freaking out.

After 3 months of TTC, I got pg in July, and m/c in September.


It has now been 3 more months, which I know compared to a lot of people is not very long, but I am 35 and totally freaking out.

I have gone to the RE, had ALL tests done, all of which are normal. They continue to tell me that I must be a bit more patient, since everything is indeed normal, and since I did conceive once, it will likely happen again. My DH agrees with the doctors, and feels that it would be insane to not try naturally for at least a few more months.
Meanwhile, I am FREAKING OUT. I cannot concentrate on my work, I can't think of anything else. I'm really desparate and suffering over here!

Does anyone have any advice to share? Please advise only if you have been in this predicament.

Re: freaking out.

i was in the same boat as you.. i was at the point where i was panicking ..

i got PG right away then kept trying after the miscarriage.. it took 7 months before i got PG again.. i finally relaxed the last month ot TTC and it happened again! i just really believe that now.. i know you probably HATE hearing.. to "relax" but i know it helped me ..

Re: freaking out.

Not in the same exact predicament... but Im turning 33 next month and can't believe Im still trying to have a baby after 2 miscarriages.
I feel like my timing/planning of having 3 kids is possibly gone. Now I soo wish I had started trying sooner.

I think that we have 35 etched in our heads as the 'do or die" age. I know the closer I get, the more anxious I get.

So yes, I do freak out at times. But manage to stay calm over all.
Because stress definately will not help us at this. I have no control over this.

I think on the positive side for you - you have already had all the tests and know that there aren't any issues.
3 months isn't long, but when it's your 3 months it feels like FOREVER.
You also got pregnant on your own, so you know it's possible.

only advice I have is what works for me:
-try to relax
-try for 3 more months
-take up a hobby/exercise to get your mind off of it/ release some stress.
- take a vacation or a getaway weekend.

Message edited 12/29/2008 1:29:45 PM.

Re: freaking out.

You sound EXACTLY like I did.... Its all I ever thought about... That clock was ticking so loud it kept me up at night.. I feel your desperation and loss of hope like it was me all over again.. Just remember that your Dr is not losing hope so you can not either.. You must have good FSH levels or he would be telling you different.. They do not lie to us..

Now for some hope..... I started my ttc journey at 40.. I did have a poor egg quality issue due to my age and my dh has low sperm.. I got pregnant 2x and miscarried.. Did tests found out what other issues i have.. I was treated for them and now at 43 I am 4mos pregnant.. So my only saving grace was my husband and refused to give up.. So please keep fighting the good fight and recieve your blessing..