How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

This is going to be my second child, third for my husband. Him and I are both divorced and we got married in September. His kids are 23 & 20, and my DD is going to be 7. My mom wants to throw me a baby shower, but I feel a little weird since I already had one with my first, but I do need everythng baby...please let me know how you guys feel about this...

Message edited 1/1/2009 6:16:57 PM.

Re: ow do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

I just recently went to a baby shower for a woman who was pregnant with her 3rd child. Her first two children were much older so she no longer had any baby items. I don't think it's a problem at all, especially since someone is offering to throw one for you. HTH.

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

I agree... since your other kids are so much older, I think it is a great idea!

I dont like them when the kids are close in age though.

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

I think it is a nice idea. Every baby and every pregnancy should be celebrated. If they are close a little "sprinkle" is a nice way to show love and support for a the mom to be. If the kids are far apart in age another shower is appropriate and a wonderful gesture.

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

I've never seen anything wrong with them. I think it's especially fine in your case since this is your first child with DH & your other child is several years older.

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

I just threw a "sprinkle" shower for my sisters 2nd baby......she had her 4 years after her first, and they moved within the 4 years, so she lost or threw out a lot of stuff. She created a small registry, just for basics that she needed (and I think a new swing, that was the only larger item). I had the party at her house, so it was a little more informal too.

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

Every baby should be celebrated, a small shower for #2 is fine in my eyes

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

Posted by Mikismom

Every baby should be celebrated, a small shower for #2 is fine in my eyes

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

In your situation I think it's totally appropriate since your DD is so much older and you probably don't have much baby stuff left around.

Personally, I would feel weird about it in my situation since my son is only 2 years old and we had one before he was born. I have heard of people having "sprinkles" to celebrate the baby which I think it is a nice idea.

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

Thanks girls... I really appreciate the feedback.

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

When the older children are close in age to the new baby, I don't think it is a great idea, but in your case, with there being a 7 year difference, it is totally okay!

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

While I think every baby should be celebrated I'm not a fan of sprinkles or showers for 2nd babies etc. In fact until I came on here I have never heard of sprinkles - around where I grew up people didn't have more than one shower. But in your case I think it is an entirely different story - there is a long time between children and this is the first child for you and your DH so I think a shower would be fine in this case.

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

good for people who's kids are so spread apart...you cant be expected to keep baby items when you have a 7 year old...

if the kids are 2-3 years apart then peoplemore often people have saved the stuff from the first- and people would receive the cloth items when the baby is born anyways-

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

I feel its a good idea, why not? If people have a problem with it they wont show.

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

Posted by youngmama

I feel its a good idea, why not? If people have a problem with it they wont show.

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

i had one with my second and my 2 kids where 7 years apart (and different genders).
My very close friend wants to have a small gathering for me for this one, and i felt weird, but decided that as long as people understand that im expecting nothing and just want them to celebrate the new addition, then thats fine.
I've come to realize that people, especially close friends and family, do get really excited and want to do nice things, so might as well enjoy it.

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

I think there is a big difference between having a second baby shower when your 'babies' are only 1-3 or 4 years apart - IMO that's obnoxious -

But your DH's kids are in their 20's, and your youngest is 7 ........I don't think it's bad -

If you're not totally comfortable, what about doing something on the smaller side?

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

Posted by Mikismom

Every baby should be celebrated, a small shower for #2 is fine in my eyes

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

Message edited 1/2/2009 9:12:37 AM.

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

Posted by Mikismom

Posted by CrankyPants

Posted by Mikismom

Posted by MarisaK

I think there is a big difference between having a second baby shower when your 'babies' are only 1-3 or 4 years apart - IMO that's obnoxious -

?

can you please expain why it is Obnoxious? I do not and will never get that thinking. If my family and friends want to have a small GTG to CELEBRATE my upcoming child, what is wrong with that? (my DC will be 2.5 years apart) I really really don't get it

I guess the bottom line is, do what you are comfortable with, people who don't like it, don't have to show up.

Not to answer for the poster and I do not think it is obnoxious to have a second shower, but for me: I think a lot of people associate a shower with big gifts etc. I think that kind of shower only happens with your first (unless the kids are really far apart) and people might think it odd to have two back to back big showers since you probably have all the big stuff already.

To have a celebration for your second/third, whether you call it a sprinkle or a shower or a party, I don't think there is anything wrong with that as every kid should be celebrated. I just probably wouldn't register for the big ticket items. I probably wouldn't register at all but I know I always find it easier to shop for these things when there is a registry. That's JMO of course!

I agree with this, I would not register for another swing, PNP, stroller etc

but if people want to celebrate with me and buy small items (diapers, onesies, etc), I see NO problem with it

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?

Re: How do you feel about a baby shower for #2?