How would you have handled this party favor situation?

We had a bounce house party this past weekend and one classmate showed up with 2 older siblings without RSVPing at all. I had exactly 24 RSVPs by the day before the party so I prepared 24 favors. I had actually bought 1 more set of 8 favors but did not open them since I only had 24 kids.

When it was time to hand out favors, the older siblings were the first to come up to me for favors. I reluctantly gave them favors first.

Would you have said no and not given the favor to the child?

For the record, I am not anti-sibling at all. I just want to be able to prepare properly. The most irritating part of it was that the father brought the 3 children with their nanny. He could have left the 2 older siblings at home with the nanny.

My friends who had younger siblings who I had prepared favors for ended up not giving their kids a favor. Ugh.

Message edited 3/17/2014 12:17:45 PM.

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I would not have given them favors... They were not invited and they weren't suppose to be part of the party. I would have pulled the parent aside and said that since they weren't part of the party, they weren't getting a favor. You probably had to pay extra for them and that was enough..

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Message edited 3/17/2014 12:25:28 PM.

How would you have handled this party favor situation?

I too would have given the kids favors. IMO just b/c their parents were rude doesn't make it okay for me to be rude and single them out.
It's really annoying to have to be the one person with good manners when everyone else does what they want.

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Since you had extra favors, I'd have given the siblings the favor. If you didn't have enough, I would've had to pull the parent aside and explain.

It's also possible the dad had no idea the mom didn't RSVP, or something like that. Perhaps the mom said, I'll RSVP and then she forgot? So maybe the dad wasn't being outright rude. Though, in general, I hate that people don't RSVP. I'd have contacted them before the party to confirm whether they were/were not coming.

How would you have handled this party favor situation?

If you had enough I would have given it to them, but only after all the kids had a favor.

I do think it's rude they just showed up to the party, but that's their parents being rude (or maybe nanny not knowing).

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How would you have handled this party favor situation?

That's just rude on the parent's part. They put you in a tough spot.

At 8-10 I think they are old enough that you could have explained that you only had them for the little kids. It was nice that your friend was go without a favor for her LO.

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I would not have given the older kids a favor,

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How would you have handled this party favor situation?

I would not have given the older kids favors and let the parents explain to their kids why they are not entitled to one.

This is why when DS has a sibling only the invited kid will go

How would you have handled this party favor situation?

I would have tried to give it out in a way that only the invited kids got them. I would've also brought extra though since you had them and some people who don't RSVP are bound to show up.

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I would have made them wait and see if you had enough for the kids who were invited and rsvp'd. Why should 2 other kids be out a favor?? Its better to have the rude parent have to explain to their kid why they didn't get one than for the parent who followed the rules to have to explain to their kids why they don't get a favor.

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No, I would not have given them favors in instead of the guests who should have been there.

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I would have given them favors and then not give my own kids favors. I would have told my kids that theirs were at home and then either opened the extra or just give them something else (or more likely they'd just forget, lol).

That said, I always do like four extra just in case. I never do anything personalized or more than like five bucks, so that I don't stress about how many.

Message edited 3/17/2014 2:53:54 PM.

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I would have told the older siblings to wait and if there were any left after the children invited had received their favors they could have one. If I had enough, I would give them one. I would hate to deprive a child of a favor because their parents are rude.

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i wouldnt have because now 2 of your "real" guests didn't get a favor!

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You could have told them they have to share with their sibling.

But, it's over.

If you can, give your unopened ones to the kids who missed out!

How would you have handled this party favor situation?

I would have told them you wanted to give the younger kids the favors first.

If I had extras on hand, no biggie... but you did not.

Toughie since I guess you had more than a few left empty handed.

How would you have handled this party favor situation?

I wouldn't have given them a favor. They are 8-10 years old and old enough to realize the younger kids should be given first.

How would you have handled this party favor situation?

I Learned to put name tags on favors for this exact reason. The 8&10 year olds are old enough to understand but I feel their parent should have reminded them that their the party was for their siblings friend and they should not expect a goodie bag bust should thank you for including them.

Message edited 3/17/2014 5:40:00 PM.

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SInce the kids were older I would not have give them the favor only if I had enough leftover at the end.
At 8 and 10 they should not expect to get a favor from a 5yo birthday party.

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