How do you handle the stress?

DH and I have only been with an RE for a few months but I am finding it so stressful. Don't get me wrong, I am so glad we are on the path to getting PG and I will do whatever it takes. I just have trouble managing all of it sometimes. I feel like the early morning appts, waiting for phone calls, waiting to see if it worked- all of it is taking a toll. Anyone else feel this way? Any tips?

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I feel like the very WORST part of all this is the waiting and the uncertainty ... but I keep reminding myself that EVERYONE who is trying to have a baby, naturally or not, goes through the same kind of waiting and uncertainty. Granted our road is much different than most, but still I find the waiting to be the worst part and that's one thing that everyone who tries has to deal with

I don't mind the appointments/monitoring. In fact, I like knowing what's going on in there and look forward to the appointments to see the progress I made, etc (maybe I'm weird and that's just e )

Basically, I came out of this a success story several months ago (although back sooner than planned) and I know that it's 1000000000000% worth the bumpy road to get there. The 6wk sono to see my next baby's heartbeat is the motivation that really keeps me going!

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It really is stressful. I take it day by day and hurdle by hurdle. It will all be worth it in the end.

Good Luck!

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Posted by PennyCat

I don't mind the appointments/monitoring. In fact, I like knowing what's going on in there and look forward to the appointments to see the progress I made, etc (maybe I'm weird and that's just e )

Basically, I came out of this a success story several months ago (although back sooner than planned) and I know that it's 1000000000000% worth the bumpy road to get there. The 6wk sono to see my next baby's heartbeat is the motivation that really keeps me going!

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sometimes its no big deal ...other times i am so stressed cause i dont know what day they will need me for monitering...and how that conflicts with work.

much less i am so sensitive to meds sigh.

but biggest day to day is work/life and scheduling...... eeks!

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so stressful! I started therapy which really helps. and accupuncture which definilty helped.
It is not an easy road but there are ways to lessen the stress.
Good luck!

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I started to talk about it which was helpful because I bottled it up. I also threw myself into watching TV series that I never seen like grey's and private practice

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It's very hard. I have good days and bad days. There are days where I just tell myself God has a plan and I WILL be a mother one day. There are other days when I cry and feel sorry for myself. I just allow myself to have those days and get it out when I need.

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acupuncture has helped a ton.
overall just try and keep yourself occupied with other things. sitting around doing nothing thinking about your situation is a recipe for sadness. take up a completely unrelated hobby, or throw yourself into your job. enjoy your time with your hubby more - go out to dinner, go to the movies, do things that will be harder when the time comes. you'll work your way around appointments, we all figure it out one way or another. just be good to yourself and don't put too much pressure on yourself. when i first started cycling with an RE i was always trying to diet and lose weight at the same time. i gave that up. i still try and be good in between, but during a cycle its too much to eat low cal, go to the gym, and keep up with all the meds side effects. don't take on more than you can happily handle. just be good to yourself!! you will get through this, i truly believe we will all end up on the other side of the rainbow - even if it's not the way we thought we would get there!! hang in there!!

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Thanks for all the great tips. It's good to know I'm not alone. Today is a better day. Some days are fine, others are tough. We will all get there and on the good days I try to tell myself that all of this will make us appreciate our little one even more.

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Acupuncture has helped tremendously! I also have been reading more than usual - which seems to temporarily get my mind off of everything.

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I agree.. the early morning appts can be stressful, but i try and look at them as more helpful. If the appts weren't so early, i'd end up always being late for work, which would be even more stressful!

i usually end up feeling fairly positive after each blood/sono appt because i feel like i'm one step closer to getting a result, and it gives me a plan, something to look forward to

But i totally agree that the whole process is completely and utterly draining sometimes. I think we all have days where we just want to give up.. but then the pity party ends, and we realize that its all for a good cause

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i totally agree and we are jsut starting the IVF process. i think i am more stressed and making myself crazy about the whole work and scheduling appts, getting to work late, taking off. I am probably overthinking everything and just to take a step back and breathe and say this will all be worth it.

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it is a journey for some of us that takes us to high points and some low points. It can be down right tough. I will admit some days are harder than others but even after the hardest day you still have to have HOPE dont give that up. You can see some of the ladies on here have had the bumpiest roads and wind up with a success story and happy tears Tears of joy.

Good luck to you