How would you feel/react?

DS (he's 3 & 1/2) is in Pre-K3 from 8am to 230pm. let me say that i really like his teacher and the school environment. this is my DS's first time ever in a school setting. He has always been watched by a babysitter who always had 2-3 kids in total (including DS).

one system that his program has is that he has a notebook in his backpack and if there is any communication to be had btwn teacher & parent.. it would be written in that book. for example, if you're child is having a hard listening etc. having said that, since the school yr has started the teacher has brought it to my attn (4x so far) that DS had a hard time listening and he was scattered everywhere couldnt focus couldnt control his body movement aka sit still.

my problem is that she said this to me in front of other parents and teachers. it happened again today.. i feel a bit embarassed as other parents are looking at us and listening in on the convo. I feel that the appropriate thing to do is write it in the book or pull me aside from everyone and tell me what's going on. i must say, that when I am being told of my DS's behavior, tone is polite but with a hint of annoyance. Quite honestly, I am not sure what she is expecting from a 3yr being in a stimualted environment.

i told my DH (last time it happened) that if it happened again that i would approach her and ask her politely to not do that in front of other parents. my question to you is.. am I being sensitive? should I approach her or just drop it?
WWYD? thanks!

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I dont think I ever worry about what others think of my child when it comes to stuff like that.

I have been told that AJ was distracted and got LOTS of thinking time. I just figure they are kids, these things happen so *I* asked HER "What was she doing to get thinking time, why wasn't she working on a project when she was distracted?"

I know once or twice after repeatedly telling me that AJ was not only distracted but an actual DISTRACTION to class (sure in front of other parents, i dont care) i said "well she's bored. Kids will be kids and she's nearly 3 (at that time)."

I don't care WHAT others think about my child. My kid. not yours. Mine to raise. I dont need your pity or your judgement. So I just don't let it bother me.

I have heard what AJ has or hasn't done and immediately talked to her about it right there and then. She's now 3. I have no qualms about disciplining her in front of others or getting to the root of what's what. But that's just me. I'm pretty pushy as a mom, I think.

If it bothers you, then you should go ahead and say it now. Why wait until the next time? Nip it in the butt now.

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Posted by Xelindrya

I dont think I ever worry about what others think of my child when it comes to stuff like that.

I have been told that AJ was distracted and got LOTS of thinking time. I just figure they are kids, these things happen so *I* asked HER "What was she doing to get thinking time, why wasn't she working on a project when she was distracted?"

I know once or twice after repeatedly telling me that AJ was not only distracted but an actual DISTRACTION to class (sure in front of other parents, i dont care) i said "well she's bored. Kids will be kids and she's nearly 3 (at that time)."

I don't care WHAT others think about my child. My kid. not yours. Mine to raise. I dont need your pity or your judgement. So I just don't let it bother me.

I have heard what AJ has or hasn't done and immediately talked to her about it right there and then. She's now 3. I have no qualms about disciplining her in front of others or getting to the root of what's what. But that's just me. I'm pretty pushy as a mom, I think.

If it bothers you, then you should go ahead and say it now. Why wait until the next time? Nip it in the butt now.

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You are way nicer than me.. from what i've read, you were nice and fair enough.. if it bothers you.. say something.

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It is 100% inappropriate for the teacher to be discussing this with you in front of other parents.

I'd request a private conference with the teacher and make it clear that you expect these conversations to be done privately/discreetly in the future.

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The teacher should speak in private about concerns. You could say "can we speak in private about this?" when she starts talking in front of others. Some people need to be prompted. LOL

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As a teacher - that is unprofessional. As a parent - that was insensitive. Next time I would speak to her about it.

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Posted by fdnywife

As a teacher - that is unprofessional. As a parent - that was insensitive. Next time I would speak to her about it.

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totally not appropriate. as a first grade teacher I never spoke to parents at pick up time or in front of others.