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jams92
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Re: husband rant..hopefully someone can relate
Posted by EatingMyVeggies
Even if inlaws are helping out for free - if they make a mess, they should clean it up. It's rude not too, IMO. I don't mean they should do laundry and vacuum but if they make a particular mess, it should be cleaned.
i dont agree with this... yes, the instance where the dishes were piled high in the sink - that should have been cleaned
but in terms of them babysitting and toys being all over the place, its not there job especially if DH comes home and the LO is still awake and playing. i can never clean up when DD is still awake - its a waste of my efforts bc she will just go and take all the toys out again...even if she is only up for 10 minutes. once she goes to bed - thats when we clean - so imo this should have been something DH handled. and if i have DDs bottles or food dishes in the sink, i would not expect my mom (or MIL to clean those either) - they are doing me a favor by watching DD
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Posted 3/28/14 11:36 AM |
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Re: husband rant..hopefully someone can relate
Posted by EatingMyVeggies
Even if inlaws are helping out for free - if they make a mess, they should clean it up. It's rude not too, IMO. I don't mean they should do laundry and vacuum but if they make a particular mess, it should be cleaned.
I disagree--if they spilled milk all over the counter, yes, they should clean that up.
But dirty dishes and bottles left in the sink from feeding your kids dinner? I don't think that's their responsibility to clean up. I think its more important for them to spend the time with their grandkids.
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Posted 3/28/14 11:56 AM |
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wakemeup
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Re: husband rant..hopefully someone can relate
When he said "I was gonna do it" your response should have been "great, thanks!" He came home, put your DC to bed, and relaxed alone for a couple of hours. I really do not see what the big deal is. I am assuming you did the cleaning up? Why didn't you give him a chance to take care of it?
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Posted 3/28/14 4:08 PM |
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JDubs
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Re: husband rant..hopefully someone can relate
yup i hear ya.... if DH is off and he is at home with DS i will come home to a mess, toys everywhere.... i then complain that he could have cleaned up because I always have to clean when I get home.. he tells me to go back to work
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Posted 3/28/14 4:22 PM |
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Pumpkin1
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husband rant..hopefully someone can relate
You said that you ordinarily do everything, so he was "out of routine" (for lack of a better word). He said he was going to do it, so instead of getting mad, just give him an opportunity to do it. It sounds like he worked all day, so he may have needed to wind down as well. As long as he does it, then let him be.
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Posted 3/28/14 4:51 PM |
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ChristinaM128
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Re: husband rant..hopefully someone can relate
Men cannot multitask, even if the baby is sleeping! When DH watches dd, he watches dd, and the tv, and that's it.
Something to file in the general rant file, but probably not something to get into a huge fight over.
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Posted 3/29/14 8:22 AM |
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