Household changes after becoming a SAHM????

My question are :
Do your DH's work alot? Do you have help? What's it like? What changes did you have to make to do it? Has it compromised your marriage?

Thanx

Message edited 9/27/2006 9:56:07 PM.

Re: Household changes after becoming a SAHM????

My DH works long hours M-F. He leaves our house at 6am and still isn't home. When it was just Sarah I didn't need a lot of help and my mom was caring for her mom, so it was me and her alone a lot of the time. Now with Andy my mom tries to stop by after work every day and give me a little breather.

Re: Household changes after becoming a SAHM????

Wow, thanks for your reply. DH works those hours M-W, T-F 6 am to 5:30 and Saturday 6-6. I would never see him if he worked more....I just feel so conflicted.

Re: Household changes after becoming a SAHM????

If you feel conflicted, you have to go with your gut. A happy mom will make a happy baby (and happy hubby )

I need to have a happy medium. Im always told Im so lucky that I can afford to stay home if I want, but I really enjoy working, I need the breather (well sometimes a classroom of kids isnt much of a break )
But Ive set so many goals for myself in life, I went back to finish my Masters when my first was 3m old. There I was having my ID photo taken with a 3m old in the stroller next to me.
and I was happy as can be and excited as ever to get back in school.

At home, I adore my boys, I love being home with them. We do everything from playgrounds, arts n crafts with mommy, reading, and just watching and listening to them amazes me. I adore them from head to toe. I stare at them in aw, their existence leaves me speechless. They take my breath away. They are my heart and soul.
but I need my time too and I need to accomplish my own things too. Theyve even become part of my long term goals (writing things to/for them).

Just today my mom was saying how she cooked every single day when we were kids (had 4 kids under the age of 4
) she did it all, you name it. and "we" (this generation) dont do a portion of what they did..
I looked at the dinner dishes tonite (she's over here and needless to say she made us a big Italian meal ) but I looked at the kitchen filled with dirty pots pans and dishes and said "Now you wouldnt pay $20 (out to eat) to NOT have to do this ????????"

Everyone is so different. Some people enjoy doing doing doing doing, giving giviing giving of themselves 24/7.
I dont mind it. I love my family. I love making sure that everyone is taken care of, all aspects of the home are running smoothly, etc. but mommy needs pampering too. Work, coffee nites, hobbies, dreams... Its all a very important part of life. and my goals are part of who I am (one of them is to write a childrens book or 2 or 3 ).

My mind is too overwired for me to NOT follow my own dreams...
Some may think its selfish, some may not feel the same, but this is my gut and my heart, and it makes me who I am, and Im happier all around when Im setting out to get it aLL done somehow...
did I ramble too much ??

After all that I should have mentioned that Im a SAHM for now, working p/t, possibly looking for a job in a year or 2. just subbing for now, enjoying the best of both worlds.

I hope that helped.
Do what your heart tells you

Message edited 9/27/2006 10:10:56 PM.