He just wont leave me alone....

I have a male cat that is extremely affectionate and what I call needy. When DH and I go to bed it has now come to the point where the cat must sleep between us. If DH and I are too close he just climbs on either one of us and actually curl right up on us.

From the moment I walk thru the door the cat is following me. I usually change out of clothes and then use the restroom, cat is right there for it all. When I sit on the couch, he HAS to be in my lap. I don't get it. It seems like over time its progressively getting worse. Nothing in our lifes has changes. We haven't introduced any new pets and it's not like we give our other cat anymore attention.

what do i do? Sometimes its cute, but sometimes everyone needs just a little space to breath. I just end up feeling guilty, like I'm neglecting him.

Re: He just wont leave me alone....

I really don't know if this applies to cats or not so bear that in mind.

With dogs, demanding attention is a sign of dominance. To solidify your role as dominant over them, you must deny them by making your body unavailable, like turning your back if they jump on you. Any outward physical motion (like pushing them) is considered attention, and they are winning a little.

To break our new dog of this, when I would come home, I would completely ignore them for 10 minutes. It hurts your heart because they're so happy to see you, but it's in their best interests to be a well-rounded member of the family, so you must.

When she would come over while I was sitting at my desk and nudge my arm, I would turn the chair so she couldn't have access to me anymore.

However, when the 10 minute period was over, or when she walked away from my chair, I would wait about a minute, and call her to me. As long as I am requesting the attention from HER, she is happy to oblige and she learns that to get what she wants, she has to wait for me to do it on my terms. Everyone wins.

If you Google "Nothing in life is free training techniques" you will find more on this kind of philosophy. Good luck!

Re: He just wont leave me alone....

i am interested as well