went to Chaminade though, which was a decent distance from where he grew up. So going to see a friend meant his mom might have to drive 45 mins to go pick him up (which she wasn't willing to do frequently).
ETA: I went to public school and I never hung out on the streets or in parking lots. Mostly because my parents always had to know where I was and what I was doing. I find the kids that were hanging out with loosely on the streets for the kids who had parents who really didn't care what they were doing.
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mommy2be716
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Re: For those who went to/have kids in catholic high school
Posted by ChristinaM128
Totally getting ahead of myself here being that my oldest isn’t even in kindergarten yet, but I want to make sure I think about all factors all the way through... for those with experience, how did you “hang out” with your friends, assuming they didn’t live in the same neighborhood as you? Did going to catholic high school deter you in any way from the general hanging out in the streets/parking lots of your neighborhood? Was it hard to get together with friends outside of school hours?
went to catholic school my whole life. Never was an issue. Pretty much all of the kids at school lived in the neighborhood and that was their parish. I was able to walk to most of my friend's houses, or was only a 5-10 min drive tops.
For high school, it was a bit different. You get more a mix of students from all over, so I had friends out in massapequa and farmingdale, when I lived in the floral park/GC area. Alot of my friends from elementary went to the same HS as me though, so while I made new friends that lived 20-25 mins away, I still had plenty of friends nearby. When we started driving, it was nice to have some friends to drive to school with
To answer your question about hanging out on the streets and getting into less trouble: I think that the rules at school are more strict, in that you can't leave to grab lunch and can't show up to school late if you don't have class 1st period. You're still required to be at school first thing in the morning and stay until the day is over in most cases (as a senior, I think i was able to leave early if i didn't have last period class). As a parent, I would like that because it means if I drop my child off at school, I know they're not hanging around with their friends on the corner until 3rd or 4th period. I also would like that they can't leave for lunch and go wherever they want. Aside from that, I don't really think going to catholic school vs. public school will make much of a difference in your behavior. You can get into the wrong crowd no matter what, and I just think some kids are more easily influenced than others.
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BsMomma2014
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For those who went to/have kids in catholic high school
I never had an issue with friends, elementary school everyone loved fairly close since we were in the same parish. High school was different but no one lived terribly far from me maybe 30 minutes top.
The majority of my friends in elementary school went to my high school some went to Chaminade.
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| Posted 10/8/17 10:10 AM |
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WannaBeAMom11
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For those who went to/have kids in catholic high school
To add my best friends since grade school are still my best friends today and we live all over the place.
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LuckyStar
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For those who went to/have kids in catholic high school
I went to Catholic school. Never had an issue, but I lived in Queens so we had public transportation available. Before we could drive we used to meet and take the subway to the city. Once we had out licenses we would just drive places. We would also walk to each other's houses, though they weren't short walks.
I don't think we ever hung out in parking lots. I lived by a large park so sometimes my friends would walk to my house and we'd hang out there but it closed at 9.
On LI I could see it being different because of the lack of public transportation. I've been told that the train is a huge no-no for anyone under the age of 25 unless their parent is holding their hand and making sure they don't lose their metro card.
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liadorbs
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I went to Catholic elementary and high school and never had a problem feeling isolated or anything in my neighborhood. I never hung out in a parking lot in my life, but that was my parents' rule.
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Re: For those who went to/have kids in catholic high school
I went to a Catholic HS far away from my home. I had a very hard time making friends and was so miserable I transferred to a more local Catholic HS in my area, where I made many more friends who were also local.
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shadows
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Crashing on the parenting board!
I went to a private high school (not Catholic). The first few weeks were hard, of course, meeting all new kids.
Once I got into the swing of things, it was perfectly fine. On the weekends I hung out with my "home" friends, who were my best friends from public school from elementary/middle school. We went to movies, went to the mall, went to SportsPlus (I think that's what it was called - by the Smithhaven Mall - remember that place? lol), had sleep overs, etc.
At school and after school on weekdays, I had my school friends. I played sports so Monday-Friday so i was busy with that. I had a long commute and got home late. As did most other kids I went to school with.
I kind of had two different sets of friends, and it was totally fine. I think that's how it was for most of the kids at my high school - "school" friends and "home" friends.
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ali120206
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For those who went to/have kids in catholic high school
DH went to Catholic school his whole life.
His friends in HS lived far but, they made it work. They had a lot of house parties it sounds like but, also hung out in parking lots, similar to what I did in public school.
ETA - most of DH's best friends are his friends from high school. I have friends from high school but, my closest friends are from college.
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| Posted 10/9/17 8:15 AM |
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I went to catholic school my whole life. My elementary was more local and my high school was further. I met my DH in HS and we lived 40 min apart and some how we still got married hahahah many of my friends from elementary went to the same high school and still friends today. Yes I did have friends all over but honestly my parents drove me where I wanted to go
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Momma2015
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Re: For those who went to/have kids in catholic high school
NO! I think the sweet little all girls Catholic high school girls were the worst offenders, myself included. Myself especially actually.  
My HS was a 35-45 minute train ride from my house. My closest friends were in my general neighborhood- living either walking distance or a short bus/train ride. We lived and breathed the MTA. For the friends who lived further away, we met up at places or made plans for immediately after school. Yes, we hung out in parking lots and on the street, in parks, etc.
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