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OhBoyorGirl
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Re: friend's 3rd wedding
Posted by haveaquestion
Are you close to her? I'm only invited to showers for DH's friend's wives I am close to. If you don't talk to her much decline.
Exactly this. I dont think you're obligated to the shower or send a gift at all.
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eroxgirl
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Re: friend's 3rd wedding
Posted by stinger
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Posted by noni882
To answer some people's questions, it is the bride's 1st wedding. They have been living together though for about a year and have a household set up.
They are lacking for nothing since DH's friend owns a very successful business.
Ok, I'm sorry but this right here just seems greedy and tacky. They lack for nothing and already live together and have their household already set up, he's on wife #3... What could they have possibly registered for that is a necessity that they didn't already have? I imagine they already have everything they need.
But it's HER first wedding, and doesn't every bride deserve a shower (the first time) if she wants one? That's not tacky and greedy IMO. She wants the full bridal experience. Isn't the shower still really about the bride and not the groom?
Although with this being the OP's third stint as best man, I would not give the same kind of wedding gift as I did the first two times.
Absolutely the firs time bride should have her shower and invite her friends and family, but she should only be inviting the grooms very immediate family....how many times is the grooms second cousins wife supposed to go to a shower for one of his wives??? Unless OP is best friends with this women, which she stated she is not and is keeping her distance , as she should since she has already lost two friendships, she shouldn't even be invited.
I disagree. She should invite who she wants and if they care about the groom or her they will go. If they are more bothered by having to go to a 3rd shower then they can easily decline.
Exactly. And the OP isn't a distant third cousin once removed, she's the best man's wife. Some people would get offended if they weren't invited. Clearly their husbands are best friends. I've known a best man's wife or two who was offended for not being included - clearly the OP wouldn't be among them, and I totally understand where she's coming from with this because she's done this twice for this guy already, but that's not the bride's fault.
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| Posted 12/19/16 12:23 PM |
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To be honest, I would just give regular gifts unless I financially could not.
To me, doing so is less of a struggle than considering all of the what-ifs, potential outcomes, etc.
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| Posted 12/19/16 1:02 PM |
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rebeccamol
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Re: friend's 3rd wedding
Posted by Straightarrow
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People have showers for 3rd weddings?
I always thought showers were to help get items needed to start a home and household- dishes, towels etc.
So she will have 3 sets of everything? Did she throw out all her household items with each divorce?
So, I agree with you.
HOWEVER, what if it is the other person's first wedding?
Also, when I left my ex, I LEFT as in ran, as in, I don't have ANYTHING from my first marriage. All my stuff is hand me downs, etc.
Ha me to I got rid of almost everything
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rebeccamol
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Re: friend's 3rd wedding
Posted by rebeccamol
Posted by Straightarrow
Posted by NervousNell
People have showers for 3rd weddings?
I always thought showers were to help get items needed to start a home and household- dishes, towels etc.
So she will have 3 sets of everything? Did she throw out all her household items with each divorce?
So, I agree with you.
HOWEVER, what if it is the other person's first wedding?
Also, when I left my ex, I LEFT as in ran, as in, I don't have ANYTHING from my first marriage. All my stuff is hand me downs, etc.
Ha me to I got rid of almost everything
Ha me to I got rid of almost everything
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| Posted 12/20/16 10:53 AM |
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WonderLady
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Re: friend's 3rd wedding
I would give the same for a good friend as long as I had the money. My thought is like eff it, what's another $500 over the course of a lifetime friendship, kwim? Imo it's not worth it to make a "thing"/ create an issue.
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| Posted 12/20/16 6:46 PM |
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