How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

on how to take care of your baby/child?

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

or

and then do exactly what I planned on doing anyway.

But seriously, I listen but don't take it to heart.

But she very seldomly will give me advice.

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

Depending on what it is I usually just say ok and do what I want anyway. Other times I will take her advice.

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

Posted by saraH



or

and then do exactly what I planned on doing anyway.

But seriously, I listen but don't take it to heart.

But she very seldomly will give me advice.

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

I think I would from the shock. She has never offered advice.

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

pfffft, I hear it every day, inlaws watch my DS. Most time I just laugh at them and tell them no I don't do that. it's so annoying, they def. let me know that they "know" him better bc they are with him all day

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

I didn't handle it well when DS was a baby because the unsolicted advicec was constant! I would get annoyed and usually just tell her that's not how I do it and not how I want it done. I learned quickly to just loosen up and hear her out. Most times I will still ignore her advice but once in a while she will say something that I didn't think of that makes sense, so I'll give it a try. I try to listen with an open ear, but I still get the final say how I do things with my DS.

Message edited 3/12/2009 8:59:01 AM.

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

i handle it differently, last time i couldnt take it so i threw my coat on and said, sorry need to run meeting my friend for a walk. LOL..... (that only works when she comes over unannounced, which is EVERYTIME) other times i say, the dr told me to do it this way... i ALWAYS blame on doc. and sometimes i ignore her totally. it depends what mood i am in.
when my mom does it i say, "God created menopause for a reason.." in other words leave me alone, its my kid and u r too old to raise one. LOL...

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

I am usually very sarcastic, so I get away with telling her how i feel, and making her think Its funny. But I am point blank with her, she usually gets the hint and shuts it. At least for a minute or two

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

1) Nod
2) Smile
3) Do what I was going to do anyway.

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

I tried many times to let it go in one ear and just do what ever the hell I want to do, but the constant critisim was getting to me. The straw broke the camel's back a couple of weeks ago at a family party. She point blank said that I'm definately overfeeding DD. I had enough and I walked out of the restaurant. DH followed me and asked what was wrong and I told him everything that I was feeling and asked him to speak to his mother. Its gotten a lot better.

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

"Advice is one of those things it is far more blessed to give than to receive"
Listen (I always listen to advice from experienced family members and friends )But do what I feel is right thing to do when it comes to my baby and us. Sometimes they(MIL and mom mostly) do give good advice, most times I don't really care much for them , but as I said I'll listen anyway.

Message edited 3/11/2009 11:04:17 PM.

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

I would go like this......... ........because that would mean that she actually came to see Emerson OR even ask about her and since that NEVER happens I don't have to worry about any advice from her.

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

Posted by Hofstra26

I would go like this......... ........because that would mean that she actually came to see Emerson OR even ask about her and since that NEVER happens I don't have to worry about any advice from her.

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

then

then I do what I want anyway....Until I am not around and the my ILs do everything that they want without asking!!

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

I usually listen to what she has to say. If it is something I feel is not right for us, I just let it go. If it is something that I know the doc or some other source has changed their way of doing things, I will tell her so. I don't really want to totally dismiss her b/c I know that she is just making suggestions to help me and her grandchild, so if it is something I def will not do I try to tell her why.

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

I have no problem with my MIL giving me advice because when she does I know she means well.

I actually don't mind when anyone gives me advice. I may not always follow their advice at all times but I always listen. It doesn't hurt for me listen.

Message edited 3/12/2009 8:08:26 AM.

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

Posted by Jazzyt

Posted by Hofstra26

I would go like this......... ........because that would mean that she actually came to see Emerson OR even ask about her and since that NEVER happens I don't have to worry about any advice from her.

Ditto

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

I listen-my MIL usually gives me really good advice. I don't know how we would have made it through those first few nights without her.

She's not pushy at all and some of her advice is outdated, but she takes it really well when I let her know that XXXX is no longer recommended.

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

I just listen and say "okay"....

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

Oh don't even get me started on this topic. I could tell you stories upon stories...

I hold my tongue for the most part and i NEVER hold my tongue.

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

Posted by aliwnec10

Oh don't even get me started on this topic. I could tell you stories upon stories...

I hold my tongue for the most part and i NEVER hold my tongue.

Re: How do you handle it when your MIL gives you her opinion

Posted by chelle

Posted by aliwnec10

Oh don't even get me started on this topic. I could tell you stories upon stories...

I hold my tongue for the most part and i NEVER hold my tongue.

I was waiting for you to respond!!!