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How do get my 3 year old to stop whining and yelling at his sister?
So DS is 3 and walks around most of the day yelling or whining and when it is directed to my 2 year old she gets so upset and starts crying.
I tell DS that it isn't nice to yell and that DD didn't do anything wrong.
DD is on the sensitive side. The minute DS tells her no she is in tears.
Any words of wisdom from my BTDT mommies??
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nrthshgrl
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Re: How do get my 3 year old to stop whining and yelling at his sister?
Mine are 6 & almost 8 years old. I tell DS to handle it & get her to stop crying since he started it.The only solution I can think of is to give one up for adoption but I really like both of them.
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| Posted 8/6/09 9:44 AM |
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Re: How do get my 3 year old to stop whining and yelling at his sister?
I have no idea, but if you figure something out, PLEASE let me know!!!!!
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| Posted 8/6/09 1:43 PM |
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Charly
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Re: How do get my 3 year old to stop whining and yelling at his sister?
Posted by MrsGmomof3
I have no idea, but if you figure something out, PLEASE let me know!!!!!
I really don't know the RIGHT answer, but I've tried some things that have a temporary effect.
My DD is 2 1/2 and can sometimes be the sweetest thing to DS (who is 1 ) and other times she's just mean and yells at him for NO reason. I tell her she's not being nice to go give him a kiss and a hug and say she's sorry. Well she does it, but that's it - she goes back to being mean.
Other times when it just gets too much I tell her I going to talk to her like she talks to DS and she gets upset and stops. Kinda mean, but it does "show" her how it feels. I always kiss and hug her after and explain that it hurts his feelings just like it hurt her feelings. That tends to work longer.
Other times I tell her she has to play in her room by herself or tell her she's going to lose a bedtime book if she can't be nice to him. She doesn't want that either, so she'll stop.
None of these work all day since I think it's quite normal for sibliings to fight, BUT she is learning and it's SLOWLY cutting down the number of times I have to say it.
On the flip side when he is mean to her I do tell him its not nice and I ask him to give her a kiss or pull him away from the activity. Consistency is important so your oldest doesn't always feel you are "picking" on them.
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Re: How do get my 3 year old to stop whining and yelling at his sister?
sorry, i have no advice - my sisters are 26 and 24 and they still yell and whine at each other 
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| Posted 8/6/09 2:12 PM |
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Re: How do get my 3 year old to stop whining and yelling at his sister?
Posted by nrthshgrl
Mine are 6 & almost 8 years old. I tell DS to handle it & get her to stop crying since he started it.The only solution I can think of is to give one up for adoption but I really like both of them.
That's so funny:)
My 3 yo is on his brother like white on rice. It is so irritating. But, I think that 3 is the whinning age regardless. I ask him if he is a big boy - he always says yes and then I say then why are you whinning, use your big boy voice - what is the problem.... Or I just separate them, which they hate and then it gets better for ---- oh five minutes.
Now my DS that is 1.5 walks around whinning for no reason. It's absolutely rediculous because he has no idea why he is - he's just immitating his brother. Insanity.
Good luck, if you find the cure let us know.
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| Posted 8/6/09 10:01 PM |
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Re: How do get my 3 year old to stop whining and yelling at his sister?
Posted by Charly
Posted by MrsGmomof3
I have no idea, but if you figure something out, PLEASE let me know!!!!!
I really don't know the RIGHT answer, but I've tried some things that have a temporary effect.
My DD is 2 1/2 and can sometimes be the sweetest thing to DS (who is 1 ) and other times she's just mean and yells at him for NO reason. I tell her she's not being nice to go give him a kiss and a hug and say she's sorry. Well she does it, but that's it - she goes back to being mean.
Other times when it just gets too much I tell her I going to talk to her like she talks to DS and she gets upset and stops. Kinda mean, but it does "show" her how it feels. I always kiss and hug her after and explain that it hurts his feelings just like it hurt her feelings. That tends to work longer.
Other times I tell her she has to play in her room by herself or tell her she's going to lose a bedtime book if she can't be nice to him. She doesn't want that either, so she'll stop.
None of these work all day since I think it's quite normal for sibliings to fight, BUT she is learning and it's SLOWLY cutting down the number of times I have to say it.
On the flip side when he is mean to her I do tell him its not nice and I ask him to give her a kiss or pull him away from the activity. Consistency is important so your oldest doesn't always feel you are "picking" on them.
I am going to try some of these out, thanks.
Unfortunately I think I passed the trait on to DS because I vividly recall my aunt always telling me to stop whining
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