I wish people would realize

How f'n lucky they are to get pregnant without trying. If you don't want an "oops" baby then take some precautions.

I really wish that some people could walk a mile in our shoes.

ETA: not that I wish IF on anyone, I just wish people would realize how lucky and blessed they are.

Message edited 7/2/2008 3:55:19 PM.

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I hear exactly what you're saying!

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ITA!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Who do you mean?

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i was thinking the same thing today. I was just told of another OOpps baby. The father of the baby is not in the picture and mom lost her job! Are your freakin kidding me? how does this happen?

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i def hear you 100% if just IF they could see how this all feels then they could see how lucky they are!

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Amen to that!

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AMEN

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I posted something like this not too long ago

It just drives me crazy!

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Ugh.....yeah!!!!!!!!!!

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I ABSOLUTELY AGREE!!!!!!

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I have lots to say but I do not want to start problems! I will say I completely agree!!!!

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I couldn't agree w/ you more!!!

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Posted by rose825

Posted by JennyPenny

Who do you mean?

seriously?

To the OP, your very right.

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I fully agree. . .just found out my cousin is preggo. She is only 19 and it was an accident. I am so dissapointed.

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I think every child is a blessing no matter how they entered the world regardless of if the pregnancy was planned or not.

Not all unplanned pregnancies are due to contraception failure. Some are due to carelessness and it can be very jarring to those of us who have had any level of IF issues to hear that a child was not welcome or viewed as a "mistake" or that they may be an "inconvenience."

I would not expect a (minor) teenager to understand the ramifications of having sex and getting PG the way a teenager over 17 (legal age of consent in NY) or young adult should. Then again, kids of today are a lot more sophisticated than I was as a teen. There are some parents, of any age, who accept the unplanned blessings, step up to the plate, and do the right thing whether placing the child up for adoption or raising the child themselves.

As Momma Goldi would say, and I have written here before, "you lay you pay." If you are responsible enough to have sex, then you are opening up yourself to the possibility of becoming a parent - even if you triple up on birth control. NOTHING is fool proof. Anyone who has spent any amount of time in a struggle to get PG would more than likely give their eye-teeth to get PG "by accident." I know I would have instead of a very unnatural process.

Just this Saturday, I had the pleasure of holding a 2 week old infant adopted by a friend of my SIL's who went through 18 rounds of various and unsuccessful fertility treatments. She had to go out of state to adopt this newborn. She told me that this child was the FOURTH child delivered by this woman that she GAVE AWAY and she had no children of her own whom she kept. Now MAYBE she was having children to be compensated as she was of limited means. But I tend to think not as she had her tubes tied. IMO, this was a fourth and final act of carelessness and this was a 25 year old mother. Regardless, I chose to view this situation as a gift - that this woman existed to make a responsible person a parent - my SIL's friend.

Im sorry to have rambled, but to ask why a person with IF issues would be frustrated with a blase attitude on pregnancy seems to lack sensitivity to me. I hope nobody is offended.

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I totally agree with you ladies!!!

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Totally agree!

Not meant to Hi-Jack this thread but I posted this poem on my blog while going through my IF journey. I forgot where I got it from. This is not meant to minimize mothers who didn’t have problems conceiving but to bring light to the many thoughts women (suffering from infertility) go through each day. It’s a pain that will never go away.

Thoughts on Becoming a Mother

There are women that become mothers without effort, without thought, without patience or loss and though they are good mothers and love their children, I know that I will be better.

I will be better not because of genetics, or money or that I have read more books but because I have struggled and toiled for this child.
I have longed and waited. I have cried and prayed.
I have endured and planned over and over again.

Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their dreams.
I will notice everything about my child.
I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover. I will marvel at this miracle every day for the rest of my life.

I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold and feed him and that I am not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another shot or cry tears of a broken dream. My dream will be crying for me.

I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child that my friends will not see.

Whether I parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads me to, I will not be careless with my love.

I will be a better mother for all that I have endured. I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain.

I know disillusionment as I have been betrayed by my own body. I have been tried by fire and h*ll many never face, yet given time, I stood tall.

I have prevailed.
I have succeeded.
I have won.

So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort. I see it, mourn it, and join them in theirs.

I listen.

And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely. I have learned the immense power of another hand holding tight to mine, of other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth when life is beyond hard. I have learned a compassion that only comes with walking in those shoes.

I have learned to appreciate life.

Yes I will be a wonderful mother

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