How to explain returning to work to a toddler?

I will be returning to the workforce after being a sahm for the last 18 months. I have an almost 3 year old ds and a 3 month old dd. I think with the addition of the new baby ds is going to take my return to work hard. He is going to a babysitter he knows very well and loves so that is a plus. How do I explain I am not goi g to be with him everyday? We Should talk about it before right or will that just make him upset? He's not the most easygoing kid. Any suggestions welcome.

Re: How to explain returning to work to a toddler?

My sister tells my 3 year old Niece that mommy has to go to work so she can make money and buy toys and food lol...I know its not the best advice but my Niece says "ok mommy". I think a little pep talk would be nice.

Best of Luck!

Re: How to explain returning to work to a toddler?

Thanks! Anyone else have ideas?

Re: How to explain returning to work to a toddler?

There are days when my kids do not want me going to work(I occasionally work weekends seasonally.) My DH is home with them or my nanny so I say a few different things:

Mommy needs to go to work. Your job is to be Mommy's big helper and take care of the house while I am gone.

You are going to have a huge adventure today with Daddy/Lor/nana and Poppy!

I also kiss their stuffed animals with lipstick on so they can see my kisses. I hug the animal and them and tell them if they miss me, hugging their animal is just like hugging Mommy

I call them

They are always fine when I leave. It is the leaving that will be hard

ETA my boys are almost 3.5

Message edited 3/15/2012 1:16:06 PM.

Re: How to explain returning to work to a toddler?

You can read Llama Llama Goes to School. Explains why Little Llama goes to school and mommy will be back later.

DS was in daycare since 6 weeks. He now knows that he has to go to school and mommy goes to work. If mommy doesn't go to work, we can't have toys and food.

I also read/heard that you aren't supposed to say that b/c it makes them feel bad...

You do what you have to do to get out of the house each morning.

Is DC going to a daycare/school or a babysitter? Play up how much fun DC is going to have making new friends and doing arts and having lunch.

It will prob be very hard in the begining, but once everyone becomes used to the routine, you won't remember life before it.

I found when DS was going thru phases when he didn't want me to leave, if I packed him a snack it distracted him. The teachers always said he was fine after I left.