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pinkandblue
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How would you have handled this situation?
Your DH is disciplining your child (putting them in time out)...the child starts screaming "mommy, mommy, MOMMYYYYYY"
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Ignore them until TO is over?
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Get involved by saying "you are in time out, no screaming"
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Marcie
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
hmmmmm....been having the same issue....and as per my DH....I should have left him to handle it...
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| Posted 6/30/10 9:26 AM |
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Eireann
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
I'd ignore her because it's DH's situation to deal with...unless he wanted backup. I'd let him handle it and then maybe reinforce his actions after the timeout was over.
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| Posted 6/30/10 9:26 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
Posted by Marcie
hmmmmm....been having the same issue....and as per my DH....I should have left him to handle it...
that is what I did and DH got mad that I was not "backing him up"
ugh
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| Posted 6/30/10 9:26 AM |
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Salason
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
Well usually it's Daddy, Daddy but I would have said you are in time out, no screaming (show a united front).
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| Posted 6/30/10 9:27 AM |
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brownie
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
I would ignore them till TO is over
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| Posted 6/30/10 9:27 AM |
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
I tell DS "You have to listen to Daddy!" And walk away to let DH handle it.
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| Posted 6/30/10 9:27 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
Posted by Eireann
I'd ignore her because it's DH's situation to deal with....
EXACTLY...I kind of feel like "you decided to put her in TO, YOU deal with it
but he expected me to "help him"
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| Posted 6/30/10 9:27 AM |
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monkeybride
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
Let it be but I'm not always good at that. I will do your second choice. 
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BethanyLynn
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
Posted by CookieMomster
I tell DS "You have to listen to Daddy!" And walk away to let DH handle it.
Me too
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Goldi0218
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
I would have ignored it. Mom and Dad need to have a uniformed front for the kids. If by any chance you each have differences in opinions of discipline, it is best to iron them out out of earshot of the children or they will play you against each other.
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| Posted 6/30/10 9:29 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
Posted by Goldi0218
I would have ignored it. Mom and Dad need to have a uniformed front for the kids. .
BUT DH's version of a unified front was for me NOT to ignore her but to get her to stop screaming...I wanted to ignore her but that was not good enough
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| Posted 6/30/10 9:30 AM |
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Peainapod
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
I would probably just say you need to listen to daddy and then let him handle it..
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Goldi0218
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
Posted by pinkandblue
Posted by Goldi0218
I would have ignored it. Mom and Dad need to have a uniformed front for the kids. .
BUT DH's version of a unified front was for me NOT to ignore her but to get her to stop screaming...I wanted to ignore her but that was not good enough
Shes a little girl. She's going to scream. He's got to suck it up and deal. I hate it too but its one of the unfortunate parts of the game.
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
Posted by Eireann
I'd ignore her because it's DH's situation to deal with...unless he wanted backup. I'd let him handle it and then maybe reinforce his actions after the timeout was over.
Ditto.
I would also restart the time out if I had to get involved to begin when I put DS in timeout.
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| Posted 6/30/10 9:39 AM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
I ignore it. Ava does it every, single time she's in time out. When she's in that time out spot, there's not much she can do or say that will get me to respond to her bc, imo, it's a diversion tactic on her part.
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| Posted 6/30/10 9:40 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
Posted by prncsslehcar
I ignore it. Ava does it every, single time she's in time out. When she's in that time out spot, there's not much she can do or say that will get me to respond to her bc, imo, it's a diversion tactic on her part.
how do you handle it when she will NOT stay in time out...she continues to get up, come to me while screaming and crying and carrying on
I literally put her back in time out 10 times the other day and she STILL would not stay put
WHAT DO I DO, she obviously is not getting it
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| Posted 6/30/10 9:42 AM |
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| Posted 6/30/10 10:04 AM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
Posted by pinkandblue
Posted by prncsslehcar
I ignore it. Ava does it every, single time she's in time out. When she's in that time out spot, there's not much she can do or say that will get me to respond to her bc, imo, it's a diversion tactic on her part.
how do you handle it when she will NOT stay in time out...she continues to get up, come to me while screaming and crying and carrying on
I literally put her back in time out 10 times the other day and she STILL would not stay put
WHAT DO I DO, she obviously is not getting it
Maybe ignore her?
I.e. let her know you don't like her behavior and she is getting a time out so for 3 minutes you are all on a break and then ignore her?
Or, and I don't know if this is right or wrong, but we have out designated time out spot and I block her in there with my arm if needed. I don't look at her while she is in time out, I tell her she is in time out and if she tries to leave the spot, I put my arm across the space or guide her back without speaking to her?
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CrankyPants
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
BTW-I don't think you were wrong, I would have intervened but I think that is the wrong answer because it just shows DD that mommy is really in charge and I don't want her thinking that (although, that IS really how it goes down in my house because DH is give DD 3 second timeouts )
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| Posted 6/30/10 10:08 AM |
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cgdg61606
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
I'd ignore until time out is over.
This happens all the time. Whoever puts the child in time out is in "charge" of that time out. DS ALWAYS calls for me when DH puts him in time out. But even when I put DS in time out, I also want to be the one to "finish" it.
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saraH
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
I'd ignore it.
If I put DD in time out she cries for daddy and vise versa.
It's a damned if you don't, damned if you do, kind of situation.
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| Posted 6/30/10 10:11 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
Posted by CrankyPants
Posted by pinkandblue
Posted by prncsslehcar
I ignore it. Ava does it every, single time she's in time out. When she's in that time out spot, there's not much she can do or say that will get me to respond to her bc, imo, it's a diversion tactic on her part.
how do you handle it when she will NOT stay in time out...she continues to get up, come to me while screaming and crying and carrying on
I literally put her back in time out 10 times the other day and she STILL would not stay put
WHAT DO I DO, she obviously is not getting it
Maybe ignore her?
I.e. let her know you don't like her behavior and she is getting a time out so for 3 minutes you are all on a break and then ignore her?
but when I ignore her, she will literally get out of time out and go sit on the couch or start playing....I cannot literally HOLD her down in time out (or can I)>? 
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
Posted by pinkandblue
Posted by prncsslehcar
I ignore it. Ava does it every, single time she's in time out. When she's in that time out spot, there's not much she can do or say that will get me to respond to her bc, imo, it's a diversion tactic on her part.
how do you handle it when she will NOT stay in time out...she continues to get up, come to me while screaming and crying and carrying on
I literally put her back in time out 10 times the other day and she STILL would not stay put
WHAT DO I DO, she obviously is not getting it
Oh, she gets it. Lol.
Lance started doing that too. Leaving TO, or opening the door, screaming, etc... So I'm using a new method.
The take a toy method...
First he gets a TO as usual. If you act up in TO, I take a toy... You lose that toy for the day. The other day he lost 8 toys for the whole day. The day after 2 toys, and a Dora dvd, plus no Dora on TV for the whole day.
If we are in a store, I take a toy in place of TO.
It seems to be working. It was getting a little OOC. He's been soooo much worse since Grace, and she's 7 months already. 
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| Posted 6/30/10 10:17 AM |
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Re: How would you have handled this situation?
exactly the way you did.
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