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I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
I know I don't post on this board too often, but I could really use some advice right now.. I'm sorry for the length of this post but I just need to put things into perspective... I'm falling apart.
My son is a good child. He has always done exceptionally well in school and the work seems to come easy for him.. He has always had 3s or 4s.
Lately, I have noticed a *change* in him which kind of started when his teacher approached me (In Oct/Nov) about the quality of his work.. He rushes through his writing and makes silly mistakes (not capitalizing, no period, sloppy handwriting) She also reported that he has trouble paying attention. This has been a common gripe with his kindergarten teacher and first grade. None of them suggested ADHD. In fact, I'm thankful all of them suggested he might be bored because the work comes easy to him, and unless it is something he is INTERESTED in, he has trouble focusing.
His teacher this year is a gem. I really like her. She's tough and shows general concern for my son's school work. She knows he's a smart kid and COULD do better with his asssignments if he just slows down. She also doesn't take BS nor does she make excuses.. I can tell she is strict with them.
Back in the fall, she alerted me to his writing problems.. Run on sentences that aren't consistent, handwriting... etc etc. He is a WIZ in math, but had been making silly mistakes he otherwise wouldn't have had he slowed down a bit. He always has to be FIRST. We tightened ship at home, limited his video game time, made him do extra reading while I sat with him and had him write 5 sentences on what he just read... While it was cold outside and we couldn't take him to the park for activity, we found other ways of playing with him so he could release some energy.. His work improved slightly...
The last few weeks have been almost unbearable... He has ALWAYS been an active kid but lately he has been bouncing off the walls and not listening. I had comfort in the fact that he usually gets like this when I'M around but is usually well behaved with OTHER people... That's fine, I can handle the *attitude* at home, as long as he is respectful towards other people.
His teacher told me while he has been disruptive, he has never been disrespectful. Lately I have been told by his after school babysitter, my girlfriend who watches him on occasion, and the day care at the gym, that he wasn't *listening* when they told him not to do something.
At home he has been unruly... Throwing temper tantrums that frustrated the heck out of DH & I. I hate fighting with him... I hate yelling at him, but sometimes that's the ONLY way I can get through to him. My husband, his step dad, smacked him on the behind for the first time a few weeks ago.
Yesterday, I had to pick him up early from school and his teacher wanted to talk to me.
While his work had improve for a short time, he is back to where he was when she first talked to me. She said if he keeps up the way he has been writing, he will not pass the standardized tests he will have to take next year. It's all stupid mistakes he should not be making (capitalization, periods...)
She said she cannot get him to focus after lunch... He is too wound up from lunch time... It's almost impossible to get him to focus.
She knows, now that the weather is decent, that he DOES spend time at the park and with his friends, after school and on the wknds.. We also bring him to the gym almost every night where he runs around, plays soccer & dodgeball with other kids. While he LOVES his video games, he DOES get activity.
She thinks I might need to test him for ADHD...
I'm devistated... I can't explain it.. I know there is nothing WRONG with a child being diagnosed with this, but I also know that many children are MIS diagnosed with it and I fear I will be one of those moms who will just let a doctor medicate their child. I also admit I do not know much about it.
Part of me doesn't believe it is a chemical imbalance... I feel like he is acting out because of something WE'VE done (my DH & I). Life has gotten stressful in our home. My DH & I just got married in September and we have been arguing more often than ever. Nothing serious.. just petty little arguments which we never do in front of him.. but we live in a tiny apt.. there are times where he can hear us bickering. I feel as though he can sense the tension in the house.
Don't get me wrong, DH & I are fine.. It's just that he started a new job that leaves his schedule all over the place... I have been miserable lately due to my job... I feel like there is no structure in our home.
I can't help but feel like this is not ADHD and in some way my fault.
Last night, we brought him to the gym, where he has a BALL... The daycare girl told me he punched 2 children.
He PUNCHED 2 children...
I'm beside myself. My son is not the *kid* who bullies other kids. This is not the first time he has hit someone else b/c they:
either hit him first
hit him on accident
I try to tell him, it doesn't matter... you DON'T HIT people.
When I try to talk to him, he gets upset and throws himself to the floor, or runs into his room pronouncing I am the MEANEST MOMMY IN THE WORLD.
After we got home, another battle began... He was told 3 times to go to bed, yet he kept getting distracted by something else he wanted to do. Upon my DH telling him to get to bed (a 4th time) he ran into his room and slammed the door. My husband followed him and told him, since he broke their 'pact' (they made a pact earlier in the evening about his outbursts) that he was taking his gamecube away.
This enraged my son which ended in throwing of toys and him crying (hyperventilating) himself to sleep.
I'm tired. I don't know what else to do... This is not my kid.. Normally he comes and apologizes to us, so I KNOW he doesn't like acting this way. Things were fine this morning but it won't be too long before the next battle begins.
My concern is his school work.
Does anyone else have experience with ADHD or a child like this? Is it REALLY just a phase?
Any advice would be appreciated.
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
I can't tell you what I would do as a parent, as I'm not one yet but I can tell you as a teacher... if your son's teacher and you are both noticing a change in your son's behavior then I would most defintaly bring him to the dr...especially if it affecting his grades at school, that is very concerning.
The idea of medicating your child is scary, but I can speak from experience with having a brother who is ADHD and having students in my class, both who are not medicated and some who are. Sometimes medication makes a world of difference. One student inparticular, is sooo much more focused and able to control his impules...and one student who is not medicated, we will probably have to retain. We've spoken to his mom about it, and she is not conerned. Its sad, b/c he is smart, he just can't concentrate or focus long at all and its impeding his learning.
Good Luck in making you decision.
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
From what you are stating here, as a teacher he is definitely showing signs of ADD at least, but as a mother and based on the family dynamics that you have stated I would also say that this behavior could be a result of all the changes going on in his life. Sounds like a lot of change in a short time.
Have you thought about letting him talk to someone. He may be holding a lot things in.
As a teacher I certainly know the benefits fo medication, however as a sibling of an ADD child I also know the extreme benefits of behavior modification. I have also seen it work in my classroom.
The time to act is now. He is starting show you that whatever is bothering him; home life or the inability to focus is about to boil over and might result in a serious incident. Punching 2 children is a warning sign.
If it is ADD or ADHD, I am also going to suggest a support group for you so that you can learn to deal with this. ADD and ADHD can be very very trying and sometimes our reactions to it as parents and teachers make the situations work, knowing what to react to and how makes life a lot easier.
I wish you a lot of luck. Please don't blame yourself whatever it turns out to be, all you can do is be supportive now of his feelings.
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HeathKernandez
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
Posted by Nicole728
I can't tell you what I would do as a parent, as I'm not one yet but I can tell you as a teacher... if your son's teacher and you are both noticing a change in your son's behavior then I would most defintaly bring him to the dr...especially if it affecting his grades at school, that is very concerning.
The idea of medicating your child is scary, but I can speak from experience with having a brother who is ADHD and having students in my class, both who are not medicated and some who are. Sometimes medication makes a world of difference. One student inparticular, is sooo much more focused and able to control his impules...and one student who is not medicated, we will probably have to retain. We've spoken to his mom about it, and she is not conerned. Its sad, b/c he is smart, he just can't concentrate or focus long at all and its impeding his learning.
Good Luck in making you decision.
Thank you for your reply. I am definitely taking his teacher's advice and having him 'evaluated'
I just can't help but feel as though this is somehow my fault... I know it doesn't make much sense and I dont want HIM to feel as though he has done anything wrong.
I just wish I knew more about it. I'm going to do some research today at the library.. hopefully it will help me gain some more insight.
Some things she mentioned were that, he never ties his shoes ( he can barely tie them) and that he bites on his shirt CONSTANTLY... I know he must have problems with his fine motor skills, but trying to get in contact with his school's OT has the making of ANOTHER gigantic post...
thanks again for your reply.
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HeathKernandez
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
Posted by Jamie
From what you are stating here, as a teacher he is definitely showing signs of ADD at least, but as a mother and based on the family dynamics that you have stated I would also say that this behavior could be a result of all the changes going on in his life. Sounds like a lot of change in a short time.
Have you thought about letting him talk to someone. He may be holding a lot things in.
As a teacher I certainly know the benefits fo medication, however as a sibling of an ADD child I also know the extreme benefits of behavior modification. I have also seen it work in my classroom.
The time to act is now. He is starting show you that whatever is bothering him; home life or the inability to focus is about to boil over and might result in a serious incident. Punching 2 children is a warning sign.
If it is ADD or ADHD, I am also going to suggest a support group for you so that you can learn to deal with this. ADD and ADHD can be very very trying and sometimes our reactions to it as parents and teachers make the situations work, knowing what to react to and how makes life a lot easier.
I wish you a lot of luck. Please don't blame yourself whatever it turns out to be, all you can do is be supportive now of his feelings.
my husband and I are determined to unite on this and really start to make more of an effort to create stability in our home.
Thing is... there has NEVER been stability in my home. I was a single mother for most of Aidan's life... I know my marriage and Eric coming into his life is a HUGE change for him. We've been together for 3 years and the transition seemed to go smoothly with Aidan. We got serious from the beginning and my husband was amazing to my son from the get go... He moved in with us 2 years ago, and we got married in Sept.
This is the first time he's showing signs of stress.
Regardless, DH & I had a long talk and we both agreed to work harder at recognizing what Aidan might be going through.
thank you for your advice.
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
I am glad that you and your husband are taking a united stand on this. No matter what knowing that you both support him is the best for Aidan.
While you have been with your husband for a number of years, things are now official (and Aidan is no longer the man of the house, KWIM?), that is a change, jobs have been changed and a new school year began with new challenges as well as you said new stressors in the house that's a lot of change.
Please do not blame yourself you are doing what you can to help him now and that's what matters, knowing that his mother and his stepfather stand behind him no matter what is most important!!!
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
Im a little offended by your comment "be one of those moms that LET the doctor medicate their child". If your child had Diabetes you wouldn't NOT treat it right? If there IS a medical condition such as ADHD then medication is not the devil just because it's medication. My son is 1,000 times better on medication. He can focus better, while not 100%, there is a HUGE difference when he is not on it.
I would bring it up to your ped. and then go from there. It's better to medicate a child and have them succeed rather than NOT and the child struggles.
Good luck
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
I hope you get the answers you need!
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
Have you read The Out of Sync Child Has Fun? -- It explains alot about sensory integration disorder, and gives really good strategies that help calm an overactive child.
I agree that structure and routine are important ... Have you thought of signing him up for a martial arts class or gymnastics? I also really recommend finding a support group for yourself as well ... BTDT moms have great advice!
Good Luck!
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
Posted by Summerrluvv
Im a little offended by your comment "be one of those moms that LET the doctor medicate their child". If your child had Diabetes you wouldn't NOT treat it right? If there IS a medical condition such as ADHD then medication is not the devil just because it's medication. My son is 1,000 times better on medication. He can focus better, while not 100%, there is a HUGE difference when he is not on it.
I would bring it up to your ped. and then go from there. It's better to medicate a child and have them succeed rather than NOT and the child struggles.
Good luck
No, I realize if there is a NEED for it, then of course I wouldn't deny him care.
I have just read there are alot of people that are quick to medicate without considering other options.
I'm confused as to whether this is a medical issue, or if it is his way of reacting to the changes that have been made.
Like I said, I am not 100% knowledgeable in the subject to formulate a rational opinion, these are just my gut feelings..
I am also unfortunately brainwashed into thinking these are just labels... It seems like every other kid is ADD or ADHD these days.
I didn't mean to offend anyone and I apologize if you were.
I'm just being honest with how I feel right now.. I know once I educate myself on the subject, my initial opnion will change.
thank you for your insight.
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
Posted by Summerrluvv
Im a little offended by your comment "be one of those moms that LET the doctor medicate their child". If your child had Diabetes you wouldn't NOT treat it right? If there IS a medical condition such as ADHD then medication is not the devil just because it's medication. My son is 1,000 times better on medication. He can focus better, while not 100%, there is a HUGE difference when he is not on it.
I would bring it up to your ped. and then go from there. It's better to medicate a child and have them succeed rather than NOT and the child struggles.
Good luck
Forgive me- but are you kidding? Please go back and re-read what she wrote before getting "offended", She said she was afraid of a MISdiagnosis and letting her child get medicated. The truth of the matter is, ADD and ESPECIALLY ADHD are OFTEN overdiagnosed and medication dispensed. THAT is what she is afraid of. As an educator, I see it all time. I also see the WONDERFUL benefits medication can do when it is needed.
She is reaching out for help- try not to make it about you and what "offends" you- perhaps try offering her INSIGHT instead of jumping to conclusions.
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HeathKernandez
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
Posted by colesmom
Have you read The Out of Sync Child Has Fun? -- It explains alot about sensory integration disorder, and gives really good strategies that help calm an overactive child.
I agree that structure and routine are important ... Have you thought of signing him up for a martial arts class or gymnastics? I also really recommend finding a support group for yourself as well ... BTDT moms have great advice!
Good Luck!
He did karate last year... He enjoyed it while he was THERE but it was a chore to get him to go... I really want him to continue but he refuses to.
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Thank you for the book recommendation... I'll try to pick it up.
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
Also Caz- I have a meeting with my school's OT today to ask what she recommends about fine/gross motor.
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
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Posted by Summerrluvv
Im a little offended by your comment "be one of those moms that LET the doctor medicate their child". If your child had Diabetes you wouldn't NOT treat it right? If there IS a medical condition such as ADHD then medication is not the devil just because it's medication. My son is 1,000 times better on medication. He can focus better, while not 100%, there is a HUGE difference when he is not on it.
I would bring it up to your ped. and then go from there. It's better to medicate a child and have them succeed rather than NOT and the child struggles.
Good luck
Forgive me- but are you kidding? Please go back and re-read what she wrote before getting "offended", She said she was afraid of a MISdiagnosis and letting her child get medicated. The truth of the matter is, ADD and ESPECIALLY ADHD are OFTEN overdiagnosed and medication dispensed. THAT is what she is afraid of. As an educator, I see it all time. I also see the WONDERFUL benefits medication can do when it is needed.
She is reaching out for help- try not to make it about you and what "offends" you- perhaps try offering her INSIGHT instead of jumping to conclusions.
I don't think she meant any harm...She just took it out of context and I understand that my statement (alone) might ruffle some feathers b/c there IS a stigma attached.. I have to admit, if Aidan IS diagnosed and truly needs medication, I would be on the defense should anyone express how they feel, as well.
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HeathKernandez
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
Posted by Porrruss
Also Caz- I have a meeting with my school's OT today to ask what she recommends about fine/gross motor.
Love you more than my luggage
Thanks Amy... You really calmed me down enough last night to get some sleep.
I'll call you when the next "battle" begins. lol
people don't think it be like it is.... but it do!
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
Posted by carolinep24
Posted by Nicole728
I can't tell you what I would do as a parent, as I'm not one yet but I can tell you as a teacher... if your son's teacher and you are both noticing a change in your son's behavior then I would most defintaly bring him to the dr...especially if it affecting his grades at school, that is very concerning.
The idea of medicating your child is scary, but I can speak from experience with having a brother who is ADHD and having students in my class, both who are not medicated and some who are. Sometimes medication makes a world of difference. One student inparticular, is sooo much more focused and able to control his impules...and one student who is not medicated, we will probably have to retain. We've spoken to his mom about it, and she is not conerned. Its sad, b/c he is smart, he just can't concentrate or focus long at all and its impeding his learning.
Good Luck in making you decision.
Thank you for your reply. I am definitely taking his teacher's advice and having him 'evaluated'
I just can't help but feel as though this is somehow my fault... I know it doesn't make much sense and I dont want HIM to feel as though he has done anything wrong.
I just wish I knew more about it. I'm going to do some research today at the library.. hopefully it will help me gain some more insight.
Some things she mentioned were that, he never ties his shoes ( he can barely tie them) and that he bites on his shirt CONSTANTLY... I know he must have problems with his fine motor skills, but trying to get in contact with his school's OT has the making of ANOTHER gigantic post...
thanks again for your reply.
No problem! I don't want you to blame yourself at all! Sometimes these things our out of of hands. The best thing you can do is educate yourself as much as you can and speak to the doctor.
Also, not only you, but the school can refer your son to the OT for additional testing if he is having issues with his fine motor skills. Do you know if they have already done so?
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
Posted by Porrruss
Posted by Summerrluvv
Im a little offended by your comment "be one of those moms that LET the doctor medicate their child". If your child had Diabetes you wouldn't NOT treat it right? If there IS a medical condition such as ADHD then medication is not the devil just because it's medication. My son is 1,000 times better on medication. He can focus better, while not 100%, there is a HUGE difference when he is not on it.
I would bring it up to your ped. and then go from there. It's better to medicate a child and have them succeed rather than NOT and the child struggles.
Good luck
Forgive me- but are you kidding? Please go back and re-read what she wrote before getting "offended", She said she was afraid of a MISdiagnosis and letting her child get medicated. The truth of the matter is, ADD and ESPECIALLY ADHD are OFTEN overdiagnosed and medication dispensed. THAT is what she is afraid of. As an educator, I see it all time. I also see the WONDERFUL benefits medication can do when it is needed.
She is reaching out for help- try not to make it about you and what "offends" you- perhaps try offering her INSIGHT instead of jumping to conclusions.
What? Who is jumping to conclusions? I read the thread, I'm offended by the statement, period. Being that I just did offer her some insight as a parent of a child with ADHD who is on medication, I don't think it's out of line at all. Sorry you disagree.
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
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Posted by carolinep24
Posted by Nicole728
I can't tell you what I would do as a parent, as I'm not one yet but I can tell you as a teacher... if your son's teacher and you are both noticing a change in your son's behavior then I would most defintaly bring him to the dr...especially if it affecting his grades at school, that is very concerning.
The idea of medicating your child is scary, but I can speak from experience with having a brother who is ADHD and having students in my class, both who are not medicated and some who are. Sometimes medication makes a world of difference. One student inparticular, is sooo much more focused and able to control his impules...and one student who is not medicated, we will probably have to retain. We've spoken to his mom about it, and she is not conerned. Its sad, b/c he is smart, he just can't concentrate or focus long at all and its impeding his learning.
Good Luck in making you decision.
Thank you for your reply. I am definitely taking his teacher's advice and having him 'evaluated'
I just can't help but feel as though this is somehow my fault... I know it doesn't make much sense and I dont want HIM to feel as though he has done anything wrong.
I just wish I knew more about it. I'm going to do some research today at the library.. hopefully it will help me gain some more insight.
Some things she mentioned were that, he never ties his shoes ( he can barely tie them) and that he bites on his shirt CONSTANTLY... I know he must have problems with his fine motor skills, but trying to get in contact with his school's OT has the making of ANOTHER gigantic post...
thanks again for your reply.
No problem! I don't want you to blame yourself at all! Sometimes these things our out of of hands. The best thing you can do is educate yourself as much as you can and speak to the doctor.
Also, not only you, but the school can refer your son to the OT for additional testing if he is having issues with his fine motor skills. Do you know if they have already done so?
I have been trying to contact the OT for this whole school year. I have NEVER heard from her..
I'm calling teh principal today actually b/c I'm p*ssed off..
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
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Posted by Nicole728
I can't tell you what I would do as a parent, as I'm not one yet but I can tell you as a teacher... if your son's teacher and you are both noticing a change in your son's behavior then I would most defintaly bring him to the dr...especially if it affecting his grades at school, that is very concerning.
The idea of medicating your child is scary, but I can speak from experience with having a brother who is ADHD and having students in my class, both who are not medicated and some who are. Sometimes medication makes a world of difference. One student inparticular, is sooo much more focused and able to control his impules...and one student who is not medicated, we will probably have to retain. We've spoken to his mom about it, and she is not conerned. Its sad, b/c he is smart, he just can't concentrate or focus long at all and its impeding his learning.
Good Luck in making you decision.
Thank you for your reply. I am definitely taking his teacher's advice and having him 'evaluated'
I just can't help but feel as though this is somehow my fault... I know it doesn't make much sense and I dont want HIM to feel as though he has done anything wrong.
I just wish I knew more about it. I'm going to do some research today at the library.. hopefully it will help me gain some more insight.
Some things she mentioned were that, he never ties his shoes ( he can barely tie them) and that he bites on his shirt CONSTANTLY... I know he must have problems with his fine motor skills, but trying to get in contact with his school's OT has the making of ANOTHER gigantic post...
thanks again for your reply.
No problem! I don't want you to blame yourself at all! Sometimes these things our out of of hands. The best thing you can do is educate yourself as much as you can and speak to the doctor.
Also, not only you, but the school can refer your son to the OT for additional testing if he is having issues with his fine motor skills. Do you know if they have already done so?
I have been trying to contact the OT for this whole school year. I have NEVER heard from her..
I'm calling teh principal today actually b/c I'm p*ssed off..
You shouldn't have to call the OT, the special education department is typically responsible for that. I would contact them directly and tell them your concerns. Good luck!
ETA OT is typically outsourced, most schools don't have an in-house one, so maybe that's why she isn't calling you back?
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
Posted by Summerrluvv
ETA OT is typically outsourced, most schools don't have an in-house one, so maybe that's why she isn't calling you back?
His school does have an OT
It was his teacher who recommended the OT, told me the OT told her I would need a prescription to have him evaluated... The teacher then told me the OT came to evaluate him, but couldn't b/c the class was on their way out to another class... (this was back in the fall)
Teacher said she never followed up and I have left numerous messages for her to call me. I have yet to hear back.
If it is something that *I* shouldn;t have to deal with, then why not make one phone call alerting to me what has to be done, who takes care of it... you know?
I am completely in the dark about this.
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| Posted 5/1/08 11:22 AM |
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
Posted by carolinep24
Posted by Summerrluvv
ETA OT is typically outsourced, most schools don't have an in-house one, so maybe that's why she isn't calling you back?
His school does have an OT
It was his teacher who recommended the OT, told me the OT told her I would need a prescription to have him evaluated... The teacher then told me the OT came to evaluate him, but couldn't b/c the class was on their way out to another class... (this was back in the fall)
Teacher said she never followed up and I have left numerous messages for her to call me. I have yet to hear back.
If it is something that *I* shouldn;t have to deal with, then why not make one phone call alerting to me what has to be done, who takes care of it... you know?
I am completely in the dark about this.
What district are you in?
I would just contact special education, it's usually listed under pupil personnell services in the directory and try that route. How frustrating!
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| Posted 5/1/08 11:25 AM |
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HeathKernandez
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
Posted by Summerrluvv
Posted by carolinep24
Posted by Summerrluvv
ETA OT is typically outsourced, most schools don't have an in-house one, so maybe that's why she isn't calling you back?
His school does have an OT
It was his teacher who recommended the OT, told me the OT told her I would need a prescription to have him evaluated... The teacher then told me the OT came to evaluate him, but couldn't b/c the class was on their way out to another class... (this was back in the fall)
Teacher said she never followed up and I have left numerous messages for her to call me. I have yet to hear back.
If it is something that *I* shouldn;t have to deal with, then why not make one phone call alerting to me what has to be done, who takes care of it... you know?
I am completely in the dark about this.
What district are you in?
I would just contact special education, it's usually listed under pupil personnell services in the directory and try that route. How frustrating!
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I just spoke to his principal... She knows me, we're on a few committees together so she knows I wouldn't call just to complain..
she's going to follow up for me...
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| Posted 5/1/08 11:29 AM |
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Nicole728
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
Posted by carolinep24
Posted by Nicole728
Posted by carolinep24
Posted by Nicole728
I can't tell you what I would do as a parent, as I'm not one yet but I can tell you as a teacher... if your son's teacher and you are both noticing a change in your son's behavior then I would most defintaly bring him to the dr...especially if it affecting his grades at school, that is very concerning.
The idea of medicating your child is scary, but I can speak from experience with having a brother who is ADHD and having students in my class, both who are not medicated and some who are. Sometimes medication makes a world of difference. One student inparticular, is sooo much more focused and able to control his impules...and one student who is not medicated, we will probably have to retain. We've spoken to his mom about it, and she is not conerned. Its sad, b/c he is smart, he just can't concentrate or focus long at all and its impeding his learning.
Good Luck in making you decision.
Thank you for your reply. I am definitely taking his teacher's advice and having him 'evaluated'
I just can't help but feel as though this is somehow my fault... I know it doesn't make much sense and I dont want HIM to feel as though he has done anything wrong.
I just wish I knew more about it. I'm going to do some research today at the library.. hopefully it will help me gain some more insight.
Some things she mentioned were that, he never ties his shoes ( he can barely tie them) and that he bites on his shirt CONSTANTLY... I know he must have problems with his fine motor skills, but trying to get in contact with his school's OT has the making of ANOTHER gigantic post...
thanks again for your reply.
No problem! I don't want you to blame yourself at all! Sometimes these things our out of of hands. The best thing you can do is educate yourself as much as you can and speak to the doctor.
Also, not only you, but the school can refer your son to the OT for additional testing if he is having issues with his fine motor skills. Do you know if they have already done so?
I have been trying to contact the OT for this whole school year. I have NEVER heard from her..
I'm calling teh principal today actually b/c I'm p*ssed off..
I would be too, that is very unprofessional! def all and complain.
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| Posted 5/1/08 11:38 AM |
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LoveBeingMrsT
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Re: I need advice... (long)- ADHD related
as a spec. ed. teacher with many children diagnosed and not diagnosed with adhd and as a mom my best advice is to see a developmental specialist or pych. i know it is scary to think of medicating a child but if your child truely needs it and you get the correct meds and dose than your child will be able to be himself. he'd be able to focus and slow down and he will feel more in control and better. if your child does not need meds than the dr. can give the entire family tips on controling his behavior. he can learn how to self-regulate his own behavior.
if you have any questions please feel free to fm me and i'll do my best in helping.
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