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rose825
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
There are definately some IFers I would like to hear more from. Those who can't conceive, are considering going to an RE, those doing IUI, those considering IVF etc.
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Gertyrae
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
Posted by rose825
There are definately some IFers I would like to hear more from. Those who can't conceive, are considering going to an RE, those doing IUI, those considering IVF etc.
I agree, sometimes someone posts with a few questions and you want to know how they are doing in their journey. Or you get to "know" a person and want to know how it's going in general.
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| Posted 2/5/07 4:32 PM |
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rose825
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
I know I was wondering about Tannika, and was glad to see her post today.
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| Posted 2/5/07 4:32 PM |
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Jen2999
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
I hope I haven't made you guys feel this way. I am dealing with IF, BUT I am not yet TTC because of other personal reasons. I post here about my testing and concerns because I what to know what it is I am dealing with in the next few months when we can start TTC.
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| Posted 2/5/07 4:35 PM |
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rose825
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
being anovulatory is a big IF problem You posted your feelings about perparing for an IF journey. NOT what I was referring to.
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| Posted 2/5/07 4:38 PM |
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lulugrrl
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
This was me...I felt very uncomfortable coming to this board at first, because I knew so many of you had very long journeys with IF. Whereas I was just beginning, but if I did not come here and ask questions, I think it would have taken me soo much longer to figure out I needed an RE. You all gave me the push I needed
Posted by juju
When someone does post on this board, I have no idea where they are at in their journey which is why I don't mind giving feedback or advice. The feedback on this board might help them realize that they do suffer from Infertility and that their next step should be is to go see a RE.
I think an introduction would be nice, but I do understand that for some women it takes time to open up to people especially in the beginning of IF journey.
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| Posted 2/5/07 4:47 PM |
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LisaW
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
Posted by Gertyrae
I don't mind helping when someone has an honest question, wether for themselves or a friend. I find it strange when people come on IF as an addition to TTC and/or PG just to get more answers because they aren't happy with what they are hearing elsewhere.
Gerty, this is exactly how I feel...
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Secret4Now
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
I see your point. I feel bad that I am not a frequent poster. However, I did introduce myself and I have made an effort to talk privately, via FM to people who are kind enough to respond to me. I know it's time consuming to ask people to FM with me. I have my reasons for not posting more often. First of all, I know that I have lurkers, lurkers who have the potential to bring me much misery if they knew my private life. (ETA: I have the secret name, but when I post facts about my life, it can become obvious). Second of all, there are various reasons that I am not 100 percent dedicated my IF journey. I am not sure if I know how to explain those reasons without offending people who are so dedicated to their IF treatment. Third, I haven't undergone any treatment yet, so I don't have the knowledge to answer some questions.
I don't mean to just "use" anyone for their information. I often pop in for updates on people who don't even know that I am thinking of them.
Sorry if I sound selfish. I think that anyone dealing with IF realizes that sometimes they have to do things that may seem selfish.
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
I am so confused if I'm allowed or welcomed here or not. As of right now we are dealing with secondary unexplained infertility.
We are able to get pregnant but unable to stay pregnant and as my RE told me its normal to have a miscarriage but not normal at all to have 4 within a year even if I was alot older.
I am brand new to this and I am very grateful to those whom have helped me this past month as I begin and finished my first month of testing but if TTC is the board I should be on please just FM me. I didn't join this board until #4 happened and my referral finally went thru for the RE.
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karacg
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
I think Pauline is referring to people who got pg naturally, quickly, easily -- and then maybe have a problem or question and come here to ask. It is difficult to deal with those kinds of situations if you can't even get pg yourself. Especially if there is no respect for the IFers situation.
Or those posts that have nothing to do with IF...but they come here because they expect the posters to be experts in - as someone said - all things vagina.
NOT in reference to people who are having difficulties and are looking for information and support...or just have questions regarding this topic...
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| Posted 2/5/07 5:10 PM |
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rose825
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
Posted by -Laurie-
As of right now we are dealing with secondary unexplained infertility.
You belong here.
And just to clarify this is a public board and anyone is allowed to post here. Your allowed to post about the color of your socks of you like.
What I was referring to was people who do not have IF but have any gynecological problem, feel like they arent getting an answer, or enough attention from other more appropriate boards and then post here for an "expert opinion"
But they are allowed to do that, just posting how it makes me feel.
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
all i can really say
and i see both sides of the coin on this
is that this is such a sensitive topic that even those with the best intentions have no idea how they are coming off.
It's like a bad mix of insensitivity and lack of awareness.
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
Posted by rose825
Posted by -Laurie-
As of right now we are dealing with secondary unexplained infertility.
And just to clarify this is a public board and anyone is allowed to post here. Your allowed to post about the color of your socks of you like.
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rose825
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
Posted by rose825
Posted by -Laurie-
As of right now we are dealing with secondary unexplained infertility.
And just to clarify this is a public board and anyone is allowed to post here. Your allowed to post about the color of your socks of you like.
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me too, see we have alot in common.
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leighla
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
I have to say, I can see both sides as well.
Any issues relating to infertility can COMPLETELY freak someone out and they will seek comfort and information from wherever they think they are going to get it. And miscarriage, while not always technically IF related is superscary to anyone.
One of the best things about the IF board is how knowledgable and helpful everyone here is, even when dealing with their own unspeakable pain.
I'm sure people see that and do think of the people here as experts in all things vagina. And let's face it, anyone who has been through IF probably DOES know more about the inner workings of the female reproductive system than your average bear.
That being said, I do agree there is some level of sensitivity that "new" posters should show. Even if it is in way of an introduction and an explanation of not knowing where else to turn.
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rose825
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
Posted by leighla
I have to say, I can see both sides as well.
Any issues relating to infertility can COMPLETELY freak someone out and they will seek comfort and information from wherever they think they are going to get it. And miscarriage, while not always technically IF related is superscary to anyone.
One of the best things about the IF board is how knowledgable and helpful everyone here is, even when dealing with their own unspeakable pain.
I'm sure people see that and do think of the people here as experts in all things vagina. And let's face it, anyone who has been through IF probably DOES know more about the inner workings of the female reproductive system than your average bear.
That being said, I do agree there is some level of sensitivity that "new" posters should show. Even if it is in way of an introduction and an explanation of not knowing where else to turn.
well said Lauren
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Goldi0218
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
Posted by leighla
That being said, I do agree there is some level of sensitivity that "new" posters should show. Even if it is in way of an introduction and an explanation of not knowing where else to turn.
Posted by rose825
There are definately some IFers I would like to hear more from. Those who can't conceive, are considering going to an RE, those doing IUI, those considering IVF etc.
OK introduction time.
I'm Leslie. I post here rather infrequently but my DH and I are about to embark on a journey as well - in about a half hour actually. Those of you who read TTC may know that DH and I havent been successful in our TTC attempts thus far. In our hearts and according to our doctor, it was a timing issue - that we just werent hitting it right. Since I am not one to leave things to chance, DH and I went back to see my OB/GYN after 6 months (based on our ages - both being 36 and a family history of medical issues on both sides) asking what the next step should be for us. We both had exams. DH had an SA and I had bloodwork as well as a sonogram. After these diagnostics, no problems were found with either one of us. We are both 36 and now after 7 months, we have been directed towards AIH - artificial insemination by husband. Some people have asked me what it was and how it differe from IUI and I tried to explain to the best of my ability. I do not know of anyone else who was given this option. In fact I never even heard of it until my doctor mentioned it to me. I am not on Clomid or any other medications. DH's sample is not going to need to be washed. The doctor is simply narrrowing things down for us before we may need to move on to more invasive and clinical procedures that would use the services of an RE.
I hesitated to post this on these boards because, as someone pointed out, I may not be ready to face the road ahead. I also want to believe in my heart of hearts that our first attempts will be easy, even though they may not. Im scared and confused and I never wanted to be in a situation feeling so vulnerable. I am also trying to be as sensitive to the people who have been here on the IF boards many more months than have been lurking. When all I have ever wanted in my life is a child, every day without hurts like hell. It is a lifelong dream that has yet to come to fruition
If I have in any way hurt or offended or alienated anyone, it was never my intention. My heart and good wishes are with each and every one of you.
Thanks for hearing me out.
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Gertyrae
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
Leslie, I don't think this post was directed at you either. Again, it's about people who aren't really dealing with IF or are posting here along with other boards.
As far as your situation is concerned, even though your Dr. said it's a timing issue has he performed any other tests on you. You may have blocked tubes and an HSG would show that right away or your CM may kill DH's sperm and a post-coital test would show that. It seems to me that timing would no longer be an issue after almost a year.
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LIBOUND
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
Posted by lulugrrl
This was me...I felt very uncomfortable coming to this board at first, because I knew so many of you had very long journeys with IF. Whereas I was just beginning, but if I did not come here and ask questions, I think it would have taken me soo much longer to figure out I needed an RE. You all gave me the push I needed
Lulugrrl, I could have written this myself.
I think that the bottom line is we come here to voice ourselves, right or wrong, indifferent or not, whatever...
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.
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| Posted 2/5/07 5:59 PM |
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Secret4Now
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
As someone who has a gyn related medical issue, I like to answer questions from people who have the same issue, but might not be TTC yet. I did so much research when I was diagnosed that I may as well share the info. Also, if someone were newly diagnosed while dealing with IF, they may feel a double whammy and may be overwhelmed and I can help.
I do not know if I would feel the same after being here for a year.
I have no major news whatsoever but I will give my own update soon.
ETA: No, this is not the board for all things vagina. Hair removal posts go on the fashion board, of course!
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skygirl
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
I don't think any of you here are biochy.
I totally understand both sides of this argument.
I think the problem here is that most of the ladies in this board are VERY KNOWELEDGEABLE ( I am in awe of what they know) in regards to treatments, diagnosis, medications and holistic remedies that people think they can ask anything here.
I have learned so much for all of you and I have only touched the surface.
As you said "all things vagina"--- perfect way to put it. I think that sometimes this board is SO informed on so many things people get that idea.
Not to mention the support they see here.
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pinkandblue
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
Posted by dm24angel
Posted by melijane
Fact is people are having babies all around me, getting pregnant, showers the whoile nine. If I allow myslef to get upset or bogged down in that it does absolutley nothing for me except wallow in pity and resent the people closest to me.
This makes you then spiritually above many of us and I resent that implication.
Being upset and not being able to not make it to a shower for example..which I have done countless times does not mean I'm WALLOWING IN SELF PITY or Resenting anyone. It's called self preservation.
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CaseyGirl
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
I hope I have never offended anyone here I appreciate all your advice..I am not 100% in the treatment game yet but I have been dealing with IF for over 2 years...
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jms100303
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
Coming from someone who is rather 'new' here, I have felt very welcome. I hope that my questions haven't offended anyone, I am a novice in infertility terms. We have been dealing with infertility for awhile now, but are just starting our journey of doing something about it. I feel overwhelmed and you are all so knowledgeable. Half the time I read your posts, I have to go look up what you are refering too. Most of the time, the posts aren't even about my situation, but I read them to try and learn.
I try to post encouragement and good thoughts. Unfortunately, I still don't know enough to give advice.
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halisa
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Re: I dont mean to be bittchee...
Posted by rose825
And just to clarify this is a public board and anyone is allowed to post here. Your allowed to post about the color of your socks of you like.
What I was referring to was people who do not have IF but have any gynecological problem, feel like they arent getting an answer, or enough attention from other more appropriate boards and then post here for an "expert opinion"
But they are allowed to do that, just posting how it makes me feel.
i agree with pauline's feelings and hope people don't take this off track. she's not saying you have to be a "hard core IF girl" to post here, she's not evening saying you have to "be" anything to post here, but there are times when a simple google search or even a search on this site can help you find answers, BEFORE posting. especially if it is for such a common gynecological issue.
we were all new to this board at some point and are fortunate to have gained so much information and support from each other, but it's just about being sensitive, before picking anyone's brains.
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