how did you discipline your dc to not throw tantrums?

how old was your dc when you started actively disciplining them? did you use time outs?

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Honestly, by ignoring it. Once they see tantrums don't get a reaction they stop.

how did you discipline your dc to not throw tantrums?

Ha!!! I'm only laughign because my sis and I were just talking about this. When you tell my DS no he throws himself on the floor and cries. he has been doign this for months. We jsut make sure he doesn't hurt himself and let him cry a bit.

My sister called saying her DS was goign through the terribel 2's at 14 months cause he was doing the same thing.....I laughed and said we have been dealing with it for months.

I do not do timeouts yet.....he doesn't understand that yet but he does understand NO. I will take him away from things also.

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ignore it completely. In fact, i used to just walk right over him and not look back.

the more you feed into it, the more they'll do it.

As for time outs, we started at 1 1/2.

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I used to just walk away and say when you are finished Mommy will be happy to talk to you. Once they realize you will ignore them they get better or go away. I think some kids do them more than others. I wouldn't do time out. Just ignore and let them know they won't get what they want by having them.

how did you discipline your dc to not throw tantrums?

I started with time out around 20 mos, only for biting or hitting.
The tantrums I just ignore. If she's really going crazy on the floor "break dancing", then I put her in the crib and walk away until she's done.

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Tantrums are pretty much normal at that age so I don't think you can teach them not to do it.
But you can ignore it- so they realize it won't get them anywhere.

how did you discipline your dc to not throw tantrums?

I ignore and wait till she's done. Usually she comes over to me and gives me a hug when shes finished lol.

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My now 22 month old DS started to bang his head on the floor or the wall at 15 months old. He would do it whenever he was frustrated, over tired and or whenever he heard the word no. He was giving himself bruises on his forehead and I was afraid he would get hurt. I started by emptying the pack n play and placing it in a room down the hall. Whenever he "lost it" I would remove him from the situation by saying "no head banging". I would then put him in the pack n play and leave him there for no more than 2 mins. When I went to take him out I would hug him and say "no head butting". This taught him that he can get frustrated but he can't lash out. A few month ago he graduated from the pack n play timeout to sitting on the bottom stair. He is still strong willed but he VERY RARELY bangs his head when frustrated. On occasion he will make a motion as if he is going to bang his head but he stops just short of it. At 22 months, I can say "one more time and you'll be in timeout" and oftentimes that's enough. I think the pack n play helped structure the idea for timeouts as he was forced to stay. Once he got the hang of it, he now stays put whereever timeout is designated and once timeout is over I ask him if he is sorry for 'xyz' and he gives us a hug.

how did you discipline your dc to not throw tantrums?

Ignore! DD is 19 months. She does get time outs, and has since about a year old, when appropriate (biting, hitting, etc). When she throws tantrums, the only thing to do is ignore it. She will just keep going if you try to distract her with something else or pay her any attention. It ends much faster when ignored. Sometimes she just really needs to let it out.

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I'm usually not all touchy-feely like this and in fact, I consider myself a fairly strict disciplinarian, but I do not discipline for tantrums.

I truly feel most tantrums are not a manipulation tactic; I think that at 27 months (or whatever the case is...my son is 27 mos) they truly cannot control their emotions when they're sad, angry, or frustrated. I think back to all three of my post-partum periods when I would just sob uncontrollably for no real reason. If my DH would have walked past me and ignored me, I would have been devastated. That's how I view it. So when he throws a tantrum, I pick him up and cuddle with him and "explain" the situation. Now, I don't do this 100% of the time, (other times I throw my own tantrum and start screaming back at him ), but when I do I find it really works!

In the end, it's a phase (in the case of my 5 yr old DD a verrrry long phase--one in which I don't kiss and cuddle ) and it WILL end! Hang in there!

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Oh this thread makes me feel so much better about my bad boy

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Posted by Eireann

I'm usually not all touchy-feely like this and in fact, I consider myself a fairly strict disciplinarian, but I do not discipline for tantrums.

I truly feel most tantrums are not a manipulation tactic; I think that at 27 months (or whatever the case is...my son is 27 mos) they truly cannot control their emotions when they're sad, angry, or frustrated. I think back to all three of my post-partum periods when I would just sob uncontrollably for no real reason. If my DH would have walked past me and ignored me, I would have been devastated. That's how I view it. So when he throws a tantrum, I pick him up and cuddle with him and "explain" the situation. Now, I don't do this 100% of the time, (other times I throw my own tantrum and start screaming back at him ), but when I do I find it really works!

In the end, it's a phase (in the case of my 5 yr old DD a verrrry long phase--one in which I don't kiss and cuddle ) and it WILL end! Hang in there!

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DD is almost 21 months and we just ignore it. Sometimes I comment and say "really, you want to roll on the floor... I am going to the other room"...sometimes I try and distract her/change the subject to get her to do something else and usually that works...

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My boys (17 months) throw fits when I say NO, but mostly they save the big ol melt downs for when I won't pick them up. I try to ignore but I have in the past few weeks started putting one in the play pen because he can just be relentless and wants to be held 24/7

how did you discipline your dc to not throw tantrums?

I was having some issues with my 17 mo old and asked my ped what to do. She said, "Tell him NO, put him down/turn him away from whatever it is that he shouldn't be doing, and, as long as he is safe, ignore for one minute. Don't even let him see your face." It's tough, and it doesn't always work as planned, but I'm seeing a difference.

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For tantrums I usually ignore for a bit then try to redirect. They are usually "stuck" on something and once they have a few minutes it is easy to redirect them and they forget all about it.

For hitting, biting, throwing toys, etc I discipline. A short time out and make them apologize.

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Tantrums are ignored! Time out was used at 12 months adjusted for hair pulling. And still is

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