I just feel like my Dr isnt supportive of me~vent

DH & I have been trying for 16 months now. I had 2 m/c. My Dr told me after my second m/c to wait a few months and just try things naturally, but that she would send me for genetic testing to rule anything out. Test came back perfect.

I called to make an appt to have a consultation with her, to see if we could go to the RE.

She told me I'm jumping the gun, that I have a child already and had no problems getting him. She told me wait ANOTHER 4 months before I go to this Dr. W T F?????? Why would I want to waste more time and get more depressed month after month??

She gave me his number, but I really think I'm going to call sooner. I do really like my Dr, but this is something thats tearing me apart and I need her to be a little more pro-active.

I'm sorry I'm just venting (and crying)

Re: I just feel like my Dr isnt supportive of me~vent

Go to the RE!!!!!!!

Did you have immune testing done?

This is often the cause of secondary IF

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No I just had genetic testing done.

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Does your insurance require a referral? If not, I would make an appointment for RE immediately. IF is defined as TTC for 1 year. I would definetly not waste anymore time.

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Posted by Domino

Does your insurance require a referral? If not, I would make an appointment for RE immediately. IF is defined as TTC for 1 year. I would definetly not waste anymore time.

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Posted by stayandjohn

Posted by Domino

Does your insurance require a referral? If not, I would make an appointment for RE immediately. IF is defined as TTC for 1 year. I would definetly not waste anymore time.

Yes it does

I wonder if I go make the appt, then say Oh I didnt know, will the RE's office get the referral for me? Or should I just change Dr's altogether and get one that is more supportive

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That is RIDICULOUS. Statistics show that secondary infertility is even MORE prevalent that primary infertility. Just because you successfully conceived one child, that has absolutely no bearing on your ability now. I'm experiencing secondary infertility, and I have been told by my RE that it is VERY common, and that many women experience significant hormonal changes after pregnancy and the birth of one child, that affect their ability to conceive another.

I would go back to your OB/Gyn one last time and explain that, because this has been 16 months, your insurance will clearly approve a visit to the RE, and that while she wants you to wait, you would prefer to move straight to the RE. If she isn't supportive, I would immediately switch your practice.

Do you have a PPO for insurance? If so, you can schedule your own appointment with the RE without having to get permission from your ob/gyn. That's what I did... and we had only been trying 9 months at that point!

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I would tell your ob you want the referral now. If she gives you a problem, I would find a new doctor ASAP.

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Go straight to the RE - 16 months is more than enough waiting time...

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Definately speak to an RE...I wasted 8 months w/ my regualr OB and ended up pg. in 3 with a real RE....Don't know how your insurance works but with mine, you just need a referral from your GP...Maybe that would be easier than asking the OB ????...Good Luck !!!!

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i wouldn't wait any longer your are paying your Dr to do whats right for you and it is your right to want a second opinion even if you want to go for a consult 16 months is long enough to have to wait keep pushing for a referral

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Thanks for all the replies. Hubby informed me that I DO NOT need any referrals with this insurance (it was his companies previous insurance), so I will be calling on Monday for my appt with the RE

Thanks again ladies

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Posted by stayandjohn

Thanks for all the replies. Hubby informed me that I DO NOT need any referrals with this insurance (it was his companies previous insurance), so I will be calling on Monday for my appt with the RE

Thanks again ladies

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Posted by stayandjohn

Thanks for all the replies. Hubby informed me that I DO NOT need any referrals with this insurance (it was his companies previous insurance), so I will be calling on Monday for my appt with the RE

Thanks again ladies

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Stacey--you may want to try Dr. Braverman in Garden City. He is part of SIRM who test more than other RE's especially for immune issues which I think may be something you want to consider...GL

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I just got off the phone with the Dr's office. I have an appt on 1/31. I'm happy/relieved. I hope this dr can give me the answers I need.

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Posted by stayandjohn

Posted by melijane

Stacey--you may want to try Dr. Braverman in Garden City. He is part of SIRM who test more than other RE's especially for immune issues which I think may be something you want to consider...GL

Thank Mel, I'm in Staten Island, so I am going to try a Dr out here, but if he doesnt test me for the immune issues I will definately consider Dr. Braverman

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Stacy - as much as you like your doctor, I would not wait. Precious time is ticking away and you are getting further and further away from your dream. It's not up to her to define your life's milestones or accomplishments. Yes, you do have a beautiful boy but you would like to know if him being here wasn't by some miracle and that some sort of intervention may be necessary for another miracle to happen. I know for myself I would want answers and I would not want to wait. Maybe for you (and I don't know if it is or it isn't) you wanted your children closer in age, etc. I know you mentioned previously you wanted a playmate for your little guy.

You might want to keep your options open in terms of another doctor. Clearly what she feels is not inline with what you want and need. You've suffered enough loss and disappointment

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Posted by melijane

Posted by stayandjohn

Posted by melijane

Stacey--you may want to try Dr. Braverman in Garden City. He is part of SIRM who test more than other RE's especially for immune issues which I think may be something you want to consider...GL

Thank Mel, I'm in Staten Island, so I am going to try a Dr out here, but if he doesnt test me for the immune issues I will definately consider Dr. Braverman

Actually there is also a Dr in Brooklyn(Kofinas, I think) Skygirl used him and apparently he is immune friendly as well. Hav eyou gotten the recurrent pregnancy loss panel? Did you ever read the Dr. Beer stuff I sent you> He talks a lot about secondary infertility/miscarriages. The problem with going to a regular RE they will probably tell you it is your eggs, you are too old, there is something wrong with ovulation blah blah blah. You really need to see someone that investigates ALL the background. You could also try SIRM in the city. They have a chat board on their website you can post your history and they will lead you in the right direction. haveababy.com

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Posted by stayandjohn

Posted by melijane

Posted by stayandjohn

Posted by melijane

Stacey--you may want to try Dr. Braverman in Garden City. He is part of SIRM who test more than other RE's especially for immune issues which I think may be something you want to consider...GL

Thank Mel, I'm in Staten Island, so I am going to try a Dr out here, but if he doesnt test me for the immune issues I will definately consider Dr. Braverman

Actually there is also a Dr in Brooklyn(Kofinas, I think) Skygirl used him and apparently he is immune friendly as well. Hav eyou gotten the recurrent pregnancy loss panel? Did you ever read the Dr. Beer stuff I sent you> He talks a lot about secondary infertility/miscarriages. The problem with going to a regular RE they will probably tell you it is your eggs, you are too old, there is something wrong with ovulation blah blah blah. You really need to see someone that investigates ALL the background. You could also try SIRM in the city. They have a chat board on their website you can post your history and they will lead you in the right direction. haveababy.com

I have heard of Dr. Kofinas, matter of fact, the woman who did the genetics testing told me about him, but she also said that he gives unnecessary meds (I dont know what that means).

I'm just happy that I'm able to move a bit closer than I was.

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I would call and GO

F your Dr
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