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InShock
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Re: I know only *I* can make this decision, but I'm hoping you guys can give me your take on it. (pretty long)
In-home daycare without a doubt.
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JennyPenny
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Re: I know only *I* can make this decision, but I'm hoping you guys can give me your take on it. (pretty long)
I would definitely choose the day care in this situation.
What happens if the pregnant girl has an issue and needs to go on bedrest? What if she has the baby prematurely? How well will she be able to get around at 9 months?
Too many variables.
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| Posted 10/30/10 11:13 AM |
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MrsDrMatt
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Re: I know only *I* can make this decision, but I'm hoping you guys can give me your take on it. (pretty long)
daycare all the way
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| Posted 10/30/10 11:32 AM |
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Gertyrae
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Re: I know only *I* can make this decision, but I'm hoping you guys can give me your take on it. (pretty long)
In-home daycare....
for the record, that's what we do and I love it. I am very comfortable with the woman and because she has her own children, I can tell by the way they are that she is a great caretaker...Her own children are so well-behaved and responsible that I didn't think twice when she offered to watch C.
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| Posted 10/30/10 11:55 AM |
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JennZ
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Re: I know only *I* can make this decision, but I'm hoping you guys can give me your take on it. (pretty long)
Posted by Gertyrae
In-home daycare....
for the record, that's what we do and I love it. I am very comfortable with the woman and because she has her own children, I can tell by the way they are that she is a great caretaker...Her own children are so well-behaved and responsible that I didn't think twice when she offered to watch C.
Ita. We switched Jason from dc to in home dc. So much better.
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| Posted 10/30/10 11:56 AM |
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CaseyGirl
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Re: I know only *I* can make this decision, but I'm hoping you guys can give me your take on it. (pretty long)
To me that's a no brainer, go with stability, the lady's house.
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| Posted 10/30/10 11:58 AM |
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NinaLemon
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Re: I know only *I* can make this decision, but I'm hoping you guys can give me your take on it. (pretty long)
Posted by DmarieK
Out of those two scenerios I would without a doubt go with the in home. To hire the gilrlfriend of your bosses son is soooooo not a good idea. Forget about the fact that she's 22...pregnant and thinks she's returning to work in 2 weeks. Who's watching her baby? I just think mixing your home life with your bosses family spells disaster in the end.
ITA agree with this, not only the fact that she is your principal's family, but I wouldn't feel comfortable going into a temporary nanny situation. I think it is a lot to ask of the kids to continuously change caregivers. In a daycare situation they do change teachers, but usually they have many friends to make the change with them and even in then it is hard on the kids. I think stability is important.
The teenage daughters also don't bother me, but I grew up in a large family and my older siblings always had friends over, if they were too loud/obnoxious my Mom would send them into another room, outside or home. I would think that since this is her business she would be even more aware of what her daughters/guests are doing in the home.
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| Posted 10/30/10 12:07 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: I know only *I* can make this decision, but I'm hoping you guys can give me your take on it. (pretty long)
I would go with the in-home day care provider where your children are numbers 4 and 5. The reason I would not go with your principal's recommendation is: 1. she is her son's GF, 2. if she has a difficult pg you will be in the exact same position you are presently in and what happens if your other option is no longer available? 3. She will eventually give birth and then you will be out of a day care provider, which will put you into position number 2 again. 4. The private person, has insurance and a license, and pays taxes. All of those are important things to me....
I feel like hiring a PG woman is 100% fine, but you need to understand your risks, to me, the fact that she is the GF really is the biggest detriment. What happens if the kids break up???
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| Posted 10/30/10 12:37 PM |
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Sunday
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Re: I know only *I* can make this decision, but I'm hoping you guys can give me your take on it. (pretty long)
I'd go with the first option hands down.
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| Posted 10/30/10 12:38 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: I know only *I* can make this decision, but I'm hoping you guys can give me your take on it. (pretty long)
100%........I would go with the in-home daycare.
First, amazing as the other girl may be I would feel a little weird about having someone so close to your principal in my home. I just like to keep work at work and not mix in my personal life. Second, there is NO way she would return to work after only 2 weeks of giving birth. You and I both know that's insane. Lastly, she's a young 1st time mother and she has no idea what she is in for with a new baby and she may end up wanting to be home longer or not being able to manage working for you F/T along with caring for her own kid. It's a huge undertaking.
You don't want to be caught in a lurch so I would just go with the in-home daycare and not even get involved with the other girl. I don't really think she's in the right position to be taking on what you need from her. KWIM? Good luck! 
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| Posted 10/30/10 12:44 PM |
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MrsRivera
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Re: I know only *I* can make this decision, but I'm hoping you guys can give me your take on it. (pretty long)
Thank you all SO MUCH for your help. It really does mean a lot to me to hear others' perspectives.
I think we're going to go with the in-home daycare provider.
This was the first time I had met teenagers that were SO outgoing. When we came in both times, they all came right over, introduced themselves and started playing with the kids.
The lady has a dog (My DD is CRAZY about dogs, we don't have one), two birds that Ryleigh likes to hold, and a cat. She also has a massive backyard with an in-ground sandbox, swingset, a bunch of those Little Tikes cottages, a trampoline (I've already expressed my ground rules about that) and a swimming pool in the summer. The lady used to be an EMT and a lifeguard. She started staying home when her kids were little, and watching other kids as well. She found she loved it so much--that was over 10 years ago.
She will provide them with breakfast, lunch, a snack, and dinner should we ever be running late.
I just hope that NOT hiring my principal's contact isn't going to reflect badly on me... :/ We would have hired her on the spot if she weren't pregnant (is that discrimination???), but you guys are absolutely right...I feel like it's going to be history repeating itself. 
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| Posted 10/30/10 1:01 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: I know only *I* can make this decision, but I'm hoping you guys can give me your take on it. (pretty long)
Option 2, the in home center.
How many times do we hear about woman on here who tell perspective employers that they will be coming back to work but really don't know? I would not risk it. Plus, as you know, everything changes when you give birth to that first child. She may be completely overwhelmed, I really doubt she will come back within 2 weeks and then that leaves you up a creek.
The only option that seems reasonable for your family is option 2, and I would go with that.
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| Posted 10/30/10 1:59 PM |
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Re: I know only *I* can make this decision, but I'm hoping you guys can give me your take on it. (pretty long)
I think hiring someone with such close ties to your principal could be dicey if she doesn't work out for whatever reason. And I agree with your skepticism about being able to return to work with a 2 week old baby- I remember that it took me 2 weeks to just feel OK- and if her child has colic, etc. she may not be able to give your kids the attention they need.
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Faithx2
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Re: I know only *I* can make this decision, but I'm hoping you guys can give me your take on it. (pretty long)
Posted by wingsofsong
Posted by DmarieK
Out of those two scenerios I would without a doubt go with the in home. To hire the gilrlfriend of your bosses son is soooooo not a good idea. Forget about the fact that she's 22...pregnant and thinks she's returning to work in 2 weeks. Who's watching her baby? I just think mixing your home life with your bosses family spells disaster in the end.
ITA!
Agreed
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Re: I know only *I* can make this decision, but I'm hoping you guys can give me your take on it. (pretty long)
Posted by MrsRivera
I just hope that NOT hiring my principal's contact isn't going to reflect badly on me... :/ We would have hired her on the spot if she weren't pregnant (is that discrimination???), but you guys are absolutely right...I feel like it's going to be history repeating itself.
I wouldn't not hire her because of the principal thing. It sounds like she heard you needed help and had a possible solution for you so she let you know. I also agree that the in-home child care is a better option, because in the end you're looking for stability, and the nanny can just not do that. I don't consider it discrimination because if you were interviewing a nanny and she said she needed atleast 2wks off the beginning of May would you hire her? No, and the bottom line this is what she's saying. ALso it's not just that but are you looking for someone to watch your 2 small children and a newborn at the same time without help? I think you are making a good decision and I wouldn't worry about it :)
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