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preciouslove
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I am so livid!
So for my shower I only decided to invite the immediate family, first cousins and my closest friends only. In that group of friends I included one of my co-workers. She is the only one from the office I am inviting, I thought it was a nice gesture to include her, since she has always included me at her parties. The other co-workers I don't care for because when I invited them to my wedding a whole bunch cancelled on me days before with lame excuses. Anways back to the story...My co-worker asksed me when my shower is and marked it down on her calendar. Then she was like "do I still have to call your mom to rsvp" I told her no since she had already spoken to me personally (my shower is not a surprise). It's on April 2nd.
Now there has been this special promotion going on with Great Adventure where they are giving out free tickets for the weekend of March 31-April 2. Well she must have gotten free tickets cuz this morning I heard her on the phone making plans with her husband to take their kids to Great Adventure on April 2nd!!!!!!!!!!! Hello doesn't that date ring a bell to her? she wrote it down on her calendar, and it's not like she has even said to me "oh shoot I just made plans for Great Adventure not realizing it was the same day as your shower".... I was nice enough to include her in my group of close friends at the shower and she's blowing me off for Great Adventure. That hurts! If she wouldn't have responded yes to my shower already then it wouldn't be an issue but the fact that she did and is now blowing me off for Great Adventure, stinks! I will never invite her again to any of my parties! I'll get over it eventually but I have learned another lesson.
Go have a great time at Great Adventure! But don't ask to see pictures from my shower. I am still waiting for her to say something to me, should I just come out and say something?
Sorry for long post...
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Bebalina
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Re: I am so livid!
i know it must hurt, feel better it was a coworker doing this, and not a close friend or family member....but now you know not to invite her to anything else....
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| Posted 3/17/06 9:48 AM |
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MrsJ
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Re: I am so livid!
I'm sorry, it's not right. But you know what, you cant control what other people do...and now at least you know what she's like. You'll have a great time at your shower - you won't even miss her 
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| Posted 3/17/06 9:49 AM |
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preciouslove
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Re: I am so livid!
Posted by Bebalina
i know it must hurt, feel better it was a coworker doing this, and not a close friend or family member....but now you know not to invite her to anything else....
Yeah you're right, it stinks but I think I would be more upset if one of my best friends did this to me. Which I would never to speak to them again.
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| Posted 3/17/06 9:50 AM |
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preciouslove
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Re: I am so livid!
She just asked me again when my shower was??????
Hello didn't you ask me already and didn't you mark it down on your calendar? I saw you do it!
I just gave her the date of the shower again and didn't say anything i'm waiting for her to say something to me...
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| Posted 3/17/06 9:52 AM |
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Marcie
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Re: I am so livid!
Maybe she was making plans for just her husband to go to Great Adventure with the kids and she is still planning on going to your shower.
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| Posted 3/17/06 10:05 AM |
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Re: I am so livid!
I would wait for her to cancel on me before saying something. The real problem is that I would be stewing in the meantime - and honestly, who needs the stress!'
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| Posted 3/17/06 10:10 AM |
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preciouslove
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Re: I am so livid!
Posted by Marcie
Maybe she was making plans for just her husband to go to Great Adventure with the kids and she is still planning on going to your shower.
When I heard the plans I heard her saying the tickets would be for her, her husband and the kids. I specifically heard "me, you and the kids"...
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| Posted 3/17/06 10:23 AM |
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preciouslove
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Re: I am so livid!
Posted by nrthshgrl
I would wait for her to cancel on me before saying something. The real problem is that I would be stewing in the meantime - and honestly, who needs the stress!'
That's a very good point. I should wait to see what she ends up doing before jumping the gun, but just hearing her making the plans got my blood going.
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| Posted 3/17/06 10:29 AM |
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Re: I am so livid!
Posted by bedda26
Posted by Marcie
Maybe she was making plans for just her husband to go to Great Adventure with the kids and she is still planning on going to your shower.
When I heard the plans I heard her saying the tickets would be for her, her husband and the kids. I specifically heard "me, you and the kids"...
Well, maybe it will change, maybe that is why she is asking you when your shower is, maybe she is realizing that she just made the plans for the same day.
I understand that you are upset - but try not to, one person not coming is something to get upset over and like you said, she backs out - then don't invite her for other things. Don't let one person get you upset
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| Posted 3/17/06 10:31 AM |
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Re: I am so livid!
Posted by Marcie
Posted by bedda26
Posted by Marcie
Maybe she was making plans for just her husband to go to Great Adventure with the kids and she is still planning on going to your shower.
When I heard the plans I heard her saying the tickets would be for her, her husband and the kids. I specifically heard "me, you and the kids"...
Well, maybe it will change, maybe that is why she is asking you when your shower is, maybe she is realizing that she just made the plans for the same day.
I understand that you are upset - but try not to, one person not coming is something to get upset over and like you said, she backs out - then don't invite her for other things. Don't let one person get you upset
I agree with Marcie. 's to you
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| Posted 3/17/06 10:33 AM |
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preciouslove
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Re: I am so livid!
What i'm going to do is wait and see if she says anything. If she cancels to go to Great Adventure then I should react to it. Then again a part of me is saying that I don't want her to cancel going to GA out of obligation and then have her thinking to herself at the shower "man I could have been someplace fun instead of at a shower"...I don't want any favors out of pity either.
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| Posted 3/17/06 10:38 AM |
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Re: I am so livid!
Posted by bedda26
What i'm going to do is wait and see if she says anything. If she cancels to go to Great Adventure then I should react to it. Then again a part of me is saying that I don't want her to cancel going to GA out of obligation and then have her thinking to herself at the shower "man I could have been someplace fun instead of at a shower"...I don't want any favors out of pity either.
Well, you are kinda giving her no option here. Either she cancels on you (which you don't want) or she rearranges her plans out of her sense of obligation to you- (which you also don't want).
I have only been to one baby shower and it was of a good friend and I have to confess, a day at Great Adventure would have been more fun. Not to say that I didn't enjoy the shower- it was great to see her and our friends. But overall- I think the main person who has fun at the shower is the person who it is being thrown for. Watching somoene open presents and playing games just isn't as fun to me as Great Adventure. JMO.
I know I have definitely double booked events, but if I have a prior obligation I always stick to it. It has nothing to do with pity but with a sense of obligation.
I would just wait and see what happens.
Good luck!!
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preciouslove
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Re: I am so livid!
I've been to showers myself where i've had a lot of fun.
But i'm not going to let this bother me anymore. So much more to worry about.
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| Posted 3/17/06 11:12 AM |
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Posted by bedda26
But i'm not going to let this bother me anymore. So much more to worry about.
Your shower will be great, no matter what. Think about all the fun stuff ahead!! 
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| Posted 3/17/06 11:16 AM |
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preciouslove
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Re: I am so livid!
Yes that's exactly what I will be thinking about, all the cute stuff i'll be getting...
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| Posted 3/17/06 11:31 AM |
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ARIELSMOM
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Re: I am so livid!
IMO- if she doesnt want to be there, then its better off that she goes to Great Adventure rather than pretending she cares. The people that want to be there- will be, and wont make any other plans for that day.
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preciouslove
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Posted by ARIELSMOM
IMO- if she doesnt want to be there, then its better off that she goes to Great Adventure rather than pretending she cares. The people that want to be there- will be, and wont make any other plans for that day.
Very well put, Thank You! I'm not going to even care anymore. I'm going to have fun at my shower no matter what. She is not the guest of honor, I am and it's my day.
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justme1
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Re: I am so livid!
Just wanted to say SORRY..
Thats not nice of anyone to do but please dont let it ruin your special day
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| Posted 3/17/06 1:43 PM |
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preciouslove
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Posted by IslandGrl
Just wanted to say SORRY..
Thats not nice of anyone to do but please dont let it ruin your special day
I am determined not to, and I won't let it ruin my special day...
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| Posted 3/17/06 1:55 PM |
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Bebalina
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don't you dare let it ruin your day!!!!
a CO-WORKER IMO is NEVER worth it....
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| Posted 3/17/06 2:19 PM |
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preciouslove
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Re: I am so livid!
Posted by Bebalina
don't you dare let it ruin your day!!!!
a CO-WORKER IMO is NEVER worth it....
Yes you are right. You are totally right...
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