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Diane
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I think I needa break...UPDATE!!!!!
I think I need a break from here and from TTC.
I went for bloodwork today for a PG test, but Im starting to spot. Not sure if it is because I stopped taking my progesterone suppositories, because Im so fed up. I dont want that phone call saying that your tests came out negative. It is so hard to be strong anymore, when every time it turns into a failure. It is taking a toll on DH too. He told me something this morning that made me feel lowere than dirt He told me that this is NOT fun anymore and I dont enjoy sex anymore because I know you are only doing this to have a baby. I dont even think he cares on whether we have a baby or not. He said he waould be happy either way, but I know I will NOT be happy if I cant have HIS child.
Im taking a break from here ladies.
Lots of baby dust to you all and thanks so much for all your courage and support.
Message edited 5/19/2005 3:11:32 PM.
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MrsJ
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Re: I think I needa break
Diane
I can relate to you completely. I'm sorry you are so burned out from this all. It really IS draining. Month after month of this obsession is NOT good. Take a month off - take 2 or 3 if you need it. You will feel SO much better. I am still temping but I pretty much decided to take this month off as far as obsessing. My doctor wants a "normal" cycle to start testing me next month so I figured just to go with the flow this month (I'm charting because I need to know when AF will be here so I can schedule my appts), but I'm not testing.
Deg G said the same thing - this month she is on the BCP so they are not trying and she said the amount of relief she feels is sooo nice.
It puts you in a MUCH better mood. Take this next month off and let DH know you are doing it - and let things get back to normal.
I just hope that your DH can understand that for some of us, TTC IS work... But it sounds like you BOTH need a break.
I hope you feel better
Kathy
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| Posted 5/19/05 9:50 AM |
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dm24angel
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Re: I think I needa break
OH NO! Hang in there sweetie.
I have another friend going through the SAME thing. She says Junes her last month and then is taking a break. So..what your feeling is perfectly normal!
I cant imagine how frustrated you are, but I know I was ready to give up after a few months, so you muct be going nuts with all the questions, no answers, and waiting.
Its so very hard, you have a ton if support here no matter what decision you make!
I think your DH may feel out of control too, they handle it differently. Im sure he wants a baby with you, he doesnt feel the emotional part NEARLY as hard as you do, only a women can feel the full effect of TTC. Allow him to support you and try to honestly express yourself and hopefully things will get better.
I dont know what else to say, in the end, its up to you what to do, but dont give up altogether....vent anytime!
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CookiePuss
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Re: I think I needa break
I'm so sorry. I wish there was something I could do to make you feel better. I can't imagine how hard this is for the two of you. It isn't such a bad idea to take a break and concentrate on you and DH. Maybe a nice romantic weekend together where you can just enjoy being with each other. Remember that we are always here for you! Lots of
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FeliciaDP
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Re: I think I needa break
Oh Diane, I truly feel for you ... since I cannot even begin to imagine what its been like for you and your DH throughout this process, I will not claim that "I know what you are going through" because I really don't. We all have in common the fact that we desparately want children but I haven't been through half of what you have been thus far. So really, all I can say is that I am so very sorry 
I did, however, see firsthand how hard TTC was for my brother and SIL. They went through much of the same things you and your DH are going through. I saw how it began to wear them down and take its toll. They spent nearly 10 years TTC before conceiving their beautiful son - and since I am very close to my SIL I knew how OFTEN during that timeframe they needed to take "breaks" from the process. My SIL told me in retrospect that it was NECESSARY for her own well being - their doctors even RECOMMENDED they do so. They truly just needed time to just get back to being "a couple in love" and not a couple TTC day in and day out.
That said, I still don't have any answers for you - Taking a break doesn't mean you are giving up - you are merely being true to yourself and your relationship by admitting that mentally and physically you are not able to do this right now. It is important that yoru DH is on board and if this is taking its toll on him as well, you are right to just take time for the two of you now. And then after a month (or two, or whatever) you can perhaps reevulate this process with newfound energy and optimism - since that is truly such an important part of TTC.
We're all here for you and will remain to be here for you when you are ready to come back! Until then, much love and positive thougts to you and your DH 
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Sharon
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Re: I think I needa break
I have no words of wisdom, only
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Donna
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Re: I think I needa break
Enjoy the time off with your DH, it might just be the best remedy for you two.
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CaidensMommy
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Re: I think I needa break
Hi...
I just wanted to say I'm sorry you're going through this!
And I wanted to add that I know a lot of people that had such a hard time getting PG that they just needed a break, and then WHAM they got PG as soon as they stopped TTC. I hope this happens for you!
Good luck!
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karacg
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Re: I think I needa break
I hope you are able to get back into the "couple" feeling -- drink some wine, relax, do what you wouldn't be able to do if you were pregnant. I hear SO many stories of people who TTC forever, and then it finally happens when they STOP trying.
Best of luck, enjoy each other....hope to see you on the "pregnant" board soon!!
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ckdk
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Re: I think I needa break
many to you! Hope everything works out for you and DH...
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computergirl
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Re: I think I needa break
No advice, just lots of sympathy and
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CaseyGirl
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Re: I think I needa break
i know this isnt the same in any way, but when my DH were house hunting we looked at like 200 houses....we decided to take a break for a while and later that week, our agent called us and said she found the house for us - which we now live in!
My point is, don't give up, try to stay positive, I have a feeling this is not the end of the road for you!!!
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juju
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Re: I think I needa break
Diane, I am so sorry you are frustrated with this whole process!! Do what is best for you. And always know that we (LIF) will always be here for you when your ready to ttc. AS for DH, he probably didn't meant what he said. He is probably just as frustrated.
What I sometimes do is not even tell my DH the days I am ovulating and enjoy the BD (DH has no clue it is a BD event) so that my DH won't feel pressured or stressed about it.
Stay positive and I will for some good results from your doctor.
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Diane
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Re: I think I needa break...UPDATE!!!!!
Well, my tests came back neg. as I thought.
DH called me and apologized. He said this hurts him very much, and it hurts him more because he sees the pain I feel when I get my period.
He does not want to stop TTC, and said that he wants the RE to be more aggressive. They are supposed to call me tomorrow and let me know. I think we are going to still do IUI but with hormone shots.
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princess99
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Re: I think I needa break...UPDATE!!!!!
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DebG
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Re: I think I needa break...UPDATE!!!!!
Do the hormone shots with the IUI...it great increases the success rate!!
Diane!
Please take some long hard hugs from me.
I know this process ****!s. I KNOW month after month of disappointment ****!s too.
Hang in their, try and keep your spirits up and know that I am here whenever you need me.
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FeliciaDP
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Re: I think I needa break...UPDATE!!!!!
Posted by Diane
Well, my tests came back neg. as I thought.
DH called me and apologized. He said this hurts him very much, and it hurts him more because he sees the pain I feel when I get my period.
He does not want to stop TTC, and said that he wants the RE to be more aggressive. They are supposed to call me tomorrow and let me know. I think we are going to still do IUI but with hormone shots.
I'm sorry about the test
But so glad you talked with your DH and he was able to express what he is feeling.. I'm sure that helps you feel a bit better. I think going to the RE and getting more aggressive is a good way to focus your energies into TTC as well.
Overall, I just wish you good luck and lots of prayers and postiive vibes for the coming months... remember no matter what we're always here, even if just to listen!
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MrsJ
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Re: I think I needa break...UPDATE!!!!!
Posted by Diane
Well, my tests came back neg. as I thought.
DH called me and apologized. He said this hurts him very much, and it hurts him more because he sees the pain I feel when I get my period.
He does not want to stop TTC, and said that he wants the RE to be more aggressive. They are supposed to call me tomorrow and let me know. I think we are going to still do IUI but with hormone shots.
Oh GOOD!!!! I'm so glad you and DH are OK now and working on things together!!
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CookiePuss
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Re: I think I needa break...UPDATE!!!!!
Posted by Diane
Well, my tests came back neg. as I thought.
DH called me and apologized. He said this hurts him very much, and it hurts him more because he sees the pain I feel when I get my period.
He does not want to stop TTC, and said that he wants the RE to be more aggressive. They are supposed to call me tomorrow and let me know. I think we are going to still do IUI but with hormone shots.
I am so glad to hear this!
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Donna
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Re: I think I needa break...UPDATE!!!!!
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Posted by Diane
Well, my tests came back neg. as I thought.
DH called me and apologized. He said this hurts him very much, and it hurts him more because he sees the pain I feel when I get my period.
He does not want to stop TTC, and said that he wants the RE to be more aggressive. They are supposed to call me tomorrow and let me know. I think we are going to still do IUI but with hormone shots.
I am so glad to hear this!
Me too!!! All the best to you and DH!
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Ambersmom
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Re: I think I needa break...UPDATE!!!!!
I'm so sorry Diane...if anyone deserves this, it's definitely you. You are one of the sweetest people on here
I'm praying hard for you that your prayers will be answered soon
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dm24angel
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Re: I think I needa break...UPDATE!!!!!
Posted by Diane
Well, my tests came back neg. as I thought.
DH called me and apologized. He said this hurts him very much, and it hurts him more because he sees the pain I feel when I get my period.
He does not want to stop TTC, and said that he wants the RE to be more aggressive. They are supposed to call me tomorrow and let me know. I think we are going to still do IUI but with hormone shots.
I know a lot of my friends who are TTC's husbands react similairly..Im glad he called you and told you that. I know its hard for you both. Stay strong, and happy as possible!!!
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bellarina
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Re: I think I needa break...UPDATE!!!!!
Diane
please keep hope. It will happen one day. I know it's unfair that those who want babies so badly have to wait. I guess it just makes us love them even more and cherish them. Best wishes and keep us posted!
Lora
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lvdolphins
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Re: I think I needa break...UPDATE!!!!!
Diane, keep strong.
I am not TTC yet but have read many of your posts between here and LIW. You are a very strong person and I admire that.
Keep your head up high. I will be TTC this summer and will probably most definitley be posting a lot more on here.
I am sending you TONS of BABYDUST!!!****
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LisaW
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Re: I think I needa break...UPDATE!!!!!
Diane, I am so sorry you are going through this...I know how tough it is.
If you have any questions on anything, I have probably been through it, so feel free to FM me anytime
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