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I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

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SweetestOfPeas
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I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

DH and I had a pretty big argument last weekend about $ so in the middle of it I said "don't get me anything for Hanukkah, we don't have the extra $ for it."

so he just called me on his way home from work and said "well, Happy Hanukkah but I didn't buy you anything"

now I am mad and don't even know if I have a right to be

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Message edited 12/15/2006 5:44:37 PM.

Posted 12/15/06 5:44 PM
 
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KPtoys
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

Yeah, he sounds like hes being a jerk to rub it in. I would be annoyed too but I would probably give him a small attitude when he gets home but then drop it.

Posted 12/15/06 5:45 PM
 

NewlyMrs
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

maybe he said it out of spite and did buy you a gift?


Posted 12/15/06 5:45 PM
 

SweetestOfPeas
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

well he says he feels bad about it and that he wants to get me something. but he kept saying "but you told me not to".

he wasn't rubbing it in

Posted 12/15/06 5:46 PM
 

SweetestOfPeas
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

Posted by NewlyMrs

maybe he said it out of spite and did buy you a gift?



nope... he truly didn't

Posted 12/15/06 5:47 PM
 

KPtoys
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

Why do men think we are complex?

Posted 12/15/06 5:47 PM
 

alnem
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

Posted by NewlyMrs

maybe he said it out of spite and did buy you a gift?





that's what i was thinking...

Posted 12/15/06 5:53 PM
 

MrsKelly
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

Posted by KPtoys

Why do men think we are complex?


LOL

Posted 12/15/06 6:05 PM
 

SweetestOfPeas
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

Posted by KPtoys

Why do men think we are complex?

b/c we are Chat Icon

all I know is that even if he told me not to get him something, there is no chance that I wouldn't.

Posted 12/15/06 6:09 PM
 

cj7305
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

I would be mad too, but honestly, women often say things that deep inside we really don't mean (like this for example). Men don't think into thingsChat Icon

Posted 12/15/06 6:12 PM
 

nrthshgrl
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

Chat Icon Chat Icon This happened to my parents one year. I still remember her telling me to throw out food that came out of the oven. It wasn't until my dad sat down at the table & said "Wow you didn't make kale this year?" that I figured out why. It was his favorite dish.

My mom learned never to say "Don't get me anything" and my dad learned to never believe her if she ever uttered the words again.

Posted 12/15/06 7:10 PM
 

Nicole728
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

Posted by cj7305

Men don't think into thingsChat Icon




Chat Icon Chat Icon that is so true...he doesn't realize that when you say "don't get me anything" that means I really want somethingChat Icon

Posted 12/15/06 7:13 PM
 

SweetestOfPeas
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

Posted by nrthshgrl

Chat Icon Chat Icon This happened to my parents one year. I still remember her telling me to throw out food that came out of the oven. It wasn't until my dad sat down at the table & said "Wow you didn't make kale this year?" that I figured out why. It was his favorite dish.

My mom learned never to say "Don't get me anything" and my dad learned to never believe her if she ever uttered the words again.

yeah, I guess it was my fault for saying what I did. but I was also angry when I said it since we were arguing.

I also got mad b/c he starts with his lame excuses. on top of the "you told me not to" he says "well I didn't have any time and I've been sick this week - blah blah". Chat Icon

translation - I am thoughtless

Posted 12/15/06 7:16 PM
 

MrsDiamondgrlie
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

I would be upset too! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon I'm not Jewish but doesnt he have more days to make this up to you??? Chat Icon

Posted 12/15/06 7:17 PM
 

SweetestOfPeas
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

Posted by MrsDiamondgrlie

I would be upset too! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon I'm not Jewish but doesnt he have more days to make this up to you??? Chat Icon

Chat Icon you are so funny

I guess... but we only do the gift thing once, and it's tomorrow at my folks house

Posted 12/15/06 7:18 PM
 

MrsDiamondgrlie
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

Posted by SweetestOfPeas

Posted by MrsDiamondgrlie

I would be upset too! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon I'm not Jewish but doesnt he have more days to make this up to you??? Chat Icon

Chat Icon you are so funny

I guess... but we only do the gift thing once, and it's tomorrow at my folks house




Ohhhh well then lots of extra hugs! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 12/15/06 7:19 PM
 

MrsERod
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

Posted by SweetestOfPeas

Posted by MrsDiamondgrlie

I would be upset too! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon I'm not Jewish but doesnt he have more days to make this up to you??? Chat Icon

Chat Icon you are so funny

I guess... but we only do the gift thing once, and it's tomorrow at my folks house





there's always time to shop tomorrow - before you go to your folks! Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 12/15/06 7:20 PM
 

nrthshgrl
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

Posted by SweetestOfPeas

Posted by MrsDiamondgrlie

I would be upset too! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon I'm not Jewish but doesnt he have more days to make this up to you??? Chat Icon

Chat Icon you are so funny

I guess... but we only do the gift thing once, and it's tomorrow at my folks house



I'm pretty sure he'll be doing it more than once if he knows what's good for him. Chat Icon My dad blew the one day he had. I know he would have been scrambling the next 7 if he had the opportunity.

Posted 12/15/06 7:21 PM
 

Eva Luna
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

I don't think he's rubbing it in. I think he's trying not to upset you too much. I think I know what the argument was about (and you were being sensitive about the topic, that's why you said what you did) and he doesn't want to ruffle more feathers, especially about money.

I've done that in the past, thankfully, DH knows me now (after almost 11 years of being together) so he just ignores me.

I'm sorry!! Chat Icon

Talk to him, there's a difference between relatives Christmas gifts and the ones for the both of you (if I have the "argument" right).

Try (easier said than done) to not take the relative $$ arguments or spending to heart. I learned that lesson the hard way. We can talk more offline if you'd like.

Tell Bill to make it up tomorrow. He has 7 more days for presents! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 12/15/06 9:04 PM
 

mtdr1106
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

i would be mad. slap his face...
tell him thats his hanukka gift!

Posted 12/15/06 9:16 PM
 

BabyBoy
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

how does one buy something when you have no money....

take this time to spend together and enjoy each others gift of love...that in my mind is priceless....

we aren't doing anything crazy either. the point of buying presents for the sake of "a hoilday" when you have no money is hard to justify.

you can be upset but try not to be. prehaps it was said in the wrong way and the conversation was already heated.

Posted 12/15/06 9:43 PM
 

janet
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon men sometimes you just want to smack them

Posted 12/15/06 10:09 PM
 

SweetestOfPeas
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Re: I am pretty upset about something, tell me if I am wrong

Posted by BabyBoy

how does one buy something when you have no money....


I didn't want to to go into too much detail about $ on here... we're not broke or anything, it's just tough this time of year - as I'm sure others can relate.

thank you all for your kind words Chat Icon

Posted 12/15/06 10:21 PM
 
 

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