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LIMOMx2
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How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
before you question whether or not they got the gift?
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Posted 11/11/08 10:42 AM  |
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1stimemom
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
1-2 mos
ETA ~ it really depends on what it is for. I give people with babies a little longer, especially now that I understand firsthand
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| Posted 11/11/08 10:47 AM |
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MrsB-07
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
well depends for me.... if it was for a shower or birthday, then maybe like 2-3 weeks. If it was for a wedding, then I'd wait longer because of the honeymoon, then the time it takes to go thru all the gifts, plus I don't know if they are waiting to have special cards or pictures printed to send... so maybe a couple of months for something like that.
Message edited 11/11/2008 10:48:53 AM.
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| Posted 11/11/08 10:48 AM |
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Luv2bAmom
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
honestly I never give it a second thought. I don't assume that everyone that receives a gift will send a thak you card.
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| Posted 11/11/08 10:55 AM |
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Tine73
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
It really depends. IMO, a lot of people don't even send them which is really annoying. Including my BF who lives in Chicago. I wait about a week after I know she should have got it and then I send her an email to make sure she got it. So rude!! I don't always need an official TY not, but a quick email would be nice. Sorry for the rant....
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| Posted 11/11/08 11:04 AM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
Posted by Luv2bAmom
honestly I never give it a second thought. I don't assume that everyone that receives a gift will send a thak you card.
Sorry. I think this is so rude if someone doesn't send a TY.
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| Posted 11/11/08 12:03 PM |
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BigB
C & J are 10!
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Luv2bAmom
honestly I never give it a second thought. I don't assume that everyone that receives a gift will send a thak you card.
Sorry. I think this is so rude if someone doesn't send a TY.
So do I! I feel horrible that I am just sending out tys from the twin's 1st birthday..but it has been crazy here!
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| Posted 11/11/08 1:02 PM |
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seaside
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
It depends on who the recipient is. I like to make sure stuff got there, but sometimes I know my custimers....
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| Posted 11/11/08 1:17 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
Posted by Luv2bAmom
honestly I never give it a second thought. I don't assume that everyone that receives a gift will send a thak you card.
I don't either--it is nice to get one but I don't hold it against someone if I don't. i swear with all the thank you'in and gift giving it's amazing we all have time to appreciate what we have been given or have to be thankful for. I do send thank you cards but I am big on personalizing them so it takes me a month usually. Whats the point if you write the same thing in everyone's card you know?
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| Posted 11/11/08 1:20 PM |
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Luv2bAmom
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Luv2bAmom
honestly I never give it a second thought. I don't assume that everyone that receives a gift will send a thak you card.
Sorry. I think this is so rude if someone doesn't send a TY.
Maybe but I also think its silly to send a gift and be upset at someone because they didn't send a thank you in what you think is an appropirate time.
A gift should be given with out ANY expectations.
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| Posted 11/11/08 1:34 PM |
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VickiC
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
Posted by Luv2bAmom
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Luv2bAmom
honestly I never give it a second thought. I don't assume that everyone that receives a gift will send a thak you card.
Sorry. I think this is so rude if someone doesn't send a TY.
Maybe but I also think its silly to send a gift and be upset at someone because they didn't send a thank you in what you think is an appropirate time.
A gift should be given with out ANY expectations.
Yes, but if you aren't physically there when a person opens a gift, I think a TY is in order. Even a phone call TY is acceptable to me. There's nothing worse then sending a gift and not knowing if it was received. It's just rude to not send a TY.
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| Posted 11/11/08 1:50 PM |
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Luv2bAmom
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
Posted by VickiC
Posted by Luv2bAmom
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Luv2bAmom
honestly I never give it a second thought. I don't assume that everyone that receives a gift will send a thak you card.
Sorry. I think this is so rude if someone doesn't send a TY.
Maybe but I also think its silly to send a gift and be upset at someone because they didn't send a thank you in what you think is an appropirate time.
A gift should be given with out ANY expectations.
Yes, but if you aren't physically there when a person opens a gift, I think a TY is in order. Even a phone call TY is acceptable to me. There's nothing worse then sending a gift and not knowing if it was received. It's just rude to not send a TY.
Of course if you are there you shouild say TY, I'm just saying people waste alot of energy on being disappointed because someone else does not do something just like they would like them to. I think if you send a gift don't sit around counting the days wating for a TY, if you get one great if not, no biggie.
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| Posted 11/11/08 2:00 PM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
Posted by Luv2bAmom
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Luv2bAmom
honestly I never give it a second thought. I don't assume that everyone that receives a gift will send a thak you card.
Sorry. I think this is so rude if someone doesn't send a TY.
Maybe but I also think its silly to send a gift and be upset at someone because they didn't send a thank you in what you think is an appropirate time.
A gift should be given with out ANY expectations.
Do you send TY's for gifts?
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| Posted 11/11/08 2:12 PM |
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Luv2bAmom
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Luv2bAmom
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Luv2bAmom
honestly I never give it a second thought. I don't assume that everyone that receives a gift will send a thak you card.
Sorry. I think this is so rude if someone doesn't send a TY.
Maybe but I also think its silly to send a gift and be upset at someone because they didn't send a thank you in what you think is an appropirate time.
A gift should be given with out ANY expectations.
Do you send TY's for gifts?
Why do you ask?
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| Posted 11/11/08 2:14 PM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
Posted by Luv2bAmom
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Luv2bAmom
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Luv2bAmom
honestly I never give it a second thought. I don't assume that everyone that receives a gift will send a thak you card.
Sorry. I think this is so rude if someone doesn't send a TY.
Maybe but I also think its silly to send a gift and be upset at someone because they didn't send a thank you in what you think is an appropirate time.
A gift should be given with out ANY expectations.
Do you send TY's for gifts?
Why do you ask?
Just curious because you are so against getting upset about not receiving one.
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| Posted 11/11/08 2:18 PM |
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Luv2bAmom
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Luv2bAmom
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Luv2bAmom
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Luv2bAmom
honestly I never give it a second thought. I don't assume that everyone that receives a gift will send a thak you card.
Sorry. I think this is so rude if someone doesn't send a TY.
Maybe but I also think its silly to send a gift and be upset at someone because they didn't send a thank you in what you think is an appropirate time.
A gift should be given with out ANY expectations.
Do you send TY's for gifts?
Why do you ask?
Just curious because you are so against getting upset about not receiving one.
Not upset, you are probably misintrpreting the tone of what I wrote.
If I recall it was you who said to me that you thought that what I orginally wrote was rude. So I was just responding to you.
To answer your question, yes I write TY notes, and I also give gifts but it has never crossed my mind to look a the calendar and wonder why someone I gave a gift to has not send me a TY, I never gave it a second thought. I give a gift and wait for NOthing in return.
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| Posted 11/11/08 2:21 PM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
Posted by Luv2bAmom
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Luv2bAmom
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Luv2bAmom
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Luv2bAmom
honestly I never give it a second thought. I don't assume that everyone that receives a gift will send a thak you card.
Sorry. I think this is so rude if someone doesn't send a TY.
Maybe but I also think its silly to send a gift and be upset at someone because they didn't send a thank you in what you think is an appropirate time.
A gift should be given with out ANY expectations.
Do you send TY's for gifts?
Why do you ask?
Just curious because you are so against getting upset about not receiving one.
Not upset, you are probably misintrpreting the tone of what I wrote.
If I recall it was you who said to me that you thought that what I orginally wrote was rude. So I was just responding to you.
To answer your question, yes I write TY notes, and I also give gifts but it has never crossed my mind to look a the calendar and wonder why someone I gave a gift to has not send me a TY, I never gave it a second thought. I give a gift and wait for NOthing in return.
If you read what I wrote I never said you were rude I said people that don't send TY's are rude.
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| Posted 11/11/08 2:24 PM |
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Luv2bAmom
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Luv2bAmom
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Luv2bAmom
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Luv2bAmom
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by Luv2bAmom
honestly I never give it a second thought. I don't assume that everyone that receives a gift will send a thak you card.
Sorry. I think this is so rude if someone doesn't send a TY.
Maybe but I also think its silly to send a gift and be upset at someone because they didn't send a thank you in what you think is an appropirate time.
A gift should be given with out ANY expectations.
Do you send TY's for gifts?
Why do you ask?
Just curious because you are so against getting upset about not receiving one.
Not upset, you are probably misintrpreting the tone of what I wrote.
If I recall it was you who said to me that you thought that what I orginally wrote was rude. So I was just responding to you.
To answer your question, yes I write TY notes, and I also give gifts but it has never crossed my mind to look a the calendar and wonder why someone I gave a gift to has not send me a TY, I never gave it a second thought. I give a gift and wait for NOthing in return.
If you read what I wrote I never said you were rude I said people that don't send TY's are rude.
Well I guess I just don't think that makes a person rude, we can agree to disagree.
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| Posted 11/11/08 2:26 PM |
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seaside
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
I think it's very rude not to send a TY. Yes, one gives gifts without any explicit expectations, but we all have implicit expectations of one another. I don't know anyone who, for example, gives a friend support above and beyond and then would be unaffected when that level of friendship is not available to her when she needs it. I know of very few people who would continue to call people, engage with them, and add to their lives in all kinds of ways if these actions were recognized/reciprocated. At a certain point, it's so rude that it's too awkward to go one as friends. I know of noone who really will give endlessly with no expectations of reciprocity or at least some kind of gratitude in return.
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| Posted 11/11/08 2:30 PM |
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maybeamommy
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
I never expect a formal thank you after giving a gift...
We attended a wedding and didn't receive a thank you until 11 months later.
That's just one of those things I don't really think about. Although I'd appreciate a card or call, I don't really mind if I don't receive either.
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| Posted 11/11/08 2:42 PM |
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MeNBobs
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
Posted by maybeamommy
I never expect a formal thank you after giving a gift...
We attended a wedding and didn't receive a thank you until 11 months later.
That's just one of those things I don't really think about. Although I'd appreciate a card or call, I don't really mind if I don't receive either.
I don't expect one either. It's nice to get one but i won't completely write someone off if i don't get one.
I have a friend who keeps track of who gave her a thank you and who didn't. If a birthday comes up for the non thanker they don't get a gift  . Being like this undermines the whole point of giving.
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| Posted 11/11/08 2:49 PM |
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Luv2bAmom
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
Posted by maybeamommy
I never expect a formal thank you after giving a gift...
We attended a wedding and didn't receive a thank you until 11 months later.
That's just one of those things I don't really think about. Although I'd appreciate a card or call, I don't really mind if I don't receive either.
This is EXACTLY what I was trying to say, but failed to express myself as eloquently.
Message edited 11/11/2008 2:50:27 PM.
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| Posted 11/11/08 2:50 PM |
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LemonHead
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
I think it's ungreatful for someone not to acknowledge a gift. By acknowledge, I mean phone call, email, maybe a note. If I spent time picking out the perfect gift for someone, I'd be hurt if they just blew it off.
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| Posted 11/11/08 4:26 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
Posted by MeNBobs
I have a friend who keeps track of who gave her a thank you and who didn't. If a birthday comes up for the non thanker they don't get a gift . Being like this undermines the whole point of giving.
she needs another hobby 
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| Posted 11/11/08 4:33 PM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: How long do you wait to get a Thank You...
I guess I should just assume they got the gift and move on. But I will never forget 
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