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04bride
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Had an intersting conversation at work... especially for moms of 2 or more
I was telling my friends at work about a family memeber who treats wher two kids very differently. Not like abuses one but just different. The two women said talking from experience you ALWAYS treat one different than then other. Not worse or better just different. Thoughts....
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jgm26
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Re: Had an intersting conversation at work... especially for moms of 2 or more
well, I only have one now, but from my experience, yeah I guess parents do treat their kids differently. Not good or bad, but based on their personalities
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| Posted 4/20/07 11:17 AM |
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WhatNow
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Re: Had an intersting conversation at work... especially for moms of 2 or more
I won't be a mom of two for another few days but I am one of two children and I think it is true--parent's treat their chidlren diferently. As PP mentioned, it is not better or worst, just different, based on each child's different personality.
Message edited 4/20/2007 11:22:38 AM.
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| Posted 4/20/07 11:22 AM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: Had an intersting conversation at work... especially for moms of 2 or more
I believe that you have to treat your child according to their personality. Being one of four, we were and still are all treated very differently. I could get away with some things my brothers or sister can't and vice versa. You have to pick your battles with your children.
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| Posted 4/20/07 11:24 AM |
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04bride
I'm a big sister!!!
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Re: Had an intersting conversation at work... especially for moms of 2 or more
i guess having one kid so far i am not sure about this. Knowing that this is the "norm" do you think you will try your hartdest not to treat them differently or do you think that is whats supposed to happen. I am in no way judgeing anyone or starting anything i am curious and for my own future as well. tia
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| Posted 4/20/07 11:25 AM |
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ckdk
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Re: Had an intersting conversation at work... especially for moms of 2 or more
I think my brother and I were treated differently and I am not a mother of 2 yet but I'm sure I will act differently with both children even though I will say I will try not to!
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| Posted 4/20/07 11:31 AM |
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ml110
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Re: Had an intersting conversation at work... especially for moms of 2 or more
i'm not a mother yet, but i'm one of 2 kids... and i have to say i think my parents did treat us differently sometimes. my sister and i are 2 VERY different people ( she was more rebellious and outgoing than i ever was) so, just because of that, i think my parents had to deal with things with her that they didnt have to deal with with me, and vice versa.
but as far as the major things: money, time, etc... they treated us the same. i think they just had to adjust their parenting a little big for each of our personalities.
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| Posted 4/20/07 11:34 AM |
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KPtoys
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Re: Had an intersting conversation at work... especially for moms of 2 or more
as a mother of 3, yes each kid is treated differently based upon temperment, personality and ability to comprehend.
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| Posted 4/20/07 11:38 AM |
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Nancy
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Re: Had an intersting conversation at work... especially for moms of 2 or more
Posted by KPtoys
as a mother of 3, yes each kid is treated differently based upon temperment, personality and ability to comprehend.
Exactly. You can't follow the lines per child because each child has their own.
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| Posted 4/20/07 8:19 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Had an intersting conversation at work... especially for moms of 2 or more
Not a mom of two but honestly I am dying to have another but afraid at the same time. I love my DD so much that I can't imagine having that much love for the next baby. Stupid I know because you do, everyone tell me not to worry but I do. I guess I won't know until I have the next one what they are all talking about.
I can see how you treat them differently though. Everyone's different. No two babies will be alike and have the same personalities so you'll have to react to them differently. One child may be more sensitive than the other, one may be smarter, one more athletic, etc. I guess as long as there isnt' favortism where one feels less special then it's all good.
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hbugal
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Re: Had an intersting conversation at work... especially for moms of 2 or more
Most definitely...
Your children have different personalities and you have different relationships with them...
Even with my set of twins the way I interact with each one is different.
The rules are the same are the same for each child but they are so different that I have to be tougher on each one for different reasons....
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| Posted 4/21/07 12:41 AM |
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Michelle1123
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Re: Had an intersting conversation at work... especially for moms of 2 or more
Yes its very true. It depends on their personalities. My daughter was always very independent - since birth. Liked to be held, but would rather sprawl out on her own - that kind of thing. My son likes to be held, likes cuddling, so I'm taking more of an AP approach with him.
PLUS, the different sexes are hard to avoid treating differently. I love my son in a different way than I love my daughter - not more or less - its just a different feeling. She's the princess diva, and he's my little man. I find myself a lot more protective of him - not wanting anyone else to hold him, feed him, etc.
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Maathy317
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Re: Had an intersting conversation at work... especially for moms of 2 or more
While I love both my girls with all my heart, I treat them differently, simply, because they are two entirely different people. They are like night and day. They have different likes and dislikes, different temperments, different ideas, different ways of doing things, etc. They were like this growing up and where one method worked with one it didn't, necessarily, work with the other. That's just the way it is.
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Elizabeth
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Re: Had an intersting conversation at work... especially for moms of 2 or more
Posted by jgm26
well, I only have one now, but from my experience, yeah I guess parents do treat their kids differently. Not good or bad, but based on their personalities
Absolutely!! I have 3 kids and they all have different personalities so there's no way to treat them the same. Right from the birth of the second one I learned how different 2 kids can be. Additionally, bc my first 2 were different genders, when I had my 3rd (boy), I learned how different 2 boys can be as well. And my kids are small (all under 5) I can only imagine how it will be as their personalities develop even more.
I pray I never show favoritism or contempt towards one over the other. I once worked with a guy (before I had my own kids) who said anyone who tells you that they dont have a favorite amongst their kids is lying. I don't know... anyone have thoughts on that??
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| Posted 4/21/07 11:16 AM |
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04bride
I'm a big sister!!!
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Re: Had an intersting conversation at work... especially for moms of 2 or more
Posted by Elizabeth
Posted by jgm26
well, I only have one now, but from my experience, yeah I guess parents do treat their kids differently. Not good or bad, but based on their personalities
Absolutely!! I have 3 kids and they all have different personalities so there's no way to treat them the same. Right from the birth of the second one I learned how different 2 kids can be. Additionally, bc my first 2 were different genders, when I had my 3rd (boy), I learned how different 2 boys can be as well. And my kids are small (all under 5) I can only imagine how it will be as their personalities develop even more.
I pray I never show favoritism or contempt towards one over the other. I once worked with a guy (before I had my own kids) who said anyone who tells you that they dont have a favorite amongst their kids is lying. I don't know... anyone have thoughts on that??
i really should have been clearer thats really what the girls were telling me.. you will have a favorite for one reason or another.I just find that hard to belive or understand.
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