I am a horrible mommy

I feel so bad right now, I could scream. I am so sick and tired of Joey's crying ALL THE TIME. I know, I know he is only 3 months old...but it is driving me crazy!!! I am becoming stir crazy staying home with him alone all day. All the while packing up our house and making the moving arrangements while DH goes to work. I am almost regretting my decision to stay home with Joey an extra year. How awful is that?? I don't even want to be home with my own child. I love him more than life itself, but I am reaching the end of my rope. The crying, the laundry, the diapers, the packing, the boredness!!!! I want out...I am so scared & miserable right now, and I needed to let it out somewhere

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no your not!!! It's very stressful when they are that young, esp b/c your all alone during the day and you dont have any help. Give it some time, it will get better and easier Hang in there!!!

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You are not a horrible mom at all - EVERYONE feels that way at some point. I tried being a SAHM for a bit and couldn't even do it for all the reasons you mentioned, and even now that I am working again, I have my days where I get so frustrated with the whining and the dishes and the laundry and the messy house and the complete lack of my own life. But I KNOW how much I LOVE my DS and wouldn't trade him for the world, and so do you. It will get better...there will be good and bad days. Hang in there!

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sweety, hang in there as the months go by the baby will get better trust me. I had a simular situation with my DD the crying all the time in the beginng. have you tried milocon? he may have gas that worked wonders are you BFing?

its really ok to feel this way many mothers have including myself in the beginning being all alone and having cabin fever.. it really does get better.. the packing will stop after a while for you and you will see joey will get older and he will be less cranky.

some babies are just cranky and us mommies have to just roll with it..

i am here for you if you need venting FM me anytime and again Congratulations on your baby boy

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It will get better! I tell everyone that the first 3-4 months stink. This is perfecrly normal. Trust met in another 3-4 months you will be so glad that you were able to stay home.

You need some time to yourself. You should call someone to take the baby for a day and do something for yourself! Strictly for yourself. Go get a pedicure or your hair done. Reag gossip magazines and take your mind off of the baby for a night!

Trust me - I have been exactly where you are!!!!!! FM me if you need to talk.

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You're not horrible, you're human! We've all been there before and it's normal. It's very hard to listen to babies cry, especially when you don't know what to do for them.

On top of that, you're going through a move and doing most of the work yourself. That's another life changing situation. No wonder you're stressed out!

Have you asked the pediatrician about the crying? Maybe he has a digestion issue and that is why he is crying. It could also be that he senses the changes going on in the house and the stress level being elevated. I'm in no way inferring that it's your fault. Just saying babies can be very sensitive to that type of thing.

Is there anyone who can help you with the move or even watch your son to give you a little break? I'm sorry. I hope it get's better soon.

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You are NOT a horrible mommy and I think many moms can sympathize with how you are feeling. The first few weeks with DS were so difficult for me. I hated being home alone with him. I felt depressed, sad, lonely, bored, frustrated, etc. I felt this way and he was a good baby who didn't cry much so I can't imagine how much harder that must be. You have a lot on your plate right now. Cut yourself some slack. I know everyone says it, but it WILL get better. Hang in there.

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I promise you - we have all written this post at one time or another.

Some days are so hard that you don't know how you'll make it through - but you know what - you do - and the next day is always a little bit better.

Try to get out more - that will really help to break up the day. Whether it's a playdate, the park, or just a walk - it will make you feel better - and it will make your DS feel better. Leave the packing and whatever else till when DH comes home - he can deal with the baby - and you can do what you need to.

Also - get out on your own at night when DH comes home. I remember aimlessly walking around target - eating a granola bar - and feeling like I was on a deserted island somewhere.

It does get better - I promise!

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OH lordy girl, we have all been there. Most of us have lived to tell you , that while it doesnt help now, it will get better and soon. Justhang in there.

GET some help. Anyone you can..friends, family...Complain about the laundry to DH...ask for help.

VENT..that helps. Just getting it out.

In a few weeks when he is precious again ( he will be) you will think it was a distant memory..I promise!!!!

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You are NOT a horrible mommy. I went through it and I think others have as well.
My DS was born in Jan.
I went crazy. He always wanted to be held. Sometimes I just put him in the bassinet and said "im sorry sweetie, your gonna cry a minute or 2".
When the ped. said "Take him out for short walks as long as its 40 Degrees", you never saw someone bundle up someone so quick and hit the pavement..LOL.

I look back now and want those days back. He's 19 months already.
I miss holding him. I miss that infant cry.

I learned take it one day at a time! Deep breaths.
I used to get sooo jealous that DH went to work. I was going to look for FT work, but, look back now and am so thankful I decided to be a FT SAHM and do some babysitting for some extra $$.

I promise you. It DOES get better!!!

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Thanks everyone!!
I needed that. I still feel awful, but I know that one day he will not be this little anymore and I will miss it. DH is asleep right now, but I think tomorrow night when he comes home from work I will have a talk with him. Maybe this weekend he can take Joey one day and I can go hang out with one of my girlfriends. Ugh, SO FRUSTRATING!! But you are all right, I love my son with every ounce of my being, and I know that it will be ok again soon.
Thanks again ladies!