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hbugal
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Re: Getting an annulment when already divorced?
Posted by Kara
Posted by hbugal
IMO..b/c their is a child involved in that first marriage..getting an annullment is not the entirely "right" thing to do.
This is one of the greatest misconceptions and misunderstandings about annulments.
QUESTION: Will my children be illegitimate if my marriage is annulled?
Answer: NO! This is a grave misconception. The marital status of the parents does not affect the status of the children. All children are created in God's image and have equal status in the church. Neither civil law nor church law considers the children of an annulled marriage illegitimate. Nor does the annulment imply that the children were not the fruit of a genuine human love. Annulment is simply a decision on the circumstances surrounding a marriage that could prevent that marriage from being a sacramental marriage.
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Thank you for posting...This more of something that I have in my head. I just dont think a marriage should be annulled when there are children involved...or rather I find it hard to say yay or nay when there are children involved. Im more kind of on the fence.
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KarissaD
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Re: Getting an annulment when already divorced?
I'm sure it is.
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| Posted 2/25/08 9:09 PM |
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annabegins
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Re: Getting an annulment when already divorced?
My BF's dad did it well more than 25 yrs later after he divorced. It was very complicated and took a very long time, but it can be done. He also didnt have any children from the first marriage.
This was in the diocese of RVC.
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| Posted 2/25/08 9:35 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: Getting an annulment when already divorced?
My DH's father got an annulment when DH was 13 and SIL was 16 so he could marry SMIL in the Church. He had been divorced for about 6-7 years.
My DH was extremely hurt and still is hurt by it. My SIL never spoke to her father again and actually never saw him again, the next time she "saw" him was at his funeral when she was 20
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| Posted 2/25/08 9:37 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Getting an annulment when already divorced?
Posted by LaurenExp
My DH got an annulment after a divorce. Its not an easy process and costs money, but IMO, it was worth it. (I did most of the work for it).
Eh um....
Here are the grounds:
Most annulments are based on canon 1095, psychological reasons. These include a wide range of factors. Some of them may be misrepresentation or fraud (concealing the truth about capacity or desire to have children for example, or about an preexisting marriage, drug addiction, felony convictions, sexual preference or having reached the age of consent)
Refusal or inability to consummate the marriage (inability or refusal to have sex) ,
Bigamy, incest (being married to someone else, or close relatives)
Duress (being forced or coerced into marriage against one's will or serious external pressure, for example a pregnancy)
Mental incapacity (considered unable to understand the nature and expectations of marriage)
Lack of knowledge or understanding of the full implications of marriage as a life-long commitment in faithfulness and love, with priority to spouse and children.
Psychological inability to live the marriage commitment as described above.
Illegal "Form of Marriage" (ceremony was not performed according to Catholic canon law)
One/both partners was under the influence of drugs, or addicted to a chemical substance.
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jana
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Re: Getting an annulment when already divorced?
Posted by hbugal
Posted by Kara
Posted by hbugal
IMO..b/c their is a child involved in that first marriage..getting an annullment is not the entirely "right" thing to do.
This is one of the greatest misconceptions and misunderstandings about annulments.
QUESTION: Will my children be illegitimate if my marriage is annulled?
Answer: NO! This is a grave misconception. The marital status of the parents does not affect the status of the children. All children are created in God's image and have equal status in the church. Neither civil law nor church law considers the children of an annulled marriage illegitimate. Nor does the annulment imply that the children were not the fruit of a genuine human love. Annulment is simply a decision on the circumstances surrounding a marriage that could prevent that marriage from being a sacramental marriage.
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Thank you for posting...This more of something that I have in my head. I just dont think a marriage should be annulled when there are children involved...or rather I find it hard to say yay or nay when there are children involved. Im more kind of on the fence.
I totally side with HEATHER.
Just because the church has this in writing doesn't mean they enforce it.
I have a son from a first marriage and although I inquired and actually had meetings with my local parish priest/diocese & even Tribunal board representive in Staten Island ( although I am in Queens) I soon dropped all the proceedings because they made me feel like shitte! All three told me seperately how I was basically also nulling and voiding my child. Since thats what an annulment means : a marriage that never existed and how he would now be considered a child out of wed-lock. Plus they scared me and said they would call my X to testify and I know he would revel in making it near impossible for me just for his own satisfaction. They wanted 3 grand and witnesses and afidavits which was easy enough. But to me it was more important to save my childs dignity than to walk down the isle again..besides, after much thought..was it that important? I still go to church regularly and remain a devout Catholic, my child goes to a Catholic school, we never eat meat on any Friday ( even outside of Lent), I am involved with my church functions,etc.
I think its a whole different ball game when there are children involved. I do believe though that everyone should do what feels right for them.
So what was my outcome? I ended up getting married outside at my hall..which was just gorgeous.
As for my children I was told they can never enter a seminary to become a priest or nun because I have tainted them. BIG WHOOP ! Like I said, i I am very spiritual but I also hope to have grandchildren. "IF" they have a calling to become a priest or nun then we'll fight and cross that bridge when we get to it.
As one last thing to add, the following yr after I remarried I became preggo with DD. I guess I wasn't really showing too-too much but @ 6 months in there was quite a considerable bump. Well, after mass one Sunday, I was standing outside of church with DH and many friends and my priest had the balls to say to me (with an attitude) staring at my stomach "How in the world did this happen? Immaculate Conception?" in other words: not recognizing my marriage or my DD.
Nice,right?
Thank God he was soon transfered!
Sorry my post was sooooo long, but I think it was theraputic to get this off my chest and also answer your question.
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| Posted 2/25/08 9:53 PM |
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daisy
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Re: Getting an annulment when already divorced?
Posted by LaurenExp
My DH got an annulment after a divorce. Its not an easy process and costs money, but IMO, it was worth it. (I did most of the work for it).
Same for me. It was RVC...it was a lot of work and involved documentation, counseling, and of course, money. But for me, it was super important bc we wanted to be able to be married in a church.
As for the OP, I would think the time factor should not be a problem.
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| Posted 2/25/08 10:05 PM |
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MommyofG
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Re: Getting an annulment when already divorced?
14 years ago my uncle did this, had to pay the church 10k- get at least 10 letters of recommendations on his behalf, had to do numerous hours of community service- it was not easy, I cant imagine it being cheap or easy today.
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