Having Josh sleep in his room solo....

why is it so hard for me? He will be 5 months in a few days. He has no problem sleeping in his crib, the problem is all mine.

My sister was here the last 2 weeks, so she slept in the extra bed in his room. Then we were temporarily homeless, so he slept with us in the pack and play.

Not sure what my fear is exactly. Leo misses him and says he hates to think of him in the room by himself. Mine is more then that. I don't know if its a kidnapping fear, or a fire fear. No idea. Last night, we bumped uglies in our bed then got up and went to sleep in josh's room.

At 5 months...does it get better, or do I have to tough it out and just leave him in there solo?

tia!

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No answers for you since my kids were in their rooms from day 1, but I hope it does get easier for you.

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I am experiencing EXACTLY what you wrote. Gillian is still in our bed. I just cant make this transition and I am thinking it is us and not her.

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thanks. I should have started him in his room from day 1, but we had so much company, his room became the guest room.

I have moved his crib in and out of my room almost half a dozen times.

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Janice,
You can do it!! Leah has been in her room for 3 months now and it has worked out just fine! You and DH need your time back and he will LOVE his new room!

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I also had DD in her crib in her room since day 1, but I wanted to give you lots of

I LOVE napping with her so I can only imagine what its like to cosleep at night. If my DH wasn't such a rough sleeper and bed hog I may have brought her into bed more often.

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Do it!

It will only get harder for both of you if you continue. I would know, DD will not sleep alone, esp not in her crib... and I am so used to having her by my side...

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that's the weird thing, he doesn't actually sleep with us. He is totally fine in his crib or pack and play. The issue is all us. I am going to do it tonight. Monitors are all set.

ETA: either we sleep in his room, or I move crib back into mine DH never knows what to expect when he comes home at night.

Message edited 5/16/2007 10:35:01 PM.

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Brianna has been in her room for a little over 3 weeks now and the only reason is because she was in the bassinet all this time but she keeps putting her face in the sides of it so she needs to be in the crib

it is so hard everynight to put her in there I go in there at LEAST 25 times to check her

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I know how you feel. If it were up to me DD would probably still be sleeping in the pack n play in our bedroom but DH insisted on putting her in her own room at about 3mths. She magically found her way back to my room several times but by about 4.5mths she finally stayed in her crib. It was a long mourning period for me but in the long run it is better. I still though can't sleep without the video monitor on right next to me.

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thanks! help me out...what is your reasoning for checking 25 times or having the video monitor? Is there a reason? I want to get over whatever I am feeling...

Then I tell myself, I did sleep with him for 9 months, maybe its just seperation anxiety on my part?

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I check to make sure she isnt suffocating,to make sure her windows are still locked and someone hasnt come in her bedroom to "steal" her
I make sure she is still breathing
I make sure the monitor is still on even though I know it is

this is my child I worry about her every minute of every day even in my sleep
that "feeling" never ever goes away

I still check on my 10 and 5 yr old (only once or twice though)

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I think I am going to have that "feeling" too forever. I can't shake it.

thanks for replying...now go check on brianna

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I have monitors in their rooms even though I can hear them crying without it. It makes me feel better to be able to hear them moving around, having a bad dream, congested, whatever. Sarah's 2 and I don't plan on taking her monitor out any time soon.

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DS has to start sleeping in his crib very soon. He's ready..Im not
DH is like "Hun, he's right next door, we have the monitor, etc.."
Its just not the same.
We were going to start last week, then he had a cold, and so that was my worry...his coughing!
The coughing has pretty much gone away, so, now I know its time..soon.
Probably this weekend.
I have to "Break the Ice".

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Call me crazy but once she goes to sleep I start to miss her so seeing her on the monitor comforts me.

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I know exactly how you feel! For the first 3 months Grace slept in the bassinet right next to me. Now she is in the pack in play in the spare closet in our room but still right there. I plan on moving her to her non- used crib in her room down the hall in two months since its so far away and she still breastfeeds twice a night.

I have no idea how I am going to do this- it scares me so much to think she will be so far away.

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You have to do what works for you and what you feel comfortable with. We share a bedroom with Ava until she was 8 months old. Granted, we had no choice because we only have one bedroom and she was in the crib next to us, but I hated it. That being said, now that we don't share a room anymore, I miss her and I worry about her at night, where as I never thought I would. We just weren't sleeping at night. Jt would wake her up, I was unhappy that I couldn't lay in bed and watch tv and what not, it was just a bad situation as she got older, so we sleep on the pull out couch now (we're moving in 4 weeks, so not for long!), and like I said, I still miss her and worry about her, but man, it's the best decision we've made.

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I just told DH that I don't want DD to sleep in her crib just yet...my reason is selfish. I love seeing her smile when she wakes up. She is in a co-sleeper attached to us.

I know DH and I need our privacy again, but I really love seeing her eyes open and she sees me and smiles

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I never realized how far apart the bedrooms in our tiny house were until they had to sleep in their own room.

It does get better - especially when they're sleeping in their own bed & you don't have those little elbows & knees in your back.

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Do you have a video monitor? That was my lifesaver. Even with that the beginning was tough but it definitely gets easier but I liked being able to click it on whenever and see her. We didn't move her until 6 months but that was only because no one was getting any sleep otherwise it probably wouldn't have happened then.

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You will get used to it...you just have to do it and it will get easier

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Here's another thought. If you're happy with him in your room and he's happy -- why make yourself unhappy by moving him?

Just a thought, but he has the rest of his life to sleep in his own room and he'll only be a baby once.

I've been thinking about moving DS into his own room and was shocked when I mentioned something to my husband and he said, "really, you want to move him so soon?" It is so sweet to look over and see him sleeping next to our bed (he sleeps in a co-sleeper) -- it's a memory we'll always treasure. We all still sleep well and it's just not time to give it up yet.

ETA: Eventually you will be ready to move him and that will be the perfect time to make the transition.

Message edited 5/17/2007 8:05:21 AM.

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I agree, why does he have to go into his own room if you don't want him to?

We had Noah in our room with us for six months, that was exactly what I wanted. Towards the six month point, I wanted my bed and my love life back...so thats why we moved him to his room. It was a good move all around, but if you aren't ready...don't do it! End of. But personally, I had no anxieties about moving him, the six month point is what is recommended for SIDS safety in the UK.