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mrswask
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
Posted by Redhead
If she feels that this is taking time from her, her son and their family....THEN HE IS THE ONE WHO NEEDS TO UNDERSTAND what is MORE IMPORTANT.
Being there for your son or your "FRIGGIN TOY".
There is a time to grow up too ....
Well said!!!
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05mommy09
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
Stef- Im so sorry
This would upset me too..... does he really understand that your not just being a PITA... that you really just miss him? And miss spending time as a family??
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| Posted 3/7/06 8:02 PM |
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Stefanie
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
Thanks everyone....well the test will be this week because he already had his cousin over last night.
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| Posted 3/7/06 8:18 PM |
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Palebride
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
i hope he realizes how much he's hurting you soon! My DH loves his video games, but when I showed him this post, even he agreed with you on this!
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:47 PM |
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KaRiSsA
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
I hope it works out Steph!
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| Posted 3/8/06 7:35 AM |
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Lisa
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
Posted by Redhead
Posted by DjPiLL
Posted by BabyAvocado
You would think that getting the X-Box for Christmas he'd overdose in the beginning and be kind of done with it by now...but somehow nope! And that's the part I don't get.
You see... a woman will never understand a man's desire to play these games (assuming they enjoy to play).
Just like a man will never understand a woman's desire to get her nails done... go shopping... do "woman things".
and nor do i want to "understand"
If she feels that this is taking time from her, her son and their family....THEN HE IS THE ONE WHO NEEDS TO UNDERSTAND what is MORE IMPORTANT.
Being there for your son or your "FRIGGIN TOY"
She isn't saying that he can't necessarily play the thing...
BUT the all nighters till 3-4 am is DEF ENOUGH AT 1 time a week.
IF it were me not only would it be cut to 1 time a week...the hours would be CUT as well.
There is a time to grow up too ....
ETA...just because i didn't even get to read the last part of your post...
COME ON....HOW MANY TIMES A WEEK DO YOU THINK ANY FEMALE GETS PEDICURES OR MANICURES....
 please....don't compare it
I totally agree! (and that is a first!!  ) A woman would NOT let her child be neglected to go shopping...as you put it!!
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| Posted 3/8/06 8:06 AM |
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betty
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
I feel your pain . My Dh is obsessed with some game America's Army that he downloaded onto the computer. He also plays with his cousin BUT since it's on the computer, his cousin plays from his own home . He used to play all the time but now that the baby is here he basically plays when we go to bed...he plays from like 11 until like 1 or 2 (then gets up at 5:30 ). On the weekends he plays until like 4 BUT he's up with us when the baby gets up (and that was my biggest gripe)....if he wants to get 3 hours of sleep - fine by me! I try not to ***** at him too much about it b/c as long as he is spending time with us and plays when we go to sleep I don't care, he works a lot so he deserves it...............................BUT if his cousin was coming to our house all the time THAT would be another story! I would be pi$$ed too.
Good Luck
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| Posted 3/9/06 10:22 AM |
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Shelly
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
Posted by DjPiLL
You see... a woman will never understand a man's desire to play these games (assuming they enjoy to play).
Just like a man will never understand a woman's desire to get her nails done... go shopping... do "woman things".
Come on... you can't understand why a woman likes to get her nails done- it is relaxing, a little pampering, not to expensive and you feel neat and put together afterwards.
It may not be the way you relax or pamper yourself or put yourself together- but surely you can understand the "desire" part of it. Its like a man getting a shave, or taking a steam, or a massage.
And as a woman, I understand my DH's desire to play games- hell I even bought him the PSP for his 30th b-day. I totally understand his desire to decompress and play some games and escape. I have the same desires- but playing games isn't want does it for me.
Personally, I am lucky. DH will get a new game, play it for 3 days all the time- and then not touch it again for months until he has a new game.
But there comes a time when enough is enough and respect for one another has to come in. Playing a game for 4-5 hours when you are only home about 13 hours a day and 8 of those hours you are sleeping is a little annoying. I can totally get that. You can't? If your wife wanted to spend 4-5 hours 3 -4 days a week away from you or involved in something that you couldn't participate in, you wouldn't be upset?
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| Posted 3/9/06 4:32 PM |
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metsgirlie
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
I hope it works out for you.
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| Posted 3/9/06 5:30 PM |
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DjPiLL
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
Posted by Shellyesq
Come on... you can't understand why a woman likes to get her nails done- it is relaxing, a little pampering, not to expensive and you feel neat and put together afterwards.
It may not be the way you relax or pamper yourself or put yourself together- but surely you can understand the "desire" part of it. Its like a man getting a shave, or taking a steam, or a massage.
And as a woman, I understand my DH's desire to play games- hell I even bought him the PSP for his 30th b-day. I totally understand his desire to decompress and play some games and escape. I have the same desires- but playing games isn't want does it for me.
Personally, I am lucky. DH will get a new game, play it for 3 days all the time- and then not touch it again for months until he has a new game.
We will agree to disagree on this one... because no matter how much you can claim you "relate" to a man and how much he enjoys doing this.... in the end your not a man so there is no need to debate this.
But there comes a time when enough is enough and respect for one another has to come in. Playing a game for 4-5 hours when you are only home about 13 hours a day and 8 of those hours you are sleeping is a little annoying. I can totally get that. You can't? If your wife wanted to spend 4-5 hours 3 -4 days a week away from you or involved in something that you couldn't participate in, you wouldn't be upset?
Maybe 4-5 hours is a lot, 3-4 times a week. But if its something I knew she enjoyed... then yeah it wouldn't bother me. Its not EVERY day, and people could be doing FAR worse things.
And even though I am not playing video games every day currently... I do it in phases.... she would give me the same respect (because she has in the past).
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| Posted 3/9/06 5:52 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
So you need a penis to relate to a video game
I used to love them when i was 10...
maybe it is just you have to be of that age mentally to "truly" understand 
Message edited 3/9/2006 6:25:49 PM.
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| Posted 3/9/06 6:02 PM |
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MommyofG
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
My girlfriend almost got divorced b/c of this, he didnt think she was serious and when the lawyer called he got scared and limited his playing.
My DH plays too for about an hour each night when he gets home from work- he says it relaxes him and I understand cause he works hard. but then again we dont have children yet so I dont know how ok I will be with it then.
good luck and stand your ground!
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| Posted 3/9/06 6:20 PM |
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DjPiLL
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Richard
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
Posted by Redhead
maybe it is just you have to be of that age mentally to "truly" understand
Well... when a lot of games that are out are rated "adults only"... my first impression would be.... NO.
Nice try though.
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| Posted 3/9/06 6:37 PM |
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Redhead
You Live, You Learn
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
Posted by DjPiLL
Posted by Redhead
maybe it is just you have to be of that age mentally to "truly" understand
Well... when a lot of games that are out are rated "adults only"... my first impression would be.... NO.
Nice try though.
Adult is only an age factor...
has nothing to do with mental age
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| Posted 3/9/06 6:50 PM |
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Stefanie
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
Well, I didn't mean for it to be an all out war...
Today was his day off and he spent the whole day with me and the baby!!!
His cousin did call and he blew him off, told him he would call him later but never did.
Monday starts a new week, so we shall see which day he picks next week.
By the way...he didn't play the video game once this week. He just needs his cousin here to be "addicted".
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mommy2bella
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
sounds like a start Stef....glad it went well...hope next week goes as well.
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| Posted 3/10/06 7:47 AM |
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Shelly
She's 7!!!
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
Posted by DjPiLL
Posted by Shellyesq
Come on... you can't understand why a woman likes to get her nails done- it is relaxing, a little pampering, not to expensive and you feel neat and put together afterwards.
It may not be the way you relax or pamper yourself or put yourself together- but surely you can understand the "desire" part of it. Its like a man getting a shave, or taking a steam, or a massage.
And as a woman, I understand my DH's desire to play games- hell I even bought him the PSP for his 30th b-day. I totally understand his desire to decompress and play some games and escape. I have the same desires- but playing games isn't want does it for me.
Personally, I am lucky. DH will get a new game, play it for 3 days all the time- and then not touch it again for months until he has a new game.
We will agree to disagree on this one... because no matter how much you can claim you "relate" to a man and how much he enjoys doing this.... in the end your not a man so there is no need to debate this.
You have GOT to be kidding me. Only MEN can like video games. If you truly believe this, then I am so sorry for you. I used to love games, and when we got the snowboarding game for our PSII, I was just as obsessed as my DH for a few days. So please, take your absurd stereotypes out of here. There are women who are just as obsessed as games as men are. Next you are going to say that women just don't like sports like men do.
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DjPiLL
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
Posted by Shellyesq
You have GOT to be kidding me. Only MEN can like video games. If you truly believe this, then I am so sorry for you. I used to love games, and when we got the snowboarding game for our PSII, I was just as obsessed as my DH for a few days. So please, take your absurd stereotypes out of here. There are women who are just as obsessed as games as men are. Next you are going to say that women just don't like sports like men do.
You don't know when to give up... don't you? I said I will agree to disagree on this. "I was just as obsessed as my DH for a few days" proves my point.
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DjPiLL
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Richard
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
Posted by Stefanie
Well, I didn't mean for it to be an all out war...
Today was his day off and he spent the whole day with me and the baby!!!
His cousin did call and he blew him off, told him he would call him later but never did.
Good luck with next week! 
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| Posted 3/10/06 11:28 AM |
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Shelly
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
Posted by DjPiLL
Posted by Shellyesq
You have GOT to be kidding me. Only MEN can like video games. If you truly believe this, then I am so sorry for you. I used to love games, and when we got the snowboarding game for our PSII, I was just as obsessed as my DH for a few days. So please, take your absurd stereotypes out of here. There are women who are just as obsessed as games as men are. Next you are going to say that women just don't like sports like men do.
You don't know when to give up... don't you? I said I will agree to disagree on this. "I was just as obsessed as my DH for a few days" proves my point.
We will just have to agree to disagree. I just get ticked off by sweeping gender stereotypes.
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BabyAvocado
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
Sounds like a step in the right direction Stefanie!! Good luck with next week!
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Shelly
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
Good luck stefanie!!
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| Posted 3/10/06 11:51 AM |
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SoinLove
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
I'm in a very similar situation. DH plays an online game called World of Warcraft. He works from 3 PM- midnight and then starts playing as soon as he gets home, which is okay with me, because I'm in bed by that point anyway. He isn't satisfied with a couple hours of gameplay though. He usually plays until 5 or 6 AM. Sometimes he'll play even later than that. On his days off, he plays pretty much the entire day.
I understand his need to play, but I've asked him SO many times to come to bed a little earlier, so he can get up earlier to spend time with Christopher and I before he goes to work. He usually doesn't get up until 1 or 2 though and by that point he needs to start getting ready. It honestly makes me feel like a single parent most of the time (who just happens to have money magically coming in). Even on his days off, if I ask him to hold Christopher while I do something, I get eye rolls and sighs. It just seems like there's no comprimising with a gamer. I can totally relate to what you're going through
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| Posted 3/10/06 4:33 PM |
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SoinLove
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
Posted by Stefanie
Well, I didn't mean for it to be an all out war...
Today was his day off and he spent the whole day with me and the baby!!!
His cousin did call and he blew him off, told him he would call him later but never did.
Monday starts a new week, so we shall see which day he picks next week.
By the way...he didn't play the video game once this week. He just needs his cousin here to be "addicted".
Didn't see this. Alright Maybe your DH can have a little chat with mine
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| Posted 3/10/06 4:34 PM |
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Alli06
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Re: I don't understand it...(long vent)
Posted by Palebride
i hope he realizes how much he's hurting you soon! My DH loves his video games, but when I showed him this post, even he agreed with you on this!
I totally agree, FH would say the same thing.
My Fh loves his video games, and has his friends come over to play as well. On the other hand, your DH is getting out of hand. You guys are married and have a baby, he seems like he is regressing into the single life. Men are blind, and don't realize what they are doing, and who they are hurting. You really need to sit him down and tell him how you feel. This could initially hurt your marriage. One night a week is not asking to much at all.
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