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justthe4ofus
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Friendship question
So I was out to dinner with some work friends and the following conversation came up-- If you knew a secret that one of your friends told you in confidence and then you had a falling out with that friend would you blab the secret?
So I am curious would you tell or would you keep the secret?
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Re: Friendship question
I would keep the secret
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| Posted 4/17/06 10:26 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Friendship question
I probably would not tell.
Message edited 4/17/2006 11:22:11 PM.
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| Posted 4/17/06 10:26 PM |
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CAJ
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Re: Friendship question
Never!
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| Posted 4/17/06 10:27 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Friendship question
Posted by Jamie
So I was out to dinner with some work friends and the following conversation came up-- If you knew a secret that one of your friends told you in confidence and then you had a falling out with that friend would you blab the secret?
So I am curious would you tell or would you keep the secret?
depends on: the secret and how bad the falling out was and how good a friends i was with the person to begin with...
Message edited 4/17/2006 10:30:23 PM.
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| Posted 4/17/06 10:29 PM |
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neenie
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Re: Friendship question
nope. just because i lost a friend, doesnt mean i'd give up my integrity. it would only make me look bad- no one's worth that- especially someone thats not even a part of your life anymore.
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| Posted 4/17/06 10:30 PM |
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jaysee00
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Re: Friendship question
I definitely would not blab a secret. I would feel pretty guilty about it. 
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| Posted 4/17/06 10:31 PM |
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Tany
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Re: Friendship question
nope, i would keep the secret until I passed.
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| Posted 4/17/06 10:32 PM |
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MrsERod
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Re: Friendship question
secret is a secret. period.
UNLESS - that friend did something sooooo VICIOUS and underhanded (i.e. slept with SO for example)...then ALL BETS ARE OFF, and you can bet your sweet bippy i'd be calling Newsday to take out a FULL PAGE ad!! 
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| Posted 4/17/06 10:32 PM |
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justthe4ofus
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Re: Friendship question
I don't know if this explains it more.
Posted by Redhead
Posted by Jamie
So I was out to dinner with some work friends and the following conversation came up-- If you knew a secret that one of your friends told you in confidence and then you had a falling out with that friend would you blab the secret?
So I am curious would you tell or would you keep the secret?
depends on: the secret and how bad the falling out was and how good a friends i was with the person to begin with...
OK so lets put it like this. There are 2 teacher's in my building they are in the same department. They were really close friends. They had a massive falling out. They refused to work together any longer. TO the point where one teacher was transfered to another school. ( I won't get into the lack of professionalism- that's a whole different post) Anyways a whole bunch of the teachers went out after work one night and they were talking and the topic of the other teacher came up and the teacher that was present, said something to the effect of you are never going to believe that so and so did X- it was a pretty serious secret and made for an awkward situation.
Posted by MrsERod
secret is a secret. period.
UNLESS - that friend did something sooooo VICIOUS and underhanded (i.e. slept with SO for example)...then ALL BETS ARE OFF, and you can bet your sweet bippy i'd be calling Newsday to take out a FULL PAGE ad!!
Not in this situation  But I agree. I told DH if he ever did that Lorena Bobbit and I would be dear friends!
Posted by neeniebean86
nope. just because i lost a friend, doesnt mean i'd give up my integrity. it would only make me look bad- no one's worth that- especially someone thats not even a part of your life anymore.
I agree with you. Everyone at the table was like  The secret is going to have MAJOR ramifications on someone completely innocence and there are going to be hard feeling to the person the secret was about and to the person who told.
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| Posted 4/17/06 10:41 PM |
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Luvlylady
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Re: Friendship question
I take all secrets that my trusting friends tell me to the Grave with me!
One thing has nothing to do with another!
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| Posted 4/17/06 10:42 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Friendship question
I would keep the secret.
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| Posted 4/17/06 11:07 PM |
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evenedan
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Re: Friendship question
I definitely would not tell.
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| Posted 4/17/06 11:44 PM |
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PiyoPika566
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Re: Friendship question
I would still keep the secret
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baghag
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Re: Friendship question
Posted by MrsERod
secret is a secret. period.
UNLESS - that friend did something sooooo VICIOUS and underhanded (i.e. slept with SO for example)...then ALL BETS ARE OFF, and you can bet your sweet bippy i'd be calling Newsday to take out a FULL PAGE ad!!
I agree.
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| Posted 4/18/06 9:20 AM |
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skew
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Re: Friendship question
Posted by neeniebean86
nope. just because i lost a friend, doesnt mean i'd give up my integrity. it would only make me look bad- no one's worth that- especially someone thats not even a part of your life anymore.
i agree
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| Posted 4/18/06 9:33 AM |
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skew
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Re: Friendship question
Posted by Jamie
I don't know if this explains it more.
Posted by Redhead
Posted by Jamie
So I was out to dinner with some work friends and the following conversation came up-- If you knew a secret that one of your friends told you in confidence and then you had a falling out with that friend would you blab the secret?
So I am curious would you tell or would you keep the secret?
depends on: the secret and how bad the falling out was and how good a friends i was with the person to begin with...
OK so lets put it like this. There are 2 teacher's in my building they are in the same department. They were really close friends. They had a massive falling out. They refused to work together any longer. TO the point where one teacher was transfered to another school. ( I won't get into the lack of professionalism- that's a whole different post) Anyways a whole bunch of the teachers went out after work one night and they were talking and the topic of the other teacher came up and the teacher that was present, said something to the effect of you are never going to believe that so and so did X- it was a pretty serious secret and made for an awkward situation.
Posted by MrsERod
secret is a secret. period.
UNLESS - that friend did something sooooo VICIOUS and underhanded (i.e. slept with SO for example)...then ALL BETS ARE OFF, and you can bet your sweet bippy i'd be calling Newsday to take out a FULL PAGE ad!!
Not in this situation But I agree. I told DH if he ever did that Lorena Bobbit and I would be dear friends!
Posted by neeniebean86
nope. just because i lost a friend, doesnt mean i'd give up my integrity. it would only make me look bad- no one's worth that- especially someone thats not even a part of your life anymore.
I agree with you. Everyone at the table was like The secret is going to have MAJOR ramifications on someone completely innocence and there are going to be hard feeling to the person the secret was about and to the person who told.
NO WAY. especially work friends. since you weren't the orginal holder of the secret, can you tell us?
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MsMa
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Re: Friendship question
NO WAY I would never tell a promise is a promise it doesn't matter if we aren't friends anymore we were when I was told!
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| Posted 4/18/06 9:40 AM |
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justthe4ofus
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Re: Friendship question
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NO WAY. especially work friends. since you weren't the orginal holder of the secret, can you tell us?
Nope sorry I can't I don't even want to know that I know- I am trying to forget I know now. I don't know how I am supposed to look at this person the same way.
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| Posted 4/18/06 9:54 AM |
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dpli
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Re: Friendship question
Posted by Jamie
I agree with you. Everyone at the table was like The secret is going to have MAJOR ramifications on someone completely innocence and there are going to be hard feeling to the person the secret was about and to the person who told.
In this case, I think this reflects so poorly on the person who told the secret. As Neenie said, they proved their lack of intregrity by blabbing this and I probably wouldn't trust them with anything after hearing about all of this.
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| Posted 4/18/06 9:57 AM |
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justthe4ofus
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Re: Friendship question
Posted by dpli
Posted by Jamie
I agree with you. Everyone at the table was like The secret is going to have MAJOR ramifications on someone completely innocence and there are going to be hard feeling to the person the secret was about and to the person who told.
In this case, I think this reflects so poorly on the person who told the secret. As Neenie said, they proved their lack of intregrity by blabbing this and I probably wouldn't trust them with anything after hearing about all of this.
You know what I couldn't agree with you more! It's sad to hurt people just because you are not friends with them anymore--- especially the COMPLETELY innocent person.
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| Posted 4/18/06 10:10 AM |
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jms100303
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Re: Friendship question
I would keep the secret.
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My2Boys
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Re: Friendship question
Nah, I wouldn't tell. I'm loyal and trustworthy like that... plus, I'm not a shyt-stirrer.
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DebG
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Re: Friendship question
I can't say that I would keep the secret.
Did I want to tell the secret before the falling out?
Does the secret involve someone else?
How serious is the secret?
Should the other (as in third) person involved in the secret know? Is it about them? Is it hurtful? Maybe it can be helpful.
I don't know there are just soo many things that come into play that I can't give a blanket answer.
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| Posted 4/18/06 10:20 AM |
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justthe4ofus
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Re: Friendship question
Also I could never trust the person that told again EVER! Because I would always have the worry what if our friendship end would that person do the same to me. Even if it wasn't this bad. I just know that I can never look at the teller as anything other than a sneak and a user. IMO the person used the secret in an ATTEMPT to make themselves look better but in the end it made the person look like a HUGE AZZ!
I don't know why I am still thinking about this, this morning but it's just bothering me.
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