Re: How often do you get, "When are babies coming along?"

My dad's side of the family is the worst. No one on DH's side and no one on my mom's side asks, but since my dad's side is averaging about two babies a year, I get asked a lot. Particularly by my grandmother's two sisters. One of their daughters asked me when I was having them, and said I shouldn't wait because her friends waited until they were 30 and had problems. (I'm 26). I was hurt by that.

Re: How often do you get, "When are babies coming along?"

Really only occassionally from my mother. She really wants to be a grandma. I told her my brother got married first, bug him. It usually works. We are going to wait a few more years. Sometimes my co-workers will say things but no one has been overly obnoxious about it...yet.

Re: How often do you get, "When are babies coming along?"

Re: How often do you get, "When are babies coming along?"

IMHO, I think people only ask this because they lack in communication skills... Just like when right after you get married people say 'Soooooo how's married life??' you know?

ummm married life is the same life as before!!

I think people have nothing else to say sometimes and only *expect* that you'll have children next. This expectation is outdated as many more people are not having children.

Just like when you've been dating for a while, people will ask 'when are you getting married?'

I know plenty of people who have no desire to get married... doesn't make them less of a couple or a family.

Re: How often do you get, "When are babies coming along?"

Re: How often do you get, "When are babies coming along?"

Posted by theburbshereicome
I may be paranoid but I could swear MIL stares at my uterus.

Message edited 3/13/2009 10:15:31 AM.

Re: How often do you get, "When are babies coming along?"

DH and I do plan to have children, but we wanted to be married for a bit first. My assistant principal was actually the worst offender - last spring, I think he asked me once a day! I had to threaten him with the teacher's union to get him to knock it off.

Interesting, but it's mostly random people (the lady at my deli, distant relatives, the occasional colleague) that ask most often. We've NEVER gotten any pressure from family or friends.

Re: How often do you get, "When are babies coming along?"

To be honest, we rarely hear it. Maybe it is because none of my friends are married and because the one piece of advice we got from both of your families was to wait and enjoy our time together.

Re: How often do you get, "When are babies coming along?"

I answered once in a while because it usually only happens at a family gathering. I don't mind it too much...I just laugh it off and say nooo way, not yet...That usually gets the point across

Re: How often do you get, "When are babies coming along?"

Not as much anymore as I did right after the wedding.
It did just happen two weeks ago at a friend's baby shower. I saw again some of my neighbors from the old neighborhood and upon hearing that I got married, of course asked, so when are you next ? I can't be rude to these ladies, so I politely say that I'm too old (I'm 42) and it would be difficult for me without my mom. That ususally works.

For my friends, I usually just tell them that Mike doesn't want children. End of story.

Re: How often do you get, "When are babies coming along?"

I went to a Christening today and I was asked way too many times--relax I haven't been married a year yet. I hate that question

Re: How often do you get, "When are babies coming along?"

I get it the most from other teachers or from parents. The parents of my students are totally planning, they want to make sure none of their kids get stuck with a sub. My family and friends are non-intrustive though My SILs have been asking since the week of our wedding (they really want to be aunties)

Re: How often do you get, "When are babies coming along?"

I get it less often now.. It is most likely because I was sooooo snippy when people asked in the past.

Re: How often do you get, "When are babies coming along?"

I feel like I get this question everyday. I think it may be bc I'm a newlywed but I'm quite tired of it.