Re: I am SO nervous to have a bunch of people around DD

Posted by FelAndJon

All I can offer you is . I am on the same page as you with this one!

Re: I am SO nervous to have a bunch of people around DD

DD was born on Thanksgiving....so we had all of the holidays lined up a month later. We had to travel from Brooklyn to LI. She was fine. I know you're nervous, but it will be harder on you than the baby. She'll probably sleep most of the time, especially in the car.

I remember bringing soooo much stuff. I think that was the worst part. DD didn't even care.

If you don't want everyone holding her, then just don't let them. And don't be afraid to pull out the sanitizer. People understand. You'll be fine.

ETA...I let family members hold DD and she was fine. I just made them wash their hands.

Message edited 4/8/2009 8:42:42 PM.

Re: I am SO nervous to have a bunch of people around DD

Oh, do I remember those days. DD was exactly 3 weeks old her first Christmas. I had a travel size bottle of Purel in my pocket and anytime anyone made a move toward her I made them hold out their hands, I squeezed some in and then they were allowed to hold her - and even then it was only my family (we house hop on Christmas) that I let hold her - I kept shooing away his family and telling them over and over her pediatrician said nobody was to hold her or touch her.

Re: I am SO nervous to have a bunch of people around DD

Im totally on the same page as you.. and DH doesn't stress as much as I do. We live upstate and our families both live on LI. We just went down this past weekend for a bridal shower. I was pressured into bringing her by my MIL and I totally regret it. I did ask people to wash their hands and although she was fussy in the beginning because it was loud and a lot of people, she did end up falling asleep with my sister for a majority of the time. She definitely wasn't herself though and DH now agrees that it was too much.

Good luck.. it might be better than you think. I would take it little by little. She'll probably sleep the whole way home.

Re: I am SO nervous to have a bunch of people around DD

Randi - We just did this last night. Except, my BIL runs the sedar at my IL's house and my BIL and SIL are VERY religious. We did not even START the sedar until after 9. We left early to avoid traffic as well, but also left immediately after I fed Samantha so that she would sleep and not fuss in the car. My anxiety was mostly about how late we were starting and her not having her bedtime routine. We actually brought the pack and play and put her to bed keeping as much of her routine as possible. I was surprised and she actually was still sleeping when we were getting ready to leave after dinner (the sedar was STILL going on at 1am!). She actually handled it really well. We woke her up, fed her and left. We didn't get home until 2:00am and I was nervous about having a wide awake baby and trying to get her to go back to sleep in her crib, but she did!

Just let people know that she is fussy with other people right now and you would prefer since it's her bedtime (even if it's not, they don't have to know!), that you or your DH hold her.

We're actually heading back out to LI this afternoon to my sister.

Re: I am SO nervous to have a bunch of people around DD