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Getting harder to put on a positive front.

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GoldenRod
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Getting harder to put on a positive front.

At home, I'm the emotional rock of the family, and I tell DC all the time, about any topic, "If Daddy isn't worried, you don't need to worry". It's getting harder and harder to not show how worried I am getting....

On here, as most people know, I love posting happy/silly/funny posts. If you've been watching closely, you'll see less and less of those from me over the last few weeks.

I'm trying real hard not to internalize it too much, but it's not easy. I also have that "survivor's guilt" because I'm not in any of the (current) target audiences that are currently being attacked.

I'm not falling into depression or anything, just a constant funk, so it's not anything to be seriously worried about, just wanted to vent since I'm sure the vast majority of people here are feeling the same or worse. Especially those who are directly in the target sights of many of the recent actions going on.

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Posted 2/1/17 10:49 AM
 

mrsrainbow
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Getting harder to put on a positive front.

I hear you. We are very privileged to be able to say we're not being targeted, and that's why we need to keep using our voices for the people who are. But this is such an attack on our country I just don't know how to keep being optimistic. I keep waiting for someone to swoop in and stop this.

Posted 2/1/17 10:51 AM
 

StaceyWill
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Re: Getting harder to put on a positive front.

I agree with you both. I feel like I'm living in a bad dream. This CAN'T be our reality.

Posted 2/1/17 11:00 AM
 

MC09
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Re: Getting harder to put on a positive front.

Same here. I feel like we're in the middle of a dystopian sci-fi novel and we're waiting for our hero to come defeat the villain. I don't understand how people who voted for him are so accepting of everything he does, all the lies, conflicts of interests, and all the other crap that comes along with a Bannon presidency.

Posted 2/1/17 11:07 AM
 

stinger
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Re: Getting harder to put on a positive front.

I hear you. I am the rock because i am the only parent at home

Older DD is 13 and aware of the ongoing news. She hears everything at school or on social media

DD who is 11 I believe is picking up on my anxiety and is having her own. I think its directly related to our political climate

Posted 2/1/17 11:13 AM
 

ElizaRags35
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Getting harder to put on a positive front.

You described me to a T. I feel like Leo DiCaprio hanging onto the door at the end of titanic.

Posted 2/1/17 11:30 AM
 

Chai77
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Re: Getting harder to put on a positive front.

I understand how you feel. I'm very emotional and it's getting to feel like drowning now. Every day it's a new outrage. I'm starting to feel really anxious and a little numb. It's really hard to stay positive. I am not a target of the most recent actions, but I feel like all of our rights are going to be on the chopping block soon.

Posted 2/1/17 11:35 AM
 

ohbaby08
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Getting harder to put on a positive front.

After the election, I promised my husband (Gary Johnson voter) that I would try to have an open mind about Trump. I agreed. It didn't last long.

Posted 2/1/17 12:05 PM
 

Hofstra26
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Re: Getting harder to put on a positive front.

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I think many of us feel the same.

I fear for the country right now. Chat Icon

Posted 2/1/17 1:24 PM
 

seaside
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Re: Getting harder to put on a positive front.

With you.

And now with more JCC threats each week, I am in constant fear that something bigger is brewing that will start to affect some of us more directly.

Kids sent home from school regularly like this is not ok or normal.

Posted 2/1/17 1:31 PM
 

mnmsoinlove
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Re: Getting harder to put on a positive front.

I have never felt so defeated Chat Icon everyday it's something new and it's always negative.

Posted 2/1/17 2:03 PM
 

StaceyLu
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Getting harder to put on a positive front.

I could've written that exactly GoldenRod. I work in a social justice field and I feel like my very core values are being attacked. I've been lurking on the political board for a couple of weeks because it is so heartening to know there are people who want to do something about it. But then I'll break my promise not to read/watch too much of the onslaught of daily news and get so bummed and feel like it's too big to fight against.

Posted 2/1/17 2:20 PM
 

LIRascal
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Getting harder to put on a positive front.

Goldenrod I am sending you big hugs and a shoulder to lean on. I have often expressed how I to feel guilty for standing idly by as if I were someone who did nothing in the face of evil. While I have done as much as I can I still feel it is not enough.
Thankfully my own children are too little. However when I am teaching my high school students it is so difficult not to express or verbalize my opinion. I can barely play Devil's Advocate without getting a headache. How can we be expected to teach neutrality when in fact this country is crumbling in front of their eyes at such an impressionable time 17 or 18 years old. I am sending them out into a vast unknown Society without preparing them fully to arm themselves.

Posted 2/1/17 3:10 PM
 

LIRascal
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Getting harder to put on a positive front.

Kindly ignore my sentence run ons and lack of punctuation. I am using talk to text

Posted 2/1/17 3:11 PM
 

Otherme
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Re: Getting harder to put on a positive front.

I feel the same way.

I alternate between wanting to put my head in the sand because i'm so weary of hearing EVERY SINGLE DAY of the awful things happening.. and then i read something that gets me so angry that i can't help but talk about it.. and it starts all over again.

I don't want to live like this for the next 4 years. I'm typically a happy (yet cynical) personality.. but i'm afraid this is sucking the soul out of me.

i don't watch the late night shows anymore because i can't stand to even see anyone joke about it. I stopped watching the Daily Show last summer when it started to sink in that Trump could actually win and was a very real threat. I can't joke about it.. it's too upsetting Chat Icon

Posted 2/1/17 4:45 PM
 

Sash
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Re: Getting harder to put on a positive front.

I feel the same way and my 8 yr old son has been very into the election. They spoke about it in school and he was so upset when Trump won. He makes a fake puke noise or some noise when he sees him on TV. I used to be like don't worry its going to be ok and sometimes the person you are rooting for doesnt get elected. I told him the Wall was just a tactic and will probably never happen cause it wont pass.

And now to be honest, I am at a loss for words. Its at a point when we are both making noises when we see him on TV.

His sitter is from Egypt. Very smart mature 18yr old girl who goes to a good HS. She was telling me that her and two other muslim students were called to the Principals office over the loud speaker. He wanted to make sure they were ok and no on was bothering them. It's sad that racism is so alive and schools have to take precautions. She also said her friends from Iran, One brother is in college the other one is a doctor. Their dad bought tickets to come see them next month and now cant.Chat Icon

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Posted 2/1/17 4:54 PM
 

Chai77
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Re: Getting harder to put on a positive front.

Posted by Sash

I feel the same way and my 8 yr old son has been very into the election. They spoke about it in school and he was so upset when Trump won. He makes a fake puke noise or some noise when he sees him on TV. I used to be like don't worry its going to be ok and sometimes the person you are rooting for doesnt get elected. I told him the Wall was just a tactic and will probably never happen cause it wont pass.

And now to be honest, I am at a loss for words. Its at a point when we are both making noises when we see him on TV.

His sitter is from Egypt. Very smart mature 18yr old girl who goes to a good HS. She was telling me that her and two other muslim students were called to the Principals office over the loud speaker. He wanted to make sure they were ok and no on was bothering them. It's sad that racism is so alive and schools have to take precautions. She also said her friends from Iran, One brother is in college the other one is a doctor. Their dad bought tickets to come see them next month and now cant.Chat Icon



Oh, that is so terrible for your babysitter. Glad the school is checking on her and other Muslim students (Bizarre though that they were singled out over the loud speaker. Not such a fan of that.)

My 7 year old also reacts every single time he sees Dump on TV. I don't know what to say anymore.

Posted 2/1/17 5:28 PM
 

kimchee
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Re: Getting harder to put on a positive front.

I feel the same and dread when I check the news.

There's a real evil in the White House and it's just a matter of time until we all feel the brunt of what this administration is doing.

These Republicans have no morals whatsoever - all the lying, the stifling of the truth, bullying and targetting of people who aren't like themselves... How can any Trump supporter think that's OK?

A part of me wish Madonna did go ahead with her threat of bombing the White House because while I think it may be possible to impeach Trump, the rest of his cronies will still be around when he's gone.

Posted 2/1/17 8:26 PM
 

SusiBee
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Re: Getting harder to put on a positive front.

Wow.
I feel like I am in a bad dream and can't wake up. Daily life has become so weird.
What bothers me the most is that I am starting to get that uneasy feeling that something is going to happen. I wish I didn't have to commute into the city.

On a side note, DH, who voted for the Cheeto, finally admitted that he made a mistake.

Posted 2/2/17 6:11 AM
 

Hope2009
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Re: Getting harder to put on a positive front.

I hear ya, it's like a roller coaster ride. Each day it's something different. It just seems like there's no time process one thing before getting hit with another.


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Posted 2/2/17 7:01 AM
 

Brady322
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Re: Getting harder to put on a positive front.

I don't post a lot and i will not even get into these political posts but kimchees post is absolutely disgusting ! I could care less what you guys think of Trump but its sickening to talk or joke about about the bombing of the white house ! And everyone here justs glosses right over tthat part....

Posted 2/2/17 8:45 AM
 

stinger
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Re: Getting harder to put on a positive front.

Posted by Brady322

I don't post a lot and i will not even get into these political posts but kimchees post is absolutely disgusting ! I could care less what you guys think of Trump but its sickening to talk or joke about about the bombing of the white house ! And everyone here justs glosses right over tthat part....



You are correct and i saw that too. I have anger and frustration about this regime but comments like that are dangerous and certainly not going to help

Posted 2/2/17 10:08 AM
 

NervousNell
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Re: Getting harder to put on a positive front.

Posted by stinger

Posted by Brady322

I don't post a lot and i will not even get into these political posts but kimchees post is absolutely disgusting ! I could care less what you guys think of Trump but its sickening to talk or joke about about the bombing of the white house ! And everyone here justs glosses right over tthat part....



You are correct and i saw that too. I have anger and frustration about this regime but comments like that are dangerous and certainly not going to help



Yeah wishing death on people....not cool.
Regardless of who they are

Posted 2/2/17 10:36 AM
 
 

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